Need 2 major life changes?

Question

I am coming here for positive advice and compassion only please... I deal with negative a lot and now I need strong people to help me through this. One problem is : work..and changes that always happen that aren't fair. and I am trying to get into what I really want to do in life....and get out of this work environment I have been in for too many years. I want to work for airport operations. I also love children and animals . I have impeccable customer service skills and love people from all backgrounds. I have a lot of experience working with people from different countries. I do not live near a major airport hub and know it would be a lot easier to get a job in that field if I did. I am looking at other jobs and just applied for one in a different field just to stay within the university where I work.

Wish me luck.

The next issue is a mentally controlling boyfriend of 2 years who I love and do not live with. It is SO HARD to let go.

Answer 1

Well, concerning the boyfriend issue think of it this way: It's only been two years. Some people have been married for 50+ years, do you see yourself with him for that long who mentally controlls you? Two years is not a long time. It will be hard but worthwile. For the job, good luck. I hope you find something you love. A great job will make your life much much easier. Why not start new with both? You'll probably meet great people at a new job and wish you were single.

Answer 2

I can't help you with the first problem except wish you loadsa luck! As for the second well I've been exactly where you are now and the best way to really get him off your back is to have another relationship. He'll give you all the old mind control tricks but hang in there and he'll get the message. Unfortunately if,like me you have a child involved you'll always have to see him which is a real pain. If not then try as hard as possible not to come into contact at all. That's the only way.......... :))

Answer 3

There is an organization called Al-Anon that helps people deal with controlling relatives, especially drinking relatives. There are meetings (free, or donate a dollar or two) near you. Call the number in the phone book, or call Alcoholics anonymous and they can tell you the Al-anon number. All the people I meet at those meetings are helpful and encoouraging. If your bf is a drinker, you MUST attend these meetings to find out how to live with him, whether sober or drunk.

Phone.

today.

Now.

And then go to the meetings. I go 3 times a week sometimes.