If your born shy are you genetically shy forever?

Question

yes i am a shy person( ive been reminded by people all the time), but there is something deep down thats telling me that i can change and overcome it its a phase. but is shyness something which you never can eliminate within yourself . cause the most people can never understand the full feeling and affect of having low confidence. i jus wanna know can i put this behind me or will it never leave

Answer 1

genetically shy?? no way.
it's really hard to break out of being shy, but it is possible. just have faith in yourself and you'll be outgoing in no time.

Answer 2

Well I was the same just like you. I was born incredibly shy. I used to be afraid of buying food from the school canteen cause I was afraid they couldn't speak English!!! But I knew it was just an excuse.

I lost some of that shyness as I grew older because some of my excuses just sounded plain nonsensical. But I still remained shy nonetheless. What REALLY cracked me when I was 18 was when I joined an A Cappella group. At my first performance I was so freaked out that I looked like a dud on stage. What's worse was that I was only performing to a bunch of 8 year olds and I got freaked that badly! But slowly, I learned to dress better from my peers, I learned choreography and I learned to emcee. Before I knew it, I had labelled myself as an 'Entertainer' and I became alot more confident. I believe it was the expectations that I gave myself (of an entertainer) that allowed me to step out of my shell.

This is just a short summary of my own life though. It took me a year or so to actually feel comfortable on stage. But as I don't believe you're aiming for THAT much confidence, haha, don't worry, I'm sure you'll be able to do it. Your willingness to change is already the first step. But constantly remind yourself that you ARE changing and stop labelling yourself as a shy person. Everytime someone calls you shy, step in and say "Actually, I'm not that shy anymore. That was the old me." Hearing you speak up, they'll definately hear the new confidence in you. All the best!

Answer 3

I am a shy person at 22 now. But when I was 12, I was even more shy, my circle of friends consist of 2 close friends only, heh. back then I sometimes even got bullied but some big guts small brained airhead.

Now while my social life still isnt action packed, I've learned to stand up for my self, to say no when i needed to, and not let others step on me.

And I didn't attend any course or do anything. it's just something that changes as we grow up. I'm not sure how old you are, but nobody stays the same. As you grow up, things will change.

Answer 4

I think being shy is something that will always be with you.
You can decide to try and hide it.. and overcome showing it.. But inside you also have that feeling where you just want to crawl in the corner and hide :)
Buy yourself a new outfit , strut your stuff , your beautiful! Lifes too short.. live it to the fullest.. Next time you look in the mirror repeat as many times as necessary "I am beautiful" Everyone is beautiful in their own way. If you have an aspect of you.. (ex. humor,kindness,advice giving) Show it off.. Let other people see who you are and don't let anything stop you. Tie a string around your finger or wear a special ring to remind you to be who you are and worry about yourself.. NOT what other people think of you. Hope i helped hun.. Im the same way sometimes... Feel free to give me an email sometime

Answer 5

I'm a very shy person also, Ive been shy my whole life. Ive been trying to think of a way to get over it but every time I do I just close up... So its defiantly a hard thing to over come but I think with enough practice it can defiantly be done. I know exactly what you mean about how people don't understand the affect of low confidence. My family is always telling me not to be so shy like i can just magically go ok I'm not shy anymore lol. Good luck.

Answer 6

I used to be sooo shy that sometimes I'd be afraid to talk to my friends...
Usually a fresh start can help, eg. mixing with different people,
doing things which make you feel good about yourself and build self esteem, and other things which just make you more confident that you can succeed.
Also, be nice around people and be confident! It will make them more comfortable around you and they will know you as more than 'the shy one'
Most of all be yourself and stick with the people you trust, but don't be afraid to show other people the real you under all the shyness.

Answer 7

Being shy is really hard, I broke out of it though

I just forced myself into talking to new people all the time, if I didn't know anyone in the room, I'd just go up to some friendly looking people and start talking to them.
If you find that too hard, maybe try taking up a beginners drama class, or finding some friends who can help you over come it.

Im thinking that if you really want to change you probably will.

Good Luck

Answer 8

i used to be shy... then sometime around senior year i broke out of it. I still get shy from time to time, but overall Im an outgoing person. Also try taking a shot or two... that'll break your shyness ;)

Answer 9

I am pretty shy myself( my name means : soft spoken ).Being shy is int a bad thing. It takes me a lil while to open up to people. But i get pretty talkative after that.

Its upto you to build confidence in yourself. My voice had very childish (almost girlish ) overtones and people make fun of it all the time. You have to learn to simply,ignore them and live life.

Answer 10

you know no one can answer that, its only you. you can overcome that by exposing yourself to people. Engaged in different activities to meet people. i too shy, but i make myself changed because in my profession i need to mingle different people so i must overcome that. little by little i am now overcoming that. Just keep telling to yourself that, your not doing anything nor hiding anything so why you be shy. when you walk keep your chin up and look smart .I suggest that read books about self confident, i did that and it helps me. good luck

Answer 11

i used to be very shy when i was little but now i am much fun to be with and sometimes i'm sort of b*tchy because i get a bit too loud and i'll tell you something else that I've changed a lot; well in primary school i was sort of nerdish and now im actually being told that im really cool