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Question

I want a true relationship with a guy but my parents say that i cant have one. how do i have a relationshp without my parents knowing or getting suspicious about secret phone calls and going to the movies and such?

Answer 1

Well miss you may not like this answer, but I answer with honest truth and from the heart. Its not really a good idea that you date behind your parents backs. It shows that your not responsible and that you dont care about what your parents say or do. Depending on your age is how you will be treated. Your parents really love you if they treat you like this. This is because their are so many young teens that are getting hurt in relationships these days, and your parents are only trying to save you from getting hurt. Your parents want you to worry about yourself, and figure out what you want to do with the rest of your life. You are so young, and you have a very longtime to date and go into the whole dating world. Miss to be completely honest I am 18 yrs old, and I have never dated a gal before only because I dont want to get hurt, and I dont want to get into bad relationships over and over again. As with me there are some really good women in this world as their are good men. You just have to be patient and wait. As I said miss your parents love you and are only trying to protect you. Plz thank about it. I really hope this helps. If you would like to talk more plz message me. I would be very happy to help you in any way possible. Have a good day miss!

Answer 2

My daughter is wanting the exact same thing as you. My point of view is that she's only 14 and she can go out with a group of friends, but not just one boy. She says her friends are different, and nobody is thinking of anything 'serious' yet - but us parents aren't as silly as we look. We've been where you are now. We want the best for you, and we don't want you getting into any situations that you can't get out of, or that you might regret later. A 14 yr old may not have the experience to make the right decision at the time. You need to be 'true' to yourself, and figure out who you are, before you commit to a 'true relationship' and find real love. I hear my daughter making her secret phone calls late at night - she thinks the music covers her voice, but it doesn't. Don't be sneaky, be honest. You need your parents on your side, not against you.

Answer 3

Ok, lets think a moment. Lets play a game of what if. Lets say for instance that you and the boy whom your parents have forbidden you to go with. However, you turn around and do it behind there back and they find out. How do you think that they would feel? Do you think that they would ever trust you again soon?

You may not realize this now but, your parents are looking out for your best interest. If you truly want to learn how to be an adult go to your parents in a mature and respectful manner and you tell them how you feel. Tell them how responsible you and your BF will be. If they are to allow a probation period, always be back at home when you are expected to be and do things that can earn more trust with your parents.

If you date this guy behind there back, sorry baby girl but you have proved them right in the reasons that they do not want you to go out with him.

Answer 4

i dont believe in lying, but i also dont think there is anything wrong with leaving out details. Just act like what your doing is not a big deal. so your talking on the phone with one of your friends, so your going to the movies with some friends(he just happened to show up) nothing serious Right? If your parents rule the roost dont be sooooooooo serious, your young have fun! Just be safe! Good Luck!

Answer 5

Your parents will find out. It is way too risky if you want to keep their trust. Just talk to them about maybe meeting some friends at the movies. Tell them that you like one of the guys that will be there. Then make sure to invite other friends, so it won't be so much like a date. You are probably too young in your parents eyes. They are trying to protect you.

Answer 6

parents know best. if you're still a minor, listen to them coz it is soo true-- they have walked in the path that you are about to walk. wisdom comes with age. and they have experienced the things you are to experience.

if you are still a student, you're parents have all the right to tell you what you should and shouldn't do in your life. no parent want bad things to happen to their children, that's why they seem protective or too protective.

but if you're already working, and is a grown-up, for sure, you're parents would let you decide on your own.

Answer 7

Now i've been with my bf more than 2 yaers, n my parents know about it 1 year ago. Be4 i also got the same thinking with u, i want to have a bf but parents donno. If u really love that guy n u ald be with him, ur parents will know about it in 1 day even u didn't tell them.

i would like to share with u about my experience. my 1st bf be with me 4 more than half year n we broke up but my parents didn't know about it until now. 4 my 2nd bf also end up with the same ending. there are some same point that cause this happen. that is i don love them at all.

but 4 the bf that i got now my parents started ask some weird question to find out our relationship. my parents also same with yours, they don let me have bf, but after a very long term talk they finally agree to let me hane 1!

SO, i think the best way 4 u is try to talk to ur parents about it. they don let u have bf becuz they care about u. if u try to talk to them nicely maybe they'll change their mind.

if u really want to hide this relatioship. there are also some ways.
1. let ur parents know that he is ur fren n let ur parents know him
2. everytime u go out u bring along ur fren
3. u go out with ur frens then ask him meet u at other places

after i go trough many thing i think the best way is try to talk to ur parents.if u need other advice or need some1 to talk u can add me or e-mail me.

WISH U GOOD LUCK!!!
HOPEFULLY I CAN HELP U.

Answer 8

Try to covense your parents about the relationship or firstly get a cell and say your parents that you are goin out wid your friend (i.e.: a girl) and go , butt don't forget to say your friend about this.

Answer 9

i honestly dont suggest the whole sneaking around method because you're almost bound to get caught when i had my first boyfriend i thought about doing the same thing but i realized it wouldnt be fair to either of us that is one thing that can destroy a relationship the reason why i say this is because eventually your b.f is going to get tired of sneaking around having to call at certain hours or having to wait possibly days at a time before he can see you my mother met my b.f at the time and she liked him you need to prove to your parents that you're mature if you attempt to sneak around and get caught you will have a hard time gaining your trust you never know your parents might approve of your future b.f good luck

Answer 10

introduce him as a best friend then when your parents know him well enough say you really like him (act all confused and inosent) you will have to live through the "talk" and you'll have to pretend your interested in what they have to say but in the end it will work. i've used it before. VERY IMPORTANT they have to know him, like him, and trust him.
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