she had an affair at 45 with a 25 yr. old friend of you brothers hwo worked for your father. this man smokes pot and she claimed to have left you father b/c he drank too much - even though you never sae that growing up. she convinced you to blame you father and moved you in at high school with this man. she never claims to be in a relationship-just business partners that live together. She used to be religious then had ana ffair stopped attending church and got breast implants. can you respect her?
2007-08-08 04:49:41 · 10 answers · asked by girl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yeah sure...when pigs grow wings and fly.
2007-08-08 04:53:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she is your mother then you shouls alway respect her but that doesnt mean that you always have to agree with her. You mom is problaby looking for younger men so she feels youger and more beautifull. You should always respect her. Let her know thta you are not on the same page as her and tell her what is it that you really feel . Sit her down and thell her want is it that really bothers you. Try talking more with you father and tell him. I bet that is is just a phase and that she will soon be over this. When she is that is the time that she will need you more ten ever. Stay by her side but let her know that whjat shje is doing is bad.
2007-08-08 11:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by cholia 4 life 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately that doesn't remove her from being your mom, and as a smart person you are to realize all this about her, most adults make big mistakes and I think her love life and relationship concept is very confused, and she is not seeing the truth of what is going on around her. I would try to get closer to her and love her a bit more. Maybe she needs to go back to church and find herself again, only someone so close to her like you can achieve that.
2007-08-08 11:56:15 · answer #3 · answered by Mary Laurita 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she went from one bad marriage to another bad relationship, only this time - she picked a younger man because it makes her feel better - it's called mid-life crisis. I
I would suggest that you focus your energies on improving yourself and getting the best education you can get so that when you get older you will be able to take care of yourself no matter what is going on in your life.
We all make bad choices - forgive your mother and continue to love her - focus on what is good about her and make sure you tell her often what you admire about her.
Good luck.
2007-08-08 12:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Stefka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing about family is no matter,what happens u need to love them and stick up for them.ur mom till 45 was good.so she is having an affair and is lying to u about this guy.u need to talk to ur mom about this -a long talk
i know it feels sick going thru this thing.just promise ur self that u would never get into sucha situation.if she disgusts u go live with ur father.
just tell ur mom whatever is there in ur mind and how u feel about her doing all this stuff,that would bring out the truth outright.
it sounds to me like ur mom has lost her identity and personality totally.
u need to respect her for the sake of good 45 yrs
2007-08-08 12:03:34 · answer #5 · answered by della 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
children should think positive, and should not overthink about the affairs of her mother as this will be of no use, your mother will not listen to you. It is a natural phenomena that sancuty of daughter and mother relations should be respectful, as giving respect to parents always paid in good term by god. so pray to god to let your mother come out of this casual affairs. Its sad that you are loosing motherly and fatherly affection due to their affairs. Be calm and be attentive to your career, I mean your studies, your other develoment. Also take care of parents i n whatever best way you can, god will surely gives you courage for this. such family fluctuations are always temporary and will be off soon. You should think about your career only, be happy, be indulgeinto some creative things so that you should not think about this more than required. It is good for your mental peace and health.
Promise me to keep yourself happy, busy.
2007-08-08 12:01:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, respect her as a mother. She brought you into the world and deserves your respect for that. Pray for her and let her know how ashamed you feel about her bad behavior. One day soon she will see reason and change for the better. Don't give up on her.
2007-08-08 12:06:07 · answer #7 · answered by Franked 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we can't control what our parents do. both of my sisters are well over 40 and live with men in their 20's... personally, it isn't something i would do, to each his or her own.
i think that if you and your mother have a good relationship and you care for her, then accept her at face value if you can.
she might be making some mistakes, hon, but we all make them! ...even moms.
take care of you ok?
2007-08-08 12:01:09 · answer #8 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always need to respect your parents, but that doesn't mean you can't distance yourself from her. However, she obviously did a bad thing, and you need to tell her that.
2007-08-08 11:55:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no. but learn from her mistakes
2007-08-08 12:38:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋