i have this niece of mine she is 11 and i'm 14. every time is makes rude comments about me. she puts me down all the time. she says she hates me on my face. she doesn't respect me as her aunt. i argue with her all the time about something realy small. pple call me a baby cuz i'm arguing with an 11 yr old. .how do i let things like that go without hurting her?
2007-08-08 04:37:43 · 6 answers · asked by gabriel g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
when they say they hate me they REALY mean it. realy. when i hurt my niece by mistate she went crying to her mom saying "I hate her she makes my life miserable." it deeply hurt me.
2007-08-08 05:12:03 · update #1
Don't argue with her. Walk out of the room when she starts in. If she follows you go in the bathroom or where your mom is. You are her aunt but, you are close in age so it is normal to be fighting all the time. She will grow out of it and hopefully you will be friends later on.
2007-08-08 04:45:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The two of you are really close in age. I'm guessing that she's jealous of you because she's ready to be a teenager with privileges that you have. Think back to when you were 11. Didn't you want to be older and have more privileges? The next time she gets on you, try letting her calm down and then asking her if she'd like to do make-overs with you. It's amazing how close girls can get when they help each other look prettier. Or ask her to watch a special DVD with you-- anything that would show her that you don't think of her as a little kid. Good luck.
2007-08-08 14:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe your neice is trying to get your attention, likes you but doesn't know how to act?
why don't you try asking her if she wants to play a game or go out and bike ride, have a picnic or do something together? maybe that's all she wants?
while it's true she's rude, sometimes younger kids actually LIKE their older sisters brothers or other relatives... they know nothing else than being "mean" to get attention, when sometimes all they want is to be liked...
gee, i hope this is the case?
if nothing else works, and she doesn't accept the fact that you're trying to be nice to her, accept the fact that she's a brat. don't pay attention to her anymore...
you don't have to hurt her. just go about your own business and ignore her. DO NOT REACT! people who taunt and tease us and who are mean are looking for a REACTION. if you don't give her what she wants anymore, she will eventually get bored and stop.
2007-08-08 11:47:21 · answer #3 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean but in my case it turned out that my neice was jealous because I could go out more and she thought I was prettier. Just dont even argue with her.... this is what i used to do
give her the smile that u give to babies who are 3 or 4
and say reeeeeaaaaallly? in this calm sweet voice
2007-08-08 11:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by lynette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore when she says things and slowly she will give up as she will get sick of it. be the bigger person and dont stoop down to her level. i have a sister in law who used to pick on my 2 year old. the more i ignored the harder she would ry at first but now she has simply giving up. by ignoring her when she does things other people around you will become of her bad bahaviour towards you and she will be the fool. good luck
2007-08-08 11:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
kids are young, my little brother thats 7 tells me he hates me and im not his sister and sometimes it hurts my feelings but i have to pertend like i dont care and trust me he gets sooo frustrated and then he tries being my friend. trust kids are weird and you just gotta ignore that part where their being mean because then they will miss you when you ignore them
2007-08-08 11:59:01 · answer #6 · answered by Stacy G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋