Why does everyone hate black women?

Question

I am a black American woman, mid-thirties, ok looking and employed. Everytime I reach out to someone for friendship or dating, I get rejected. I feel so demoralized, like I'm not even a human being anymore. I have noticed many other black women experiencing the same thing. Please help before I blow my brains out. And I'm not kidding about the last sentence, my life is truly worthless at this point.

You are all wonderful, thank you for the responses. Granola Girl, your response was especially sweet, you made me feel a little better.

Answer 1

I understand you feel so down coz you are lonely and you think no one likes you. No way does anyone hate you. Are you smiling at people, letting them know you care? Are you joining conversations, making other people smile? And finally, are the ones you pick to befriend the kind of people you really want to befriend?

You sound like you're probably a nice person, depressed maybe, and I just want to let you know that whatever this situation looks like right now, it's not going to stay that way forever, and there is always a lesson to be learned in every sad thing we experience. How you gonna learn it if you hurt yourself? You really want the miserable feelings to stop, and a good way to do that is to keep trying for what you really want in life. Pick the right people to befriend; be WARM and OPEN to them. If you're shy around them, smile and listen to them when they speak; maybe you'll start feeling less shy as they open up to you. Sometimes it takes a while. It's always worth it though. You are worth it.

(((hugs)))

Answer 2

I can't speak to the dating bit, but on the friendship thing, I think there is some sort of weird racial thing going on, and it's something I don't understand.

I am of mixed heritage (Arab American), so skin color is about as important to me as the color of someone's car, which is basically not important at all. There aren't a lot of black people where I live, but twice I have met really cool women who I really liked, and both times when I tried to become friends with them, they pushed me away. One was a woman I worked with at a library. She was funny, nice, intelligent, and we liked the same types of books. I always had a good time with her when we worked the same shifts. We (meaning all of us in the same position) used to do this thing every couple of months where we had people take over for us and we'd go to a restaurant which was right around the corner from our work and go to lunch. Anyone who wasn't working that day would come just to join the lunch group, and everyone who was working just took lunch at the same time. I told her about the lunches, and invited her, but she always said no. I thought maybe she was shy, so I asked her if I could come in and bring her lunch on a day when she worked and I did not. I figured we could just sit in the lunchroom and chat while we ate. She told me flat out that she wasn't interested in my charity. The thing that hurt me about that was that it wasn't a matter of charity--she was one of the funnest people I worked with, and I wanted to get to know her better. I just wanted to be friends, but she wanted nothing to do with me. She told us (a group of us when we were working one day) that she only really knew two people here, and was having a hard time making friends, but I guess she just didn't like me, which is fine. I know I am not some great catch of a friend, but I was disappointed because we always had a good time when we were at work.

Do black women only want to be friends with other black women? Or was I just not a good fit for the two women I met and really liked and wanted to be friends with?

Answer 3

I am a white-complexioned man myself, but I tell you I find a black woman very very sexy. Too much of white is rather is turn-off for me. Black is mystical, exotic, and super sexy for so many guys I know!

I bet you aren't getting rejected on the basis of your color as much on the basis of your attitude. Can't explain it here, but there's something that just tells us guys if a woman is worth the chase by looking and talking to her for few moments.

Approach a guy with this in the back of your mind: "Ok I know I am black, and that does NOT matter. 'Coz I know I can give this guy pleasure like no other girl can... Now, let me approach him and see if he qualifies for it or not."

And if he does not, then move on. Say 'next' and look for another guy who's not dumb enough, or racial enough to judge you by the color of your skin.

Answer 4

You are just going through some sort of depression. I see plenty of balck girls that have men in their lives. Try going to church, or joining a club of some sort. Keep your mind occupied. The right guy will come along, I promise. Good Luck!! Never give up!!!

Answer 5

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Answer 6

boy i really dont know why you are being treated that way thats not right i am a white female dont blow your brains out you will fine someone who doesnt care what color your skin is i wish you the best of luck

Answer 7

I understand how you feel as much as I would like to answer you I have added you to my contacts list so email me . My address is [e-mail]. I have a lot to say.

Answer 8

I don't know what you mean, I had a black girlfriend and if I had the opportunity to meet another nice one I will date her with no problem....I don't think it is about skin color but about personality and attitude and bodyshape...Black women are very sexy with nice A** look at rap video.....

Answer 9

i dont hate anyone and if noone should hate anyone based on color. im sorry your having problems, but maybe dont try so hard and let things happen naturally when u least expect it. good luck

Answer 10

You're lonely and depressed. Take it slowly don't be too forward or eager. Change your environment, meet new people.