She's shy, timid. She acts self-conscious, and does not express herself very well...in other words, socially awkward.
First time I met her at a party she had just stood up some other guy. When I left, not expecting anything she started crying. She then found my phone number and latched on, convincing me to try a long distance "relationship."
A few months later she basically changed her personality towards me and acted like a ***** for no good reason, telling me she's now with someone else. She kinda warned me about this before because she said she broke up with her first real BF of 2 yrs for no real reason and didn't want to hurt me...but did so anyways.
She also has a poor relationship with her father (barely any communication)
Now, at first when she hurt me (yeah, she used to be sweet and nice...no more) I was feeling like it was my fault and I started to feel insecure myself...but now I'm starting to think that I tried my best and it was mainly her who doomed it. (i'm inexp)
2007-08-08 05:20:38 · 9 answers · asked by etudiant87 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You said "Act's self conscious". You aren't convinced of that. She's obviously not a social misfit because 1. she was at a party. 2. she had a date that she stood up. 3. she plays the "game" well.
"When I left, not expecting anything, she started crying".... GAME!!!!!!!!!!! That is a sympathy ploy. It makes you think she needs a knight in shining armor. You fell for it.
You were safe because it was a long distance relationship. She could keep playing her game and you wouldn't have a clue about it. I wonder how many other guys she had on the line!!!
"A few months later she basically changed her personality"
No... that was her true personality. That sweet, shy, awkward person never existed. That was what she wanted you to see, not who she was.
She didn't "Kinda warn you", she gave you red flags and you didn't pay heed to them.
A lot of men fall for the "poor thing" syndrome thinking the girl is sincere. I'm here to tell you, there are playa's out there in skirts!!!
You did do the best you could. You took this girl for her word and she lied and used you. Don't beat yourself up over what SHE did. You're obviously a good guy, don't let her change you.
Next time, forget the long distant relationship and find a girl you can TRULY believe in.
2007-08-08 05:39:36 · answer #1 · answered by MamaB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like a pattern with her and i dont think it has anything to do with being shy or timid. she has done this same type of thing in the past by what you had said and the very fist time you met her she had just stood someone else up, all that should tell you something.
2007-08-08 05:24:56 · answer #2 · answered by mom of 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shes the problem not you, she needs to give her head a shake and quit hurting others, she obviously has more going an than meets the eye.
2007-08-08 05:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by Crystal D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I had been you I could go, He turns out to have issues. If you express regret that can upload to his caught upness if you recognize what i imply. Plus he is a flirt! that is in no way a well signal.
2016-09-05 12:00:19 · answer #4 · answered by debbra 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she has unrealistic expectations on what a relationship is and the minute something isn't perfect she gives up on it.
2007-08-08 05:27:46 · answer #5 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a game she plays and unfortunately you are not the only one that participated. HELL she might be bipolar.
2007-08-08 05:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by dallmademe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try and forget about her :0) She sounds psyco!!
2007-08-08 05:24:00 · answer #7 · answered by *me* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe because your much happier than she is
2007-08-08 05:23:56 · answer #8 · answered by Latasha S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why?
2007-08-08 05:23:56 · answer #9 · answered by rajesh p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋