Parents who think their children are perfect?

Question

Ok, I'm a parent of 6, I love my kids dearly, and I think they're basically great kids, and very well behaved.
But I also realise that they're kids, and all kids have their moments, none of them are ever perfect, and I personally wouldn't want mine to be!
So why do some parents consistantly turn a blind eye to their children's faults? Even if they just saw their child do something with their own eyes, they'll deny it. Has anyone else noticed this?

Answer 1

Yep- I have a family across the street like that. It is never their child's fault it is someone else's fault.

The children lie, steal, break other people's property, use the hose of a family that is not home- you name it!!! Still, even with witnesses, compaints, etc. the children are never at fault.

I don't know if it is because the mom was 14 and dad 15 when they started to have kids- or what. I see this in families who are older and have children as well.

If my son does something wrong- he is in it deep with us. DEEP! He knows it too. It doesn't often happen though because he knows the rules and the consequences are firm.

I don't understand.

I have to say though- I am a teacher and last year a boy I had years ago was in trouble with the Law. His mom called to see if I could give a personal account of how he is, etc. A positive account. My Principal and I refused- we told her this was going to happen years ago and she didn't listen. Now, she is trying to make excuses for him as a teen in trouble with the Law. Some people never learn!

Answer 2

Yes, I have. Like you, I love my kids more than anything but they are far from perfect and I'll be the first to admit it. My neighbor's little girl is a beast and very hard to be around and they laugh and think every horrid thing she does is cute. It drives me crazy. Even my 3 year old has asked me, "Why was Amber allowed to act like that?" I think it's pretty bad when other kids notice when another child is misbehaving. I really don't know why some parents do this. Maybe they just don't want to admit their kid isn't perfect because it would be admitting they aren't a perfect parent.

Answer 3

I don't get that attitude either. I have a neighbor who is like this and the kid is a monster. The dad never thinks his kid does anything wrong,so, whenever there is a squabble with his son and any of the other kids, he blames it all on the other kids, as opposed to asking for the full story first. I know better than to assume my kid is totally innocent and I make them take some responsibility for the issues/squabbles. This kid's dad always fights his battle for him. As a result, none of the neighborhood kids will play with him anymore and the dad still thinks it's everyone else's fault. I almost feel sorry for the little brat.

Answer 4

As a parent myself, I think parents don't want to admit they "Failed". All kids get into mischief, this is totally normal. But, when a parent is blind eyed to all the activity, they are in denial. I think this is why kids are "out of control" across the world. Discipline is almost non-existent, and when you do, especially in public people give you the look, well I give them the look too, it says MIND YOUR OWN BEES WAX. They usually get the hint quickly and walk away.
I have a relative that cannot accept that her kids are brats, I guess she will realize this when her 22 year old son goes to jail for 3 months for theft, A habit she overlooked for years.....I guess what comes around, goes around and bites you in the bum, lol

Answer 5

I am one of those parents with kids (boys) who are just that BOYS LOL They are not out of control but get up to mischief. I don't turn ablind eye andin fac will tell stories of what they have been up too. The funniest thing is friends who cluck and nod and think that thier kids will never do it until I get a phone call with their kids antics , which sometimes are worse than mine. It;s not until you really talk to ither kids that you realise that your kids arn't so unique.

My children do suffer consequences and usually on the spot if I happen to see it.

P/S I love this saying
"Every child is perfect, and every parent thinks so"

Answer 6

I agree!!! My husband and I agree that our daughter is wonderful and smart like all other parent's feel about their kids but we don't flaunt it when she does something great. She's 3. We let her be a kid. I just found out that my cousin and his wife had their 2 year old take an IQ test and she tested genius. Are you kidding me?!?! She's 2! Now she's going to have that stigma to live up to. Gimme a break! I can't stand that stuff. Let kids be kids and have fun! I sometimes wish I was still a kid!! Great question/observation!!

Answer 7

I think it is really sad when this happens. These unfortunate kids grow up believing they can do no wrong, so when bad things befall them, they are always the victims. Their parents are doing them no favors by not teaching them the proper way to behave when they are young.

I think this "my kid is perfect" attitude stems from people who live vicariously through their kids. Since their self esteem is completely wrapped up in their kids acheievements, naturally, the kid must always be right or the fragile reality they have set up crumbles all around them.

You also get people who are lazy parents. It is so much easier to believe your child never misbehaves than to punish them.

Answer 8

It's 1000 times harder to raise a disciplined child that's why. Too many parents these days, just don't care enough to "man-up" and raise their children. To many "I want a baby" types. Just like "I want a puppy". They don't stay cute little darlings for long, and soon parents realize that they have to put actual effort into raising children. You should be required to have a license to have a child. At least then you would have to have some kind of qualifications beforehand!

Answer 9

Oh YEAH. I've seen TONS of this. I taught public school and when one of my students was failing (after offering him opportunities to redo EVERY assignment that was missing or incomplete AND after meeting with parents repeatedly), they told me that when they saw that he looked worried as they opened his report card, they didn't want to hurt his feelings. So they told him his report card was EXCELLENT. It was all Fs. They told him it was a VERY GOOD REPORT CARD SO THAT THEY WOULDN'T HURT HIS FEELINGS!! Hellllooooo? Lost him from then on...why WOULD he try? Parents may think they are protecting their children by doing such things, but people who are educated about child development (NOT TO MENTION THOSE WHO HAVE COMMON SENSE) think they are idiots.

Answer 10

no one wants to admit that their kid isnt the best kid :D