Been thinking of postponing my marriage but I dont know what to tell my man. I am virgin and we both agreed to keep it until wedding night. But I wanna postpone marriage coz I feel not ready at same time, I am too shy to tell him this reason. I tried so many times even when he drops his usual hints to me and courts me but I could not. He is so caring we love one another but that's the way it is! My friends (girls) scare me a lot when they told me that it hurts a lot ... Dont know what to do?
2007-08-08 01:10:31 · 4 answers · asked by Sara007 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Am not looking for rude answers here ... if you are not able to help then resign posting an answer here please!
Thanks again.
2007-08-08 01:17:37 · update #1
Don't postpone your marriage over sexual tension. Tell him right now about how you're feeling. If sex is more important to him than his love for you, then maybe the marriage wasn't meant to be. But there is no rule saying that virginity must be lost immediately after the ceremony... Tell him you're still not ready and let him decide what he wants to do. Be honest!
2007-08-08 01:22:07 · answer #1 · answered by bluedevil1642 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just gently masturbate alot beforehand (starting now), begin with finger(s) and working your way up to a penis-sized object by the time you get married.
By the way, how old are you? This is an extremely silly question from someone whose just about to get married! Sex is not the reason for or against a marriage, and its certainly not worth postponing over. If you don't trust him with your body, don't get married.
2007-08-08 08:16:26 · answer #2 · answered by zoldosh 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The best thing to do right now is to tell him. If you two are planning to get married, then telling him is the way to go. He should genuinely respect your decision and wait. I mean I can tell that he loves you since he wants to make you his wife obviously. Don't listen to your friends who say it hurts a lot because that's not the case. It will be painful but as you continue to engage in sexual intercourse, it feels better the more you do it and the longer you do it.
2007-08-08 08:23:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
good morning sara007 you should cancel your marriage plans for a while and see what happens because if you are in doubt dont jump right into something that might not be right for you and your fiance and take each step slowly ok and very good luck to you have plenty of time to get married and as a virgin that is very good also so take care my y&afriend
2007-08-08 08:38:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋