since a week after my 13th birthday ive been rape 12 times over four years by a man i dont know. I was in and out of hospital because of depression etc and confided in a nurse there who was brilliant. Then i got transferred to adult services one day and never got to say goodbye or thank you. My dad hired a private psychotherapist but i cant seem to talk about it. The Nurse was the only person who new everything and i could nobody could ever replace her. im so stuck.
2007-08-08 02:51:05 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
ionly told anyone for the first time ast October (and that was the Nurse) so my parents know now but i didnt tell anyone for four years as i was afraid nobody would believe me! also it has been reported to the police-thank for all your support
2007-08-08 03:04:10 · update #1
Find her again. Do anything you can to find people that you can talk to. Well done for admiting whats happened. Try phoning up the hospital and asking for her. In the mean time I hope that sick b*****d has been locked up. If not report him to the police or your parents or anyone! He is twisted! I hope you find her again. Keep phoning the hospital for her until someone listens.
Keep strong
2007-08-08 02:59:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 3⤋
I am really sorry for what happened to you and I understand some of the fear or anxiety you must've felt.
I have been attacked when I was 17 but he didn't rapped me because when I realised what was happening I started screaming so he ran away.
Also I've been followed&stopped by a man when going to the school but people were passing by so he left me alone.
It must've been much harder for you over the years...
You should be proud of yourself that you have broken the silence and allow your family to be next to you.
The nurse you spoke with might not be able to help you because she is there for a different age group....but if you really want to be helped and forget the past try and speak with your psychotherapist.My friend had some counselling for something and it really worked.
I hope you will have a good future and you'll leave the past behind.
All the best.
2007-08-09 00:27:44 · answer #2 · answered by AlinutaUK 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-14 10:26:01 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh Sweet heart I'm so sorry to hear that. There are alot of sick people out there, You know I've never been in any situation of that sort. It took alot of guts to get online and type out your story and ask for help. All the advice I can give is to ask the Lord for anything you need and he will answer the Lord is always there. I wrecked having a seizure he didn't let me kill anybody. I've had brain surgery he pulled me through it. The Lord is always there. I can't even imagine being raped, but the Lord will protect you. Just ask. Here is a bible verse for you that I just heard last Sunday at church that brought tears to my eyes I hope you like it, it is from Psalms.
118:5 I called upon the Lord in distress:the Lord answered me, and set me in a large place.
118:14 The Lord is my strength and song, and is become my salvation.
2007-08-08 03:05:48 · answer #4 · answered by nana_14 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
That poor nurse was being very sympathetic as part of her job, she sounds wonderful, but she is not a trained therapist and will not be in a position to help you properly. A trained therapist will be very detached from the background of your story and be in a very good position to advise and take you through to being cured of all the aftermath of your ordeal. Try to go and give this therapist a chance and you will be pleased that you did. Do not delay any more just get on with this cure. Best of luck and try to have a happy life.
2007-08-08 03:05:15 · answer #5 · answered by ANF 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i'm sorry this happened to you... you must be devistated!
hon, i think that the best thing you could do is to find a therapist you trust.... TALK about it.... therapists are trained to help us, and give us guidance, show us that there is a light at the end of the tunnel, and life can become better with good coping skills.
i was sexually abused at one time in my life also. i finally came to the realization that the person who harmed me was very ill... and it was not my fault.
It's NOT your fault either!
Hon, you can't sweep this under a carpet and bury it... there are some things in life which might seem to painful to face, but believe me when i tell you, sometimes it is a RELIEF to get it all out and figure out a way to deal with it and move forward.
If you don't relate well to your current therapist, perhaps you could switch to a new one?
sending hugs and love your way.
2007-08-08 04:16:24 · answer #6 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Explain this to the private psychotherapist. I would ask if there were a way you could work with the previous nurse somehow.
When you say no body could ever replace her, you are right, but you are also NOT right.
Telling someone else would take that part. It would NOT be the same person.
You have to start somewhere.
Sorry this happened to you. it shouldn't ever happen.
2007-08-08 02:57:20 · answer #7 · answered by Jed 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hello! Razzle Dazzle me
sorry for what you have written. It is sad and it hurts. It is past. It is like seeing an accident in which you find some one very hurt and lying on the road. Keep thinking about it and you will get in to an accident and hurt yourself as well as other
A mentally deranged person has done harm to you when you were under age and a minor. That person should be in mental hospital or in prison. the society is to be blamed for it.
You have been hurt and you have no guilt feeling for that. You are innocent. Have courage to forget and start fresh life. divert your attention in to something else. spend time in sports, studies , pets, friends, comics anything. we all go through this trauma one time or the other.
I am not a religious person to advise you , but, I have heard that religion gives great relief to the hurt and innocent.
Do feel free to write and we are all there to advise help
take care and be cheerful
2007-08-08 04:56:29 · answer #8 · answered by dukominimo 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
First let me apologize for that happening to you. I hope that over time you forget any of that, or the hurt he must have caused you. I also know that his behavior is not representive of all men.
As for your feelings about communication, I cant sympathize with your situation, it is very unique...but I can sympathize with not feeling able to trust anyone.
Fear is an overwhelming emotion, is has no logic, it uses no rhythm or reason, it just has a knee jerk reaction "PROTECT AT ALL COSTS!!".
But, please try to understand....the longer that you bury that feeling, the longer it will fester into something you dont want it to. Maybe a bad feeling towards men in general...maybe a hate for family that knew it happened....its something that day by day you have to make a little progress on by just talking about it.
Now, I know I am simplifying it, and it isnt that easy to open up to someone about something so delicate, especially with your guard up. But please, try to keep in mind, that knee jerk reaction "PROTECT AT ALL COSTS" is only immediate...the all costs part is what it will do to you later.
I hope the road ahead dwarfs the road you left behind you.
2007-08-08 03:05:27 · answer #9 · answered by kieran27 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Call the hospital and see if you can get back in touch with the nurse. If not find a specialist that deals with rape. A tough thing to deal with. You need the right kind of help.
2007-08-08 02:55:12 · answer #10 · answered by Terrible G 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋