PARENTS, do you tell your children what sex is?

Question

Im on answers constantly answering questions of little kids having sex... do any of you ever tell your children that sex isn't for boys and girls, sex is for a married couple who want children? Breasts are for babies and real love is worth putting sex on hold for? I haven't seen one responsible child on here yet, I don't understand how so many young kids get pregnant... sex is for adults, with a healthy relationship and a paid for house who want children... not babies having babies... are there any parents out here who understand where I'm coming from? If your child got pregnant early, why do you think that happened?

Alexa- thank you :o)

katie - you should be in jail :)

i love the last answers i got... it makes me get my confidence back in letting my child out in hopes she will know right from wrong. thank you so much.

Answer 1

well i cant say i have explained sex to my children, they are babies still (9 weeks and 2.5 years) But when they are old enough i will explain about sex, what its purpose is. Sex is a natural part of life and we should teach our children about it.
I plan on teaching my children that sex should be saved for marriage but if they do have sex i want them to know how to protect themselves. All parents should teach birth control methods to their children! We shouldn't rely on schools to teach our kids about sex and children shouldn't learn about sex from their peers!

Answer 2

I don't believe sex is for married couples and only to make babies, nor are breasts only for babies, because frankly telling my children that would be lying. And I would never lie to my children.

I plan on being open, honest and frank with my children about sex and sexualty from a young age. Never calling a penis and wee-wee or a vagina a ..... whatever parents nickname vaginas. I think this is one of the most important parts of raising children, being honest (which means not lying) to children about what sex is, who is it for, etc etc.

When a child walks in on mom and dad having sex, the simple answer is ....
"Mommy and Daddy were having sex (making love, having intercourse etc) because we love each other very much, and this is one way grown ups (doesn't have to be married people) show each other their love."

Simple.

The earlier children learn about sex from their parents, the better. Once a child is curious and feeds off 'knowledge' in the school yard, this is where you run into issues! Schools are a bad place to learn about sex and sexuality, in my opinion this should be taught by the parents in the loving home.....now explaining a vibrator is another issue ;)

Answer 3

I am with Hesperia on this one. Sex isn't just for married couples and for making babies. Maybe in a biblical sense but even then it is debatable. Sex is about showing love and feeling good. Children should be taught responsibility and that there is alot of emotions connected to sex and that it isn't for children because they aren't ready to deal with those emotions or responsibilities yet. Children should be taught that just because someone says that they love doesn't mean they do and that if they aren't comfortable talking about pregnancies, diseases, and what happens down the road with a partner than they are not ready for sex.
By the way you don't see responsible children on here yet because they are here asking questions which means they aren't asking mom and dad.

Answer 4

I think I am kind of hurt. You need to do some more exploring and open your eyes to the responsible kids on here. Anyways, my parents have set and told me the same morals you had mentioned. Since I don't have a child, the only reason I would be pregnant if 1. I was raped or 2. It was the next Jesus. I understand where you are coming from just don't give hope up on all teenagers. You may see a lot of bad ones, but that is the only ones you see. It is kind of like the news.

Answer 5

Of course I did, they are more understanding of everything and I told them at a young age when they asked. I have two boys who are now 17 and 19 and I think it helped with a better respect towards women as they would tell me how they made some idiot guys in school who new nothing but insults and stupid sheat look bad in front of others.
I explained ever part of the mans and women's body. told them how to please a women, how to be sensitive and gental, considerate and thought full and now they go out with some of the most down to earth and real people I have met. I don't know if that did all this but it did help them in a choice of an idiot for a friend and good people.
Let me ask you, would a movie explain it better than you or teach them how they should act and be treated and treat others?
But in the end its up to you!

Good God Katie, 22 and 15, talk about taking advantage and blindness. Guess we know who runs your house!!!
Wow know any moms with 20 year old girls i can go out with, Hell Im only 47?

Answer 6

I personally, have already mentioned and discussed sex with my daughter, she just turned 8 but has known a bit since she was 6. She simply has an inquisitive mind and I only need answer her questions. I think more parents should step up to the plate. If it is discussed before hormones kick in, it becomes more of a lesson about anatomy and reproduction not so much intimate feelings of lust and teen horniness.

Answer 7

I am Jordan S. I am 12 years old and I think underaged pregnancies are caused by naive dumby teens that are fooling around and who are unaware of the responsibility needed to be a mom. I would personaly never even consider having a baby under the age of 25. My mother had me when she was 37. My mother would nver let me have a baby at 15...if I did...she would murder me. Also it would really interfear with getting an education. You wouldn't have the time on your hands to do schoolwork since you would be busy changing diapers,feeding and clothing your baby.


Read in the news about this 9 YEAR OLD girl who had a baby. MY GOD. Her parents oughta smack her upside her little 9 year old head for fooling around. (at least thats what I would do if I were her mom).

And also gosh I wasn't aware people could have periods that early.



In my opinion..my parents have tought me well. Thats why I'm not interested in all this crud thats going on in teens.

Answer 8

I believe in telling my kids the truth. I tell them that yes, there is sex and it is for adults who do it safely every-time. It is not something to be loosely decided on and it should be reserved for two responsible people who love and care about each-other. I believe it is for making babies but also for responsible adults. I dont tell them that they must be married, and I hope when they are ready to have sex the come to me or another adult and make sure they do it as safely as possible.

Answer 9

they are 8 so no we haven't had "the talk" yet. But believe me it will not be involving much of what the answer a couple above was saying. I hope they were joking. 15 and a 22 year old!!! That makes him a paedophile. I just hope they are joking

Answer 10

I think there are probably more responsible teens on here than you think. I'm 16 and would never ever ever ever have sex before I was married. I agree with everything you said.