We will cal her ST she does a good job at her work but she is always negative and angry. She wants to be my friend and I just cannot handle people like that. She has been married 4 times (I wonder why?) She is a total *****, nobody likes being around her. Do I tell her in private...or just let it go?
2007-08-08 05:52:16 · 9 answers · asked by VILLAGE PEOPLE 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Let it go. You'll only create further problems. or tell the boss to talk to her about it. Its not your place.
2007-08-08 05:55:32 · answer #1 · answered by Mike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell her that you want to keep your relationship on a professional basis, which you find works better. Then avoid the personal stuff -- just tell her that you have work to do and walk away when she's talking about personal stuff or wants to have lunch, and stop asking her "how are things" or "how are you."
The biggest problem at work for most of us is that we spend more time in the work setting than we do at home, and we start making work the center of our lives. Women can be especially guilty of this -- we make our coworkers an extended family and friend network. (Let's face it, it's not usually the guys who circulate the Birthday cards, arrange the parties or buy the office cakes). If she's good at her job, that is probably the only thing that the boss cares about. If you have any interest in being helpful or a little friendly, you can mention that she's on the negative side in case she doesn't know it (HA) , and then let it go. She's only a co-worker, and doesn't need to be a friend. Your comment that nobody likes being around her can be dangerous to the group. If there's a lot of gossip and fighting, this could lead to warnings from Management in performance evaluations.
2007-08-08 13:17:49 · answer #2 · answered by Neonzeus 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I often wonder about the esteem of those, especially men, who go around calling women bitches...
Why don't you just leave her alone and stop judging her. Perhaps she has her reasons for being "miserable", "negative", and "angry. Maybe she acts the way she does because she has to put up with idiots like yourself and coworkers...
2007-08-08 13:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by gobraghomagh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know, I can't stand to be around people like that. Maybe you should have a little heart to heart with her and tell her to see a doctor for anxiety and depression. Tell her that you don't want to be her friend unless she gets a more positive out look on life, that she's just miserable to be around.
2007-08-08 12:58:09 · answer #4 · answered by Cheryl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be civil during work, but it would end there.
You are not responsible for her behaviour, that is her choice. You are not a therapist either. Take care of yourself and surround yourself with positive people.
If it gets really out of control, her boss will deal with it.
2007-08-08 13:01:59 · answer #5 · answered by Pacifica 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell her in private in a ver polite manor. Try, girlfriend you are the BIG B in this office, take a shower and go play with your dildo. Happy Co-working!
2007-08-08 13:34:46 · answer #6 · answered by I only love you when I drink 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What's the issue?
2007-08-08 15:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just be polite and professional, just because you work together does not mean you have to be buddies with her.
2007-08-08 12:56:23 · answer #8 · answered by Angela C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont tell her she' will get more crazy
2007-08-08 12:55:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋