In the past I have been burned badly by women and am now very much a wuss when it comes to speaking to a woman I might find attractive. I consider myself to be one of those "nice guys" who finish last. I am a trusting man (which is probably what got me in this position to begin with).
For one,I am leery about telling a woman I am attracted to her, and secondly I wouldn't have the slightest clue as to go about a "date" any more. (I was married for 7 1/2 years)
What is a good way for a man afriad of further rejection to overcome his fear and approach a woman he finds beautiful, fun, and/or ask her on a "date"?
2007-08-07 18:37:59 · 12 answers · asked by Michael N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
There's really no other way than to just force yourself to do it. You will probably feel better afterwards even if she does decline. You'll never know til you try. I would try to take a look at any patterns that have been in the women you have dated in the past and break the habit! Give other women you might not have considered before a chance, if they seem to be decent and are single. Be cautious but try to get over the past as much as possible. Hanging onto it too much is unattractive and will drive a good woman away.
2007-08-07 18:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by Smiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know who YOU are? If you think you DO, then THAT'S the person you need to outwardly project -when speaking to a woman you're interested in. That's all. Be honest. Be sincere, -& ABOVE ALL- be YOURSELF. As for the "rejection" thing, look at it like this: Any woman who rejects you out of hand- is gonna be a BAD "catch" anyway. -So WHAT are you losing??! She's doing YOU a favor- by brushing you off! If you're a "nice guy"- then BE one, and let the women "fall" where they may. Dating is alittle like investing in the Stock Market- when they say, "Past returns are not necessarilly indicative of future results..." -But you almost ALWAYS come out "ahead" if you stay in the Market!!! So go for it, good luck- & hang in there! :)
2007-08-08 01:55:24 · answer #2 · answered by Joseph, II 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop with the victim mentality. If you keep letting yourself feel like a victim, you will keep being a wuss around women. Snap out of it. Who cares about being married for x years? It's ok to be all sensitive... for like 2 seconds before you buck up and be a friggin man.
2007-08-08 01:45:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be your self. Give your self a pat on the back for being such a good guy! If you really like someone tell her how you feel, Not only will it help you build confidence, but It will give you bonus points with the girls. Just don't let your past relationships control who you are. Every woman is different. Good luck!
2007-08-08 01:43:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the best thing for you to do is to have confidence in yourself, most women find confidence attractive. It may be hard for you to do, but remember you are a great guy, and there are not many of those left out there anymore! Trust me there are many women looking for a real genuine man, but always end up hurt, so consider yourself a rarity. be yourself, and dont be afraid, thats when it will all work out for you. best of luck to you!
2007-08-08 01:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by anndal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join the burned club but one thing that has helped me is that life is short and there is lots of bigger better opportunities out there. put on a smile and go have fun with the world. plus u need to ask questions to recieve answers that's the same for letting someone know how u feel because opportunities don't always come your way, take a risk it can be rewarding as well as educational. cheers!!!!
2007-08-08 01:45:39 · answer #6 · answered by Cheekypoo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go for it, and if u get turned down, you'll get more numb to the feeling of rejection...thats how it is for me, and then sometimes they do say yes, so my confidence gets boosted...When I ask someone out, i think "Breathe, this will be in the past a week from now...if u dont, ull regret it..u r funny, nice, attractive...." Just pump urself up-think now or never. Good Luck!!!!!!!!!!!!! ;)
2007-08-08 01:43:20 · answer #7 · answered by ursoolastsumer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of it the way you thought about water when you were learning to swim. Everyone told you to just jump in and get wet and it turned out that was the only way to swim. So when it comes to dating, just jump in! Even if a couple times, you feel like you are sinking, you'll survive and there will be plenty of pleasant experiences overall. Can't experience that standing on 'dry land'!
2007-08-08 01:41:53 · answer #8 · answered by kathyw 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well just be yourself.. there are loads of women who have been through what u have been or been in the same situation as u.. hers a tip... never give a woman security.. seriously.. never show her that u cant liv without her... i have been in your situation and realised that women can be mean enough to take advantage of that.. my apologies to allwomen.. but its a personal opinion {}
2007-08-08 01:47:16 · answer #9 · answered by who ?? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become comfortable with yourself first. It sounds like you have some self-esteem issues to work out within yourself before you need to worry about a female. Take your time...love will find you again.LOL
2007-08-08 01:42:10 · answer #10 · answered by 1+triplets 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋