Ladies, I have an extreme desire to please my wife orally, but she is very hesitant about me doing that for her. She is embarrassed by it for some reason. What I tell her over and over again is how much I want to do that for her. It really does turn me on to please her that way, but she doesn't want to relax and enjoy it. Any suggestions? What can I do?
2007-08-08 03:01:07 · 7 answers · asked by salsax 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow! If she has let you seen her naked I dont know what the problem is. MOST women would want you as there lover...she has no idea how lucky she is. I dont know what any of us can say to make her relax and accept the offer your offering. Perhaps you should ask her exactly what bothers her about it. Tell her take a nice fragrance bath before hand and relax and enjoy.
2007-08-08 03:06:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was she a virgin when you met? If not, maybe someone from her past made her feel self conscious. Some women have a difficult time letting her man get so up close and personal with her kitty. It makes us feel vulnerable sometimes. I mean think about it, I'm sure your wife has issues with her face, body, etc. so, why should this area be any different. Many women are very self conscious about possible odors, the best thing that you can do is make her feel loved, wanted, beautiful. maybe start with your hand and get her started and maybe she'll let your mouth follow. good luck
2007-08-08 03:08:48 · answer #2 · answered by misspriss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in her shoes! I was so embarrassed - I didn't know what to do, or say, or where to look. My husband (boyfriend back then) helped me to realize that I didn't have to have an orgasim - my only job was to relax. So help her get over her embarrassment by letting her put a pillow over her face & leave the lights off. Just do it for a minute & then the next time a little longer. . .that way she won't feel like she has to try & climax. She will soon learn that she is a lucky woman to have a man that likes it!!
2016-05-17 05:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by stephen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had that problem. Ask her why she feels uncomfortable about it. One thing you can do is set up the bedroom with candles and set the mood. Have her proped up on some pillows and start by just kissing on her inner thigh and work your way up, give her a chance to get used to you being down there. After she relaxes more continue. Or just do a little per play time.
2007-08-08 03:09:02 · answer #4 · answered by toneslilsweettease 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to know the truth? There are two factors that typically affect how a woman feels about this:
1) It is an extremely intimate act...it is very hard to be comfortable with someone doing this for a lot of women..they worry if the man is ONLY doing it to please them, if the guy secretly doesn't like doing it, if they smell/taste good (yes, women worry about this...lol), it's just a difficult thing to be really comfortable with at times....
2) Okay, here is the pride stinging issue...Most guys REALLY suck at doing this. Guys are literally quite clueless as to this aspect of dealing with the female anatomy...They are either too rough, too sloppy, or just in general out of sync with the woman's body while doing this....Trust me, this is something I know a lot about...lol....I'm 29 years old and have been married three times, and in my entire sex life, have had only ONE man who actually knew how to do this well. I won't say one out of how many who TRIED to do it, but suffice it to say....the one man totally surprised me.
I would try to give you advice on how to do this act well, but the simple problem is that every woman is different. My best suggestion? Reassure your wife on issue #1-let her know you want to do this, let her know you find nothing unpleasant about it, that you want to please her.
Then deal with issue #2 by simply asking her what she wants, what feels good to her when you do this. Let her know it's okay to just tell you what she needs you to do. Sad to say, it is a very rare man who this skill comes to naturally, so the best thing to do is just ask her what you can do to improve the experience for her.
Hope this helps!
2007-08-08 03:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by Bruja 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be alll romantic fix her dinner & get her to have some wine or something. Light some candles, and tell her to trust you & to give you a chance to please her. Make her feel secure about how beautiful her body. Tell her that it is a good way to stimulate having a better sex life.
2007-08-08 03:17:03 · answer #6 · answered by Animalfriend 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
does she say why she has a hang-up? Maybe she feels she's not clean enough down there. I think it's rare for a woman to feel that way. Thank God I'm not rare!!!!
I hope she loosens up and sees just what she's been missing. Good luck!
2007-08-08 03:04:56 · answer #7 · answered by dinny's engaged!! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋