my poor self esteem is causing me to be a lesbian?

Question

can this statement be true?

i don't want to be rude or anything.....

Answer 1

Honestly! What is wrong with you people?!
For many years homosexuality has been a taboo. Now that people are coming to their minds, they are making a taboo IN FAVOR OF homosexuality. Can't you just see something without prejudice, or any feeling of guilt?

For a moment, look back at your answers. Can't you see they mostly lack any logic? She's asking if poor self esteem may push someone toward being a lesbian, not if EVERY lesbian is so because of low self esteem.

I think that's quite possible. I give you a couple of examples:

- If somebody has been sexually abused by a man during childhood, he or she is more likely to show homosexual behavior. An abused girl is likely to develop hatred or disgust toward men. While an abused boy has an early sexual experience with a man, and that definitely affects his mind-set and senses.

- If a girl is masculine, or for some reason is more attractive to lesbian woman than to men, she's more likely to try being with a woman. Isn't this obvious? Not being attractive to men causes low self-esteem and having homosexual women around adds to the temptation. One may think, why not being with someone who can appreciate my beauty. and so on. The same for a girly boy.

Not that my word has any scientific basis. But I've seen more than a few examples, and I try to use my mind!

Answer 2

Having poor self esteem can cause many things but lesbianism isn't one of them. That's a lame excuse to use in place of dealing with the reality of the inclination towards women instead of men. People need to just get real! I guess whomever might have said that could also come up with someone from their lives past who would be the cause of that low esteem too! As my daughter always remarks, " Oh Brother!" What unnecessary drama some people seem to thrive upon!

Answer 3

Beauty is on the inside of a person, your low self esteem with being homosexual are normal; since you want nothing to do with God that is Love. Why did you decided to forget Love and chase after immoral urges? Your outside looks pretty; but how long will it stay that way after you pick up all the venereal Deceases? Like AIDS that kills! Are you aware that ALL homos go to hell? Why don't you watch "The Lazarus Phenomenon" on DVD or Free over the Internet and see what Heaven and Hell are both like. Over ten million people have died and come back to life just in the USA, all describing the basic same. This report dose not include ones that have tried to kill themselves; but you can still see what you seem to be aiming for. To look farther find info on "Life After Death":

Answer 4

No, sweetie, that's not how it works. A low self-esteem can cause you to retreat or shy away from some social activities but it is not the cause to be a lesbian. To be attracted to the same sex is a case of gender identity crisis, which could be both physiological and psychological. But at your young age, I wouldn't worry about it coz it could just be a phase. Meanwhile, go out there and have fun. Just let your natural self develop to its full potential. Be happy, my dear child.

Answer 5

No, that statement isn't true.

More like, the person with the poor self-esteem is using that as an excuse to continue not asserting herself. Being lesbian is genetic, and not in any way pushed or influenced by confidence factors.

Answer 6

Since when did sexual orientation become a by product of low esteem? Sexuality is a lifestyle choice and something that is to be respected and celebrated.

Low self esteem is more likely a product of concern over sexual orientation, its impact on you and those around you, other peoples perception of you, etc. I think the fear of how others perceive you is far greater than the actuality. Come out and be proud of who you are, and don't just define yourself by others view of you.

This is an unbiased view by the way, as I am straight and a man!

Answer 7

i don't know, but when i comes right down to it, even thought rosie o'donnell is a high-profile, very famous individual, i don't think she has a lot of self-esteem... she is also a lesbian, but i don't think her lack of self-worth "caused" her lesbianism.

matter of fact, I WISH i could change my sexual preference from men to women now that i'm older... because it doesn't seem as though there are any REAL MEN left -- just mommy's boys.

unfortunately, i'm not at all attracted to women in a sexual way.

Answer 8

Not a chance in hell, dear. Not admitting your sexuality can sure make your self-esteem plummet, though. I was MISERABLE before I finally admitted to myself that I'm a lesbian. I'm still miserable, but a bit less so now :P And my being gay is a total non-issue now. It has no effect on my self-esteem; why should it?

Answer 9

Low self esteem could be cause by the denial of sexuality. There is still the stigma in this society of being ashamed of who you are and what your sexual preference is...thank God a lot less than it used to be!! To accept who you are raises the self esteem and self worth...allow yourself to be who you are..and be proud of who you are! There is no one else in the world like you; you are a unique one of a kind work of art...and no one can define who you are as a person..only you can.

Answer 10

I'm going to pull a troll and disagree with the above people. Let's just put the nature vs nurture debate aside and realize that nothing in life is certain. "All lesbians were born that way" This statement cannot be true. Yes you know it as well as I do so shut up. Not saying that it's not true for most but 100% of lesbians being born that way is not possible. I can easily see a woman being rejected by men so she becomes depressed and switches to women. It's possible maybe not likely but possible