Commitment Ready?

Question

I've been dating this guy for 7 months now. Everything is absolutly perfect. We get along great and have never gotten into a fight or even an arguement. He keeps making jokes about Ring Shopping (for a promise ring), and about how jewelry stores lie to you when they say their real diamonds because he knows I love diamonds but what girl doesn't. But my birthday is coming up shorty and that is really the only thing that I want from him. How do I let him know without specifically saying it?

Answer 1

I dont think you should say anything... but just let him know you arent scared away by the thought. Its still very early... and if you expect it and dont get it, you shouldnt be disappointed...

I think he has painted ideas in your mind and now you are looking forward to something that may be premature. But if you dont expect it, and actually get it, then you are all set.

The next time he mentions it, smile, give him a kiss and say that sounds perfect... and let it go. If he's ready, you'll get yours.

Answer 2

Personally i think you should not rush into this.The thing is, getting commited to a person you've never had an argument with is not a good idea cos you might think you get along fine but when the chips are down you find out that the person is not how you painted him to be.I know you will eventually do what you feel is right but pls think about this carefully and i hope you make the right choice.Good luck.

Answer 3

Well, if he keeps joking around about buying a ring then he knows that you want one.
I wouldn't ask him to buy me a ring if I were you. Here are my reasons:
1. He should make such decision himself and only then the ring will mean he is ready to commit himself for a long-term relationship.
2. I wouldn't be happy if my bf would get me a ring because I asked him to.
So, I guess, you should simply enjoy your relationship for now especially if everything is great. If you sincerely love each other one day you'll get a ring anyway. :)

Answer 4

Lady friend, you better tell that man, MEN have to be told what we women want. If you don't tell him he will never know. But, this may just help, next time you guys are in the Jewelry strore, point the one that you want out and say, Love, this ring would be perfect to be presented to me as a promise ring... ask if he agreed. then you will know

Answer 5

I think the best way to approach that is to hint around, or even while you two are out near a jewelry store comment on some of the peices that you may see or like. It doesn't get any easier or obvious than that.

Answer 6

What urstruely said :)
To be honest, I would never accept a ring from someone I'd never even had a disagreement with. Once you've really got to know him, you'll have disagreements alright, even if he is the perfect man for you.

Answer 7

you don't. If he really wants to get it he will. But if you say something he could take that as pressure, especially if he's not ready right now to do something like that. Take whatever he gives you and be thankful. Wait a litlte longer before you expect a ring.

Answer 8

if he is ready to make that commitment he will buy you a ring, do not pressure him into it, it will take away all the meaning behind the ring

Answer 9

im going through the same crap........ i think i have let him know that im ready in a way that has annoys him because he kept promising me a ring, or a "surpise" 2 months ago my best friend new about! and i never got it..... let him know by being truthful, kind, and let him know that you believe in him and that you love him.... add some love makin!

Answer 10

Well....um....I guess u could try to convince his friends to talk to him without them specifically saying that u told them to or something........idk.