My bf Tyler (Ty) plays football. One day, I went to one of his games and not as a cheerleader which I am. He got knocked over hard and was torn up at his ancle. He wanted to play but I held him down. He was 2 hurt... I told the coach to make him sit. After a LONG fight he sat. I sat beside him. Being told what to do when he doesn't want to do it makes him mad. He got so mad that on the way home he crashed. I was sitting in the passenger seat and screamed when he crashed into a wall. I had put my hands up and was OK but the car was crushed. I looked over at Ty and saw him slumped in the seat out cold. I screaned his name over & over. He didn't wake up even when I shook him. I was hugged andmobed by friends and family as I was taken out of the car and checked out OK. Ty was in a coma. The paremedics wouldn't let me ride with him but I insisted. He's still in a coma and it's a week later. It's all my fault isn't it? I haven't ate slept or anything in a week and I've been by his side.
2007-08-08 02:39:20 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's still outcold. He needs to wakeup! Ineed to see him. It's a week later! I can't eat, sleep or even cry anymore.
2007-08-08 02:49:11 · update #1
That's horrible. I'm so sorry.
But no, it isn't your fault at all. NOT AT ALL.
Car crashes happen, it sucks, but they do. He should have been paying more attention to the road, especially since it was a wall he ran into, not something moving at him.
Don't blame yourself. It was just an accident, no one's fault. But it you must place blame, it goes on him not paying attention to his driving.
2007-08-15 19:06:03 · answer #1 · answered by WanderingGnome 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is NOT your fault. You were not the one driving the car. You might have made him mad but he's the one that has to control his temper. He should never have gotten behind the wheel if he was mad enough that it affected his driving. Please don't blame yourself. It's not helping the situtation any! Just be there for your friend he needs that more than anything. You guys can work out the fight when he gets better.
Good Luck!
2007-08-08 02:46:15 · answer #2 · answered by emsmom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww I am sorry for your trouble right now...but you should be spending time with him. Read to him and tell him how much you care and that you wont leave him. Dont blame yourself cause guys can and will make decisions on thier own no matter what! Dont try and make them for them. He knew what he was doing all along, and if you think about it he will recover soon cutie! Just keep your head up and be strong for everyone involved. I am here if you need to talk jsut drop me a line!
2007-08-15 19:13:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you caring enough for someone and stopping them from getting more hurt isnt a reason for a person to get mad maybe he need to stop and think aout that. It is his own fault not yours, you did not tell him to drive mad you did not tell him to get hurt alls you did was care. Now to you he is in a healing state of mind right now a person heals faster when they sleep if you wanna be there for him take care of yourself and stop beating yourself up for this it isnt your fault I dont know what the out come of this will be but our Lord will make the right choice for him but you need to make your choice for you. you can still be there for him everyday but you need to take care of yourself if you love him and it sounds like you do then take care of you for him get some sleep and eat he will e waiting for you
2007-08-16 00:57:01 · answer #4 · answered by SteviezGirl_4_Life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No it's not your fault. Life is not about what happens to you, but how you react to it. It was his choice to react the way that he did. You were doing the right thing and looking out for him since he was already hurt. Stop kicking yourself. Everyone is responsible for their own actions.
2007-08-08 02:44:57 · answer #5 · answered by patton19150 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dont control the universe and you dont control fate. Just because you cared enough to protect him doesnt mean that it damaged him. I assure you that deep down inside, he KNOWS that you cared enough to protect him from hurting himself any more. Guys get angry sometimes... and maybe its just a weird sense of fate to have that happen to him.
Be there for him, its not your fault at all... sometimes its easier to blame yourself for something so out of your control, but keep in mind. You werent the one who got angry, you werent the one who was driving. You were the one trying to protect him and he knows it.
Eat something, take care of yourself and when he wakes up, tell him to control his anger. if you root him on, he will come around....
best of luck to you.. dont forget to pray.
2007-08-08 02:52:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 21:30:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its just bad luck comin down on the same day. 5hit happens. thats what I say. It was right that you have to stop him from getting his other body part from damaging. he should never sacrifice his body so bad for something like sports (peace sports fans!) your intentions are good. dont worry. sleep well...
2007-08-16 02:13:25 · answer #8 · answered by thadus_2pk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's nobody's fault some things happen its ok ppl wake up from coma's its ok he'll be alright
2007-08-08 03:29:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not your fault, you should hav told him he wasnt fit to drive but he knows how bad it is and should hav let u drive instead of puttin his and your lives at risk! i dont think it was anyones fault it is 1 of these things that happen!
hope he gets better !
2007-08-16 00:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋