k i am 17 yr old f, and i was molested 3 years ago by a teacher, i have gotten and am continue to get help but still am in a lot of pain that i sometimes dont know how to handle, i am terrfied of guys and wonder who is going to hurt me next (i dont think all guys are bad, i am just scared), even though i have time till i want to date for marriage I am terrified of tha fact of being touched or even being around guys. What should I do
2007-08-07 18:00:00 · 16 answers · asked by futuredoc 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Take your time, find a guy you like first, don't rush in to it.
When you find that guy that you want to look at Marrying or dating, take things slowly, you can work through these things on your own and the issues will raise again slightly when you get a boyfriend.
Decide, right now what you need in a Husband - partner, in a guy... Ie. One who speaks to me in this manner gently, etc...one who treats women well... etc
2007-08-07 18:17:44 · answer #1 · answered by Abbasangel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your planning on dating a girl and marrying her, it will take time. Thankfully, most girls are understanding and willing to help you be comfortable in a relationship. If you like guys, I think you will need alot of counseling, you need to be able to accept the fact that it wasn't your fault and try and move on. It sounds so simple and I know it's not. Just remember that you can do anything you set your mind to, and over time the pain you feel right now will lessen. Overall you will become a stronger person from this and I know you can overcome this. Just keep a positive attitude and surround yourself by the people you love and feel comfortable with.
2007-08-08 01:07:23 · answer #2 · answered by lil_rebell 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to heal. When you fell that you are ready, and you find a guy that loves you for you. You'll know in your heart. Continue to get help, because the more you get now will help you in the future. Just keep your chin up.
2007-08-08 01:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off from guys, and take your time getting used to them. Remember that not all guys are asses! Also, remember that touching can feel really good. You have plenty of time in your life to feel comfortable w/guys again. In the meantime, concentrate on YOUR future...college, career, etc.
2007-08-08 01:03:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe ur scared caz u r still not really u r still young take ur time i promise u wont always feel that way U WILL COME OUT OF UR BUBBLE !! dont push ur self too hard frist be there friend and have a girlfriend with u when u guy hang out then when u feel confutable with them then go out take one steps at a time !!! do what ever that makes u confutable !!
2007-08-08 01:07:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having exposed the teacher and gotten help yourself I would have thought would allow yourself to realize your in control of your own body , no one else...take relationships slow and allow your partner to understand that intimacy and/or physical touching is a delicate issue with you...you will come to trust those who understand you.
2007-08-08 01:04:27 · answer #6 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
continue to seek out couseling. i was molested by my brother when i was 12, and that altered my sexual development. i was involved in a relationship with a girl which ended, but i know how it feels. you need to heal and find a guy out there who loves you for who you are and just be loved by him. i know it's really tough, but you need to forgive because if you don't it screws you up, not them. bitterness, anger, hatrid, and fear ruin your ability to have a full and prosperous life, so forgive. God can repair all brokeness and hurts. i know. take care.
2007-08-08 01:07:38 · answer #7 · answered by Leila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should try and get used to getting involved with friends that are having boyfriends and they can probably talk you into getting used to guys not alkll guys are bad i am so sorry to here that you were raped at an early age i knoew you feel hurt and just sometimes question yourself why this happened to yourself it wasn't your fault the person that did it was an idiot try and move on there's alot in life for you don't give up
2007-08-08 01:06:54 · answer #8 · answered by rayray17 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hopefully, in time your fears will go away. I suggest just trying to become friends with some guys your age, ones who won't try to take advantage of you. Let yourself build trust, and maybe you'll be able to trust more people.
Hope this helps! God bless!
2007-08-08 01:04:37 · answer #9 · answered by Call Me Sarah 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should continue getting help, especially in the company of others that have been abused. I hope that you've tried to pursue criminal and civil charges against him. It's a way to re-take control.
2007-08-08 01:09:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋