i'm getting so nervous. i backed out last night. i know he wont pressure me or make me do anything i don't want. he's a really good guy. but i always back out, with every guy i've came closer to doing anything sexually with. how can i get over this?
2007-08-08 05:01:23 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think i get to nervous b/c of my real mom and not being able to take care of me or any of my brothers. but even if i did get pregnant he WOULD be there.
2007-08-08 05:04:44 · update #1
go for a w a n k.
2007-08-08 05:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, perhaps the only thing to do is get closer to the person emotionally before you decide to have sex. Intimacy is a big deal, and you shouldn't push yourself to do something you're not completely comfortable with. If you are truly in love and trust this person not to hurt you, you won't have a problem. The way to get there? Talk to him about how you feel. Perhaps you can arrive at a good place together.
2007-08-08 05:10:36 · answer #2 · answered by ChaosDuchess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well youll never truly get over your nervousness until you can really find someone to be comfortable with. sex is a really passionate thing. you sound young, so i think youre doing the right thing by not having sex just yet.
because teenagers are so fickle and experimental, it is advised to stay clear of sex until you are about 18, 19 years old and know what you want. even then, find someone that makes you feel truly comfortable, where you dont feel nervous to express your love for that other person.
good luck!!
2007-08-08 05:06:06 · answer #3 · answered by arizonacat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not ready! If trust is an issue then you already have shot yourself in the foot. There is also this really cool thing called birth control that may give you peace of mind. First and foremost make sure you really really really really want to and maybe factor love in to the equation, it seems to work for the longer term relationships.
2007-08-08 05:08:37 · answer #4 · answered by want2flybye 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you want something more than just a bf for you to get close. Dont worry about it when you meet the truly right guy you will know. Idea is to get married first any way. lol. But yeah go easy on your self. If the guy you are with does not understand than he is not right for you.
2007-08-08 05:05:57 · answer #5 · answered by rani 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you find a loving a supportive partner who will wait for you no matter what. You will know. its normal to be nervous. you just haven't found that right guy and there is nothing wrong with that. Take as much time as you need.
2007-08-08 05:23:48 · answer #6 · answered by JillardG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on some birth control pills. It sounds like you have more of a fear of getting pregnant rather than a fear of intimacy. Knowing you won't get pregnant will help you enjoy the moment. Hope this helps.
2007-08-08 05:06:56 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to make yourself get over it. Do it when you feel ready and the time is right.....don't pressure yourself! I'm sure you are young....you have nothing to worry about.
2007-08-08 05:05:38 · answer #8 · answered by U1S2K3O4 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you keep backing out, then it's just not the right time. Accept that, wait awhile and then see how you feel.
2007-08-08 05:04:39 · answer #9 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself "How Close Am I To Hem?" Do I really want to be with hem and give myself to hem only? If it means anything to you, let it mean something to you and see if things get better.
2007-08-08 05:13:07 · answer #10 · answered by pedebeed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just take your time, if he loves you he'll be patient, and try to be a little more intimate with him every time you see him so you feel more comfortable
2007-08-08 05:06:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋