Suppose your soon-to-be man is of another or none faith at all, would you make him convert to your religion ?

Question

Like, suppose you're in love with a man / woman, whatever suits you, and he/she's perfect. Well as close as you can get to perfection, but he or she denounces the existence of god (like i do). Would you put him or her for the choice of either conversion or leaving ? And suppose he or she wants to get married (if you asked) but not for the Church, would you cancel the whole thing ? I'm just curious to see your answers...

It doesn't matter to me, as I said, I don't believe in god, but I believe in the beauty of nature and how it all works. That said, I wouldn't want her to leave her belief (if ever she comes along) as long as she doesn't force it on me or mocks me about it. Marrying for the church on the other hand i will not do.

If ever, that'd be 'talk to her', i'm not gay...

Answer 1

My husband is and always has been athiest. I knew that when I married him. Why would I ask him to change? If I didn't like it, then I shouldn't have married him.

Answer 2

I find diversity to be a wonderful thing, and I would never expect anyone to change their beliefs to match mine.

That said, as an atheist, I have never met, in the actual world, another atheist. With the exception of my kids, of course.

What that means is that anyone I have ever dated has been Christian, Muslim, Wiccan, Buddhist, etc. In all instances we got along just fine and there was no rift between us.

I don't think religion is a primary factor for most people. In all honesty, how many times do you get into a discussion of beliefs anywhere other than a religious forum? In my case, that answer is none. It just doesn't seem to happen.

If I were asked to marry someone of different beliefs, I would do so in a heartbeat if I loved that person. If that person wanted to marry in a church, I'd do it because to me it is only a building. I can't see the harm in bending a little to honor their wishes.

Answer 3

God never had clear choices of "take it or leave it" to His people, especially if he/she a good person. Faith can not be changed/converted immediately as you wanted his to be. It takes time and lots of encouragement.
Would you give him a little of more time, say 6 months or a year, for him to think over it before canceling the whole thing? Show him how happy you are if he agrees to get married in front of your God.
If time and your happiness can not make him change his mind (at least for your own sake), I don't think you would be happy with the marriage.
Good bless your wish.

Answer 4

For me to marry anyone they would have to be Muslim. Required by religion, and just as a personal choice I'd want the father of my children to believe the same way as me and I'd want my children to be raised as Muslims.

Marriage #1 of 7 1/2 years ended with arguments and conflicts due to different of religions.

Marriage #2 of 3 months ended because of cultural differences.

So my advice is to marry someone who believes the same or very close to your own beliefs and from within the same culture lol.

Marriage # 3 will never happen.

Answer 5

"Forcing" someone to convert isn't really true conversion, its just forcing someone to give lip service to the religion.

Personally, I've found that if you closely question any couple about their religious beliefs you will find quite a few differences of opinion between them, even if they claim to be of the same religion.

Trying to force a conversion is kind of silly. However, it would be a good idea to discuss how you would handle certain situations in which your religious differences could have an effect. This is especially true when it comes to how children will be raised and taught.

Answer 6

i dont thnk i coulf first off love someone who didnt believe in God nor marry someone who didnt.
im a christian, therefore God comes first in my life. i know that i try my best to follow God and if my fiance or whatever didnt, that woudl cause a who lot of conflicts. and, dang i cant remeber the title, there is a book that logically proves that God is real. havent u ever heard of all the atheists that try to prove that God isnt real turned to christianity? where do u thnk we came from? monkeys, pssh. and where did the monkeys come from?
there really does have to be a Being out there. it just makes sense.
its funny tho, u said u were a slacker in another question, i wonder if that has to do with y u dont believe in God. well, watever the reason, imma still pray for you.

Answer 7

Hubby was an athiest when we married, me a Lutheran. Didn't push or shove, just went to church without him. 10 years later when babies came along, told him he was going to church, because we were going as a family. He didn't even have to say the liturgy or sing the hymns. I didn't even want him to if he didn't believe. Couple years down the road.... he's following the liturgy and the hymns. 3 years ago... was baptized. Totally his choice. I did no pushing, no prodding, no preaching.... my only request was that he stand when it was time to stand and sit when it was time to sit. The rest was all between him and God!

Answer 8

I would not "make" him convert to my faith, a forced conversion is no conversion at all.

I also could not marry a person who did not share my faith, I have seen it as a source of marital conflict too many times.

Answer 9

I would not make him convert. However, I could not marry someone that insisted on raising our children in a specific religion. They would need to be able to find their own religion.

Luckily, I'm marrying an agnostic. I don't think that I could have a serious relationship with someone who was very religious, because I am very not. Religion is a huge deal in a relationship.

Answer 10

At a younger age it probably would not have mattered. At least at the time.
At this stage in my life I would never consider marrying a non-believer. As soon as I found out, I would break off the relationship.

Answer 11

I did marry someone of another "faith". I don't agree with his lack of a belief system but I don't pressure him to believe the way I do because it wouldn't do any good.