Is this ok to allow your kids to sleep in your bedroom?

Question

I have 2 sons, 10 & 5 yrs. Both like to sleep in our bed with us. Now a days they sleep with us than sleeping in their room. (Both share a single room, because we are in an Apartment).

Answer 1

I think once in a while it is ok as long as it is not an every night thing. My kids come in my bed if they have had a bad dream and can't sleep and then they usually come in early in the mornings on the weekend when we sleep in.

Answer 2

Yes it is, children at that age or any young age get scared and don't understand and some cant explain why this is, they are to young yet to put it in words. You are their saviour, their hero, they look up to you for everything and if you don't you will not sleep well knowing something is bothering them. Before anyone makes a big decision look back when you were little and afraid and mom or dad or both flat out said no and you had to deal with fears and other things you had no idea what was going on.
They will get through it and grow to respect you, listen to you, love you and listen to what you say with a deep understanding and have less grief with them when they are older.
I know I am a single father and my boys came to me often, and they slept in my bed and they are fine. As a matter of fact they have less fear of many things and are outgoing, strong in their decision's and know that no matter what mistakes they make I am there or them and its just a mistake and part of the learning process of growing up.
Like I said look back at some of the stuff you did and what do you think may have helped you come up with a different choices if some of them were bad.

BUT if its a habbit then sleep in their room till they fall asleep, after a few days if that doesnt work you may have to find a way to make the olderone understand that its ok to come to mom/dad if its a bad dream ones scared and such.

Answer 3

No, it is not ok. Since you have let this go on for far too long, you will have to do something about it. Try making their room something special for them, a place where they feel comfortable and safe. Get their ideas on what they like to have in their room. Then get a photo of the family in a happy pose and put in a special frame. Put it in their room where they can see it from their beds. Tell them that they are growing up now and if they are really scared in the night, they can come to VISIT you but otherwise, if they just want to be near you, they can look at your photo and know that you are near. They will have each other if they get lonely in the middle of the night. Let the 10 year old know that he is the big brother and protector of his little brother. Let him know how much You depend on him, now that he is growing up, to help you with his little brother. Make him feel special and needed. Set these new rules and then stick to them.

Answer 4

A lot of families have their children sleep with them. My son sometimes sleeps with me. All my kids did. There's nothing wrong with it. The people who think it's nasty or perverted are the ones with the problem. Most cultures co-sleep. My son and I are very close. Of course I sleep with a tshirt and shorts on when he sleeps with me and it's only on weekends. We stay up LATE and giggle and watch stupid stuff on t.v. So what? It's fine. Sooner or later they'll grow out of it. My son said that when he goes to college he'll come home on weekends to sleep with me instead of going to parties with hot girls! He says that now! And before people start saying that the child is too dependant on the parent that's not true he has tons of interests and friends. It's just something he likes to do right now.

Answer 5

If they have a room of their own I think they should learn to sleep there, especially for the 10 year old. For the 5 yo, you shouldn't let him sleep with you everday. He's still young so if he was scared or something, then perhaps it would be okay every now and then but not everyday so he's used to it. Just my opinion.

Answer 6

Soon or in a few years the 10 year old will want his privacy probably or at least want to share his room with his brother over his parents. I do not have kids but I was like this up until the age of 7ish. The 10 year old probably still wants to do this partially because of his little brother. I think you may have to partially take matters into your own hands but its up to you its should not cause any longterm problems this way.

Answer 7

I'd say it's okay sometimes, but try to make it a constant habit otherwise they can find it hard to sleep in there own bed when they get older. Maybe once or twice a week but not every night.

Answer 8

No, no , no!! You say "us" so I assume there's a man of the house as well- no way! your kids should not sleep with you 2!
Explain to them that they have to sleep in their own bed- it will be tough at first to break them of it, but everyone will be much better off! That means psychologically as well, you don't want to screw your kids up

Answer 9

It's all about personal preference. I have a 2 year old who hasn't slept in the bed with me (at night) for a year now. But if you don't mind your children cuddling up with you, there's nothing wrong with it. I would try to get them to where it's not an every-night occurrence, just for the sake of a sex-life with my partner.

Answer 10

I think it's fine as long as it's fine by you. but you should start moving them out slowly. start by not sleeping with them during bed time. say goodnight and let them go to sleep without you there. you can creep back in later on if you want or sleep on the couch.

the whole point is for them to sleep without you. A BIG FIRST STEP. then get them to bed in their own room and you creep in with them in THEIR BED. You're slowly moving out of the usual sleeping order.

....etc. Hope it works for you because it worked for me.

Cheers.