me and my fiancee have been together for more than 7 years,but i ask him to wait till we are married.i knew it is hard for him to wait..and he respect my decision.so for this last 7 years,yes we never had sex.but some of my friends tellin me that its not a good idea to let your 7 years man to wait till that long.so,guys if you are my fiancee will you wait?or should i give my virginty for him on his bday next week?
2007-08-08 03:17:24 · 32 answers · asked by msdigitalism 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
im 25 and he is 27
2007-08-08 03:25:25 · update #1
You've waited this long, so why not wait a little longer? Make that first night of your wedding the best night of his life. Buy yourself a sexy little nightie and go all out.
If he needs sexual release, he has a hand.
2007-08-08 03:21:38 · answer #1 · answered by theewokprincess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That would be a great b-day present a man could ever want!
However, since you've been together for 7 years without sex, I don't think you're been after just for that, so, that's a great thing about him and you should not be worried too much about him being with you just for sex.
If you're 18+ yrs, giving it to him next week is totally fine and it's a great thing that happens to you both. Enjoy it! However, if you plan to get married very soon, making him wait a little bit longer and giving it to him on the wedding night is also a great thing to do.
P.S. Practically, seeing if two partners have any troubles (that can not be compromised) in sex is also a good test for every couple before married because in marriage life, sex also plays a very important role. This is just my sole idea for you to refer to. It's totally up to you as I believe you're strong enough to make your own decision.
All the best!
2007-08-08 03:44:25 · answer #2 · answered by song bird 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's waited this long, he can wait until the wedding date. I assume you have a date if you're engaged, if not set one and tell him you can't wait to be intimate with him, so you'd like to set a wedding date.
If you do it after all these years of waiting, I'm afraid there is a huge possibilty that you'll throw your relationship off it's balance and mess it up.
Intimacy is wonderful, but it does complicate things if you're not married.
If the couple is married, then much of the complication is avoided.
I highly recommend you wait until you're married. You've come too far to mess it up. He respects you enough for waiting that he's stuck around all this time. He may be receptive to it, but may also lose respect for your change of plans and stance.
Do tell him that you're really looking forward to being intimate with him and that you'd like to set a date, since he's already proposed.
And to all the people who wonder why they're not married after 7 years... Look at their ages! They're just now old enough to get married.
It's time hon. It's time to get that date set and get on with your lives together. Don't do it in a pushy way. Just tell him that you're ready to set the date, then set it pretty close! ;o)
2007-08-08 03:27:02 · answer #3 · answered by TJTB 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have already had the discussion that you would wait until being married before having sex, why go back on that word now? Sure, after seven years, I would love to have you as a birthday present to unwrap in all its glory, but at what cost? If he's waited this long, how much longer does he have to wait for the wedding night to finally take place? If he truly loves you (and he most assuredly does) he'll wait for you & the time to be right for both of you. Best of luck to you both!!!
2007-08-08 03:24:43 · answer #4 · answered by Andy K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know I really commend you on waiting 7 years. and yes If you have chosen to wait till marriage then you should stick to your convictions. He seems to be a very understanding man. What is the hold up of getting married after 7 years though?
If you were ready to give your virginity to him then you would not have to ask someone if it would be the right thing to do.
Go with your true self, If you have chosen to wait then wait you true love will wait with you. And it will be special for the both of you.
Good luck with your decision. just follow your heart on this one.
2007-08-08 03:26:55 · answer #5 · answered by Big Mamma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I never really understood the whole wait to lose your virginity thing but the answer to your question is simple. You have been a virgin all this time so you can have sex AFTER you get married. If you have it before you get married all of those years will have been for nothing. Think about it. I think if he's been waiting for 7 years he can wait just a little longer.
2007-08-08 03:25:43 · answer #6 · answered by Alex W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow thats a tuffy .. at first I was gonna say if you value your virginity and he just wants you to lose it b/c hes horny then hes a jerk. But then I read the part about 7 years and what not. So my ultimate answer is this: If you love him , truly love him and know that he is the one for you and that you are marrying him ( for sure no doubts) then I say go for it. But if you have doubts to any of this; anything ( it doesnt feel right or your really scared or whatever) then you know that your choosing to wait is the option that you have to follow through on. Sex shouldnt be just b/c he wants you to. YOU NEED TO WANT TO TOO. If you don't want to; you know the right answer. Don't do just b/c he wants to.
2007-08-08 03:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by Melissa M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not our decision it's yours , but I couldn't wait 7 years to give my man some , now i can see waiting for 2 or 3 months but not 7 years, but he must really love you if he is willing to wait , so yes go ahead and give that man some on his birthday before he find it else where.
2007-08-08 03:26:46 · answer #8 · answered by Miss L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Definitely don't do it until you're ready. Anyway, being together for 7 years at your age...go ahead and get married! What are you guys waiting for? You should know each other well enough by now.
2007-08-08 03:30:01 · answer #9 · answered by Beach Bum Wannabe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When are you going to get married? 7 years is too long to date and not tie the knot. If he has waited this long then he will wait until you get married. But the real question is why are you still dating?
2007-08-08 03:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by Future Citizen of Forvik 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋