24 yr old child, living in my home. will you give them a certain time to be in the house during the week?

Answer 1

I think the whole issue here is "24 year old child."

Iam 24, married for 4 years and have a 6 month old son. Iam young, but NOT a child.

Why is your 24 year old living at home, and why does your 24 year old need your control?

Certainly there are rules when you live in any house that isnt your own... but this whole situation smells bad.

Answer 2

Although 24 yo is not considered a child, it doesn't mean that this young man can use your home as a hotel. If it doesn't bother you that he comes in and out at any time that he wants then that's up to you. However, if you are worried that something might happen to him then just express that to him and let him know that you don't want to be on top of him but to have consideration and call to say "I'll be late" or something. If he doesn't have any consideration then I would set some rules... after all, it is your house and you shouldn't feel stressed out.

I was living with my parents until 23 but I was helping with rent, bills and chores around the house. If I was going out and I knew I was coming home late, I would let my parents know. My mom said to me once that she felt like she was living with a roommate.

Answer 3

It's your house and you make the rules. If your son/daughter wants to live without rules then they need to move out.

And I don't see anything wrong with a 24 year old living at home as long as there are reasons for it. LIke they are still going to college and they have a job. I didn't live at home that long but my parents helped me out for a while even after I moved out. It's like my dad said...its hard to people to get up on their feet and taking some help never hurt anybody.

Answer 4

Wow sounds like you have a mooch. I would lay down some serious laws. Rent is due by the first of the month, you have to have a job to live here and you better be working on getting a place of your own. 24 is an adult, even if they went to college they should be done by 22. If they are pursuing a masters degree let them do that on their own time and in their own house. I realize this is a western belief though, in some cultures the cost of living is so high that young adults stay with their families until they get married. So if that is the case, then some rules for the house, if you don't have job you better be looking for one and get one. No tv, computer, video games or anything until you have. Curfew is 11pm, if you don't like it, move. The door will be locked at that time. Food is on your own, buy it and label your name on it.

Really though it sounds like you are letting your adult child walk all over you. Stand up unless you want them their until they are in their 30's or worse. It's like the baby bird, momma doesn't let them stay in the nest forever. They have to learn the skills to fly.

Answer 5

I have been living at home with my parents for almost ten years now. When I used to go out with my friends, I gave my parents the respect they deserved and would let them know where I was going and when I would be home. If your child respects you, they will give you the same courtesy.

Now I have a three year old and we live in the same house as my parents. However, the roles are reversed now. I pay most of the bills and do alot of taking care of my parents.

When they go somewhere, they will usually let me know where they are going and when they are going to be home. We respect each other and have a wonderful living situation because of it.

Answer 6

First off for the people saying this child is not one needs to look at what makes you an adult. Age is not what makes you an adult by no means. An adult is someone who can provide for themselves and not have to depend on mommy. Now for the question, I think that if you have to get up in the morning and your CHILD is coming home waking you up all hours of the night than he/she definitely needs a time to be home that is reasonable, and he/she should respect that considering he/she is living in your house. If he/she chooses not to respect that than you need to put your foot down and tell the child that he/she needs to get a job and get out since he/she does not want to respect you and follow the rules of the house, than they need to get their own house and have rules of their own.Now on the other hand if you are not getting disturbed when your child is coming home and your not up worrying about them then I think you just need to let it be, and of course make them pay rent every month, unless this is an excuse to get them to want to move out, then setting a time is perfect he/she wont live like that for long. Good luck, hope I helped.

Answer 7

Okay basically what you'll be saying is awww you're my 24 year old baby. continue to mooch off of mommy, and let me take care of you, pumpkin, BUT when you go out, BE YOUR AS* HOME BY TEN! okay pumpkin.

If you let hime get away with living with you this long then thats kinda your fault. You know what comes with being 24, and you know even more about what come with being 24 and living at home with mom. You have to be fair about this, and even though your 24-year old may act like a child, he's not. He's just an immature adult. Why is he that way...

Answer 8

My uncle was a 50 year old child living in his mother's home. Once his mother passed, he had a stroke and is now living he rest of his life in a nursing home, and hardly anyone visits him.

24 year old child who hasnt left the nest needs to be pushed out. Strict rules and curfews will help that.

Answer 9

My parents thing was "their house their rules." This meant if they said the doors locked at 12 and I wasn't there I was finding myself a place to stay that night. Why should they have to have their sleep interrupted by their "children" coming in and out at all hours of the night.
My brother and I respected our parents and grew up fast because of their rules. I was married and had an apartment at 18, my brother waited till he was 19 to move out but he moved right into his first house (he was able to save up the down payment by living with my parents an extra year).

Answer 10

Hey my son is living at home! Also he can for as long as he wants. But like you I don't want him out all hours of the night, not knowing where in the hell he's at and who with. Because I worry not because I'm a control freak! He's getting ready to get a job and wants to stay at home til he saves up enough for a down payment on a home. Which is just fine with me. I love him so much and dread the day that he moves out for good!