I'm not going to have one until after I'm married but I was wondering what a good age would be? I'm 19 now and don't plan on getting married till next year.
2007-08-08 05:28:41 · 21 answers · asked by Just me 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Whatever age it is when YOU (and your spouse) are financially and emotionally ready.
2007-08-08 06:16:34 · answer #1 · answered by Brian A 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally don't think it's a question of age but more a question of your life circumstances. You need to be ready for your life to change COMPLETELY. You are no longer #1 after you have a child. Baby comes first and they sure are cute but they're a TON of work. I wouldn't rush things at all. You have loads of time. Get married, spend time with your hubby, finish school, work, travel, have fun. There will be loads of time later for family life. Make sure you're ready for the commitment because it's a life-time one. You start worrying about them the moment you find out you're pregnant and you never stop worrying about them I gather. The only thing I might say about timing is... don't wait too long because fertility does decline after age 35 and so it's harder to get pregnant after that age (but obviously not impossible). Also, as others have said, the older you are the more the chances of genetic problems with baby and the more the chance of pregnancy complications (more of an issue in your 30s, if you've never had a child). Good luck on your journey, you'll know when the time is right, don't rush it!
2007-08-08 12:48:52 · answer #2 · answered by spiffy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always wanted to be a young mum(have my first at maybe 23/24) and everytime I would see slightly older women with babies/toddlers, I'd think of them as being too self absorped(with career or whatever else) but I've been babysitting kids since I was 14 and it wasn't until recently that I really thought about what the reality of having children is. I want to be able to travel the world( am such a dreamer :o), establish my career and do things without feeling like I missed out..and also really get to know and spend time with my husband(whom ever that's going to be! :o) but most importantly get to know myself as well. Kids are cute and cuddly but being a "nanny", sometimes when I leave the homes of the people I work for, I think "wow..I wonder what the rest of their(the parents) day will be like?" why because its a difficult job and ofcourse children are a joy to be around but its not always that way. Its defiantely a life time commitment and job. I just turned 20 so am looking forward to the life ahead of me. As for kids, am not going to speculate much but a family is for sure in my future, and I want a big one too,just not any time soon. Good luck to all otherwise..ciao! :)
2007-08-08 15:06:35 · answer #3 · answered by Cilantro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first at 22 and my second at 28 (same father, my husband of now 12 years). I deffinately agree that pregnancy is easier at a younger age. I wouldn't recommend before 20 tho. Also we had our 1st just before our first anniversary (4 days). It would have been nice to wait for a couple years but the birth control pill failed us.
Anyway you'll know when your ready. Just wait until your married. Raising kids is hard even with a supportive spouse. I couldn't imagine how hard it would be on my own.
2007-08-08 12:44:57 · answer #4 · answered by Heather R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've always heard that it's best to wait for about 2 yrs after you're married, that way you know for sure that you want to. I would also wait until you are out of college.... if you are going or are in it. So i think that 22 is a good age for YOU if you think you are ready.... it all depends on the person of course.
2007-08-08 12:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by crazyblondgrl09 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good idea to wait until you've had some experiences in your life without children, so that you don't feel you've missed out on anything. Like travelling with your husband, living with him more carelessly for a while. But you shouldn't start too old, so I'd say that 25 is a good age to have babies. Plus you ahve to be mature enough and responsible yourself.
2007-08-08 12:37:39 · answer #6 · answered by cpinatsi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think 22 is a perfect age for several reasons. You would have been able to drink for a year, Your still young, etc. I had my daughter 2 months after i turned 19. For myself, that was the perfect age. I think it depends on where you are in life and what you want. =)
2007-08-08 12:35:45 · answer #7 · answered by Chelsea ツ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
27
2007-08-08 12:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by falon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you plan on going to college or doing any kind of educational endevour to further yourself, wait until you've finished with that. Going to school and having a child is extremely difficult.
The main thing to consider is figuring out what you'd do with a baby if you had one- meaning how will you afford daycare if needed. Babies cost a lot in time and energy as well as monetarily.
2007-08-08 12:40:58 · answer #9 · answered by Suburban Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a good age is 26. Because when your 25 you may finishing up with your degree. Your career should be take off so when you turn 26 you'll have a year 4 progress.
2007-08-08 12:36:40 · answer #10 · answered by smiley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't say its an age thing. It depends on many things. Such as do you have the money to take care of a child. Have you grown enough as a person to give your life away to someone else. Children take a lot of time and resources. Good luck when your ready
2007-08-08 12:33:20 · answer #11 · answered by Metalhead 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋