and I do not want him to go as I think it is far to close to the wedding, he dos'nt even know where he is going. His mates although now in there 30's are all nuts and are always up for any laugh. Am being ureasonable? He says he can not do anything about now as the Best Man has organised it all. I am worried sick that something is going to happen to spoil our wedding.
2007-08-07 19:50:34 · 26 answers · asked by Reb1 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I do understand your concerns about him getting hurt, or "damaged" in some ways, I was having nightmares about them shaving off his eyebrow or something like that. But really, if you kick up too much fuss about this then he will just resent you for it. Talk to the best man and say you know he has a right to his stag do, but please could they avoid anything that could cause injury to the groom. My groom went paint balling last weekend and you should see their bruises!!!
2007-08-07 20:01:24 · answer #1 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My mates husband had his stag night ....wait for it...the night before the wedding!!!
He, and the best man, were deathly white and dying from hangovers the next morning, and despite being showered, scrubbed and shaved, the whiff of booze off the pair of them would knock you out!
No, a week is fine. Why do you think somehting will happen to spoil the wedding? No point in fretting about it....it may never happen. Let him enjoy his last lads night as a single man.....they will have a blast, that's for sure. And plenty of time to recover.
Are you feeling insecure? And if so, why?
2007-08-07 20:13:04 · answer #2 · answered by marie m 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think its a difficult thing to deal with for a woman and although it wasnt my wedding my boyfriend went to prague last year for a few days on a friends stag weekend and I was worried sick the whole time. I found I made it harder though by constantly worrying, I was still living at home in london at the time so I made sure I got myself off shopping and done a few things to keep myself occupied. It turned out they just went to a few clubs and pubs in the evenings and during the days they went on activities like clay pidgeon shooting and beer tasting in a brewery(men hey!!!)
I think the whole image that we have in our heads of stag nights isnt necessarily true, men go out and have a good time but dont necessarily sleep with as many women as they can and tie one another to lamposts naked! I would either have a hen night on the same night so that you are occupied with that or I would spend time with friends so that you have people to enjoy yourself with instead of worrying. I wouldnt worry, he obviously loves you and is going to be marrying you! Try to trust him xx
2007-08-07 19:58:48 · answer #3 · answered by peroxide.pixie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you're really that worried, have a chat with the best mand and your groom. just ask them to make sure they'll be back exactly when you need them (well before the rehearsal) and that they won't get into any serious trouble or do anything too stupid. it's really doubtful he's going to go with whatever they have planned for him if it would mean maming you mad this close to it. I mean, he wants to have fun, not end up single again. if his friends say "hey, we're going drinking in vegas for 2 weeks!" you know he'll decline that pretty dang fast.
relax a bit, get some reassurance, and take the time to hang out with your parents and close friends and relax before the big day.
2007-08-07 21:53:35 · answer #4 · answered by Erica S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I cant see there being a problem. im coming back from my hen party 2 days before the wedding. i would plan a pamper trip for after he gets back and stay away for a couple of night and let him worry about what your up to
2007-08-10 07:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by rachelwalton04 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage needs to be based on many important things, one of the most important being trust. If you trust your fiance then don't worry about it, he'll be fine, he's a grown up. If you don't trust your fiance then you have a bigger problem than a stag.
Talk to him calmly and explain why you are concerned and then give him your blessings and tell him to take care. You have to be able to respect him enough to let him do his own thing and enjoy himself, and trust him not to spoil anything.
2007-08-07 20:06:39 · answer #6 · answered by pinkymachiney 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Please let him go! When someone asked me what my then fiance was doing on our wedding day while I was getting my hair and makeup done, I replyed, "I hope he´s sitting in a strip bar right now."
I would hope that since you´re one week away from the big day, you are so secure in your relationship to realise chances are his buddies are the ones that will get in trouble, not him. And if he does, is he worth marrying?
2007-08-07 22:44:05 · answer #7 · answered by Learning is fun! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust him as best as you can, he's marrying you, not some other woman, he's devoted to you. Whatever happens, he'll come back to you because you're the one he loves and cares for.
Trust him, and trust his friends that they wouldn't let him do anything to harm the wedding.
I hope everything works out for you and that you have a beautiful wedding.
2007-08-07 20:06:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you are being unreasonable; a week is plenty of time to recover.
It is also bad tactics to let your fiance see how neurotic and unreasonable you are before you are married, in case he changes his mind. Cut him some slack now then reign him in after the wedding.
2007-08-07 20:04:57 · answer #9 · answered by Alan_B 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
reb, you love your fiance, he loves you aswell, that's why you guys are getting married in the first place. one thing that can damage that love is not trusting the other person. i know that it's hard because sometimes a person's friends can influence a person to do things that they normally wouldn't. but there's nothing you can do, and beating yourself up about it is only going to drive you crazy. what i normally do when i feel like you do, i organise a fun night for me and my friends. it's a good way of getting through the night without all those crazy thoughts bouncing around in your head.
2007-08-07 20:00:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋