Why do you think you can judge a single mom?

Question

Theres all these people who sit around passing judgement on single moms, and I dont get it. Just because you do it the "right" way, what gives you any right to judge someone else?
Some of us dont chose to be single parents... I was with a sweet guy who I thought was a good person. I got pregnant, (not planned) and he ran away like a coward....
And you people who judge us single moms, do you have any idea how hard it is? Any idea how rewarding it is? Or any idea how strong it makes you??

I personally think that Im doing a damn good job- being a single mom....My son has made me a more loving, caring, comapssionate, strong person.... I dont know if I would have ever become this person if I wasnt a single mom...
And it makes me so mad for people to judge me, because they have no idea what its like!
I just wanted to see what other people thought on this,....

Thank you all for your positive comments... I totally appreciate it! I needed to see something positive! =)

My mom was a single mom to me, all of my life... my dad left when I was a month old & we havent seen him since.... I recenttly met my 1/2 sister ( my dads kid) and after hearing some of the stuff our dad tells her Im GLAD I was raised by a single mom!
While I wish my son knew his dad, I cant change that- His dad left on his own...... I know that my son will grow up to be a strong, respective man... I doubt his father could teach him THAT! =)

Answer 1

More Power to You then!! I dont get why anyone would judge you, i personally admire the strength of single moms who do a good job..I am pregnant for the 1st time & am getting married, & i KNOW it's going to be hard, i cant even begin to imagine if i was on my own, I really Wish the best for you & all single Moms!! God Bless You!!

Answer 2

I am afraid to say that no matter what you do you are judged by some people. These people think that they are better than everyone. I am judged because I had a child at 16 and I am still judged as a child because of it even though I am an adult now. It will never stop until some people learn that they are never better than anyone else. My sister was a single parent for a long time and I loved her for it. She may not have done everything right but she took great care of her children. Its all about your kids and what is right for your family who cares about anything else. Let them say it and let them live in glass houses.

Answer 3

It takes a lot to be a single parent, and since they have never been there, then they are ignorant on the subject. These are the ones who do pass judgement. They do not understand the things you listed, but what they do not realize is that the same thing can still happen to them. Then they will see how hard it is and how strong a woman can be. You never know how strong you really are until you are a single parent, and when others understand, they are so proud that you are doing it alone, and they are astonished that you can do it. I was a single mom even when I was married, he did absolutely nothing, so I have known for years what it takes and how it takes to do it.

Answer 4

With the divorce rate as high as it is, I would assume single moms out rank married ones. Me and my fiance never even really believed in marriage. We just don't think a commitment is in a piece of paper but we agreed we would when we got pregnant so here we are. My mom became a single mom when I was 6 and my brother was 8. It was rough for a while but it taught me and my brother a lot about respect for making it on your own. Keep your chin up and don't worry about ignorant people. Your kids will see how strong you are and learn from it.

Answer 5

I have a friend who is a single mother (pretty much the same thing that happened to you). She is one of the strongest people in the world. She has an extremely difficult job, too - but still manages to be a great mother to her little girl. She has so much to deal with, day after day - but still manages to always be there for her daughter. She is always so kind, so incredibly kind to EVERYONE, even though she always has so much to do. She really is an amazing person, and I couldn't respect or love her more.

Answer 6

Some of us DON'T judge.
I know how hard it is. I did it for a year as my husband and I got therapy and separated. We have a son with autism and the fighting was awful for him and for us. We are now married for 14 years- that was over 9 years ago- and are better than ever.

Single parenting happens- even married people split.
Just ignore the comments, it is fraught with ignorance.

Answer 7

I don't think we can judge a single mom or single dad no more than we can judge a pro-abortion or pro-choicer.

But I do find it interesting that right after you ask this question, you spend the rest of your question judging your baby's father and calling him names. That what I call ironic. If you made the choice to be a single mother be proud, but don't turn around and judge those who didn't agree with your decision.

Well I'm sure you won't like my answer, but its just my honest opinion.

Answer 8

hi i just found out 2 weeks ago that i am pregnant i am nearly 8 weeks now i was living in turkey with my boyfriend and when i told him i was preg he ran like a scared little boy, im not saying i hate him or anythink but why should he be living it up in turkey pulling new women while he runs an i get left to pick up the pieces, dont get me wrong at first i was scared but the more he doesnt want to no the more protective i feel towards my baby and i have fell in love with my baby and i havent even met he/she yet!!!! just hope he has made the right decision cuz i will never stop him seeing our baby but if he doesnt he will miss out on his first child and thats his choice. you have made me feel so much better when i read about how your son has give you so much happiness and made you stronger thankyou so much you have given me hope x

Answer 9

Those people obviously should walk a day in the shoes of a single parent.

Unfortunately there are some single moms that are just in it for the welfare checks and sadly, they give all single moms a bad name.

I am no one to judge. Good luck.

Answer 10

You are the victim of an Idiot and a coward.
Well people are judgmental because there are so many types of birth control -BUT people who stand there and judge you now need to get a life instead of attempting to build up there own ego by stepping on yours.
You are taking of your child and obviously love it. You are doing all the right things right NOW Tell the self righteous "angels" to "take a hike "