We've gone out for a year and a month. But still, its difficult for me to comprehand her talking to other guys. A thousand worried thoughts rush through my mind of cheating. I TRUST her completly, I just go crazy whenever i think about her and someone else. I mean, i don't tell her about it though. I don't tell her to stop talking to guys, we're supposed to be past that. But in my mind, I really go crazy.
She's moving next week, 6 hours away. For the past year we've been together everyday, I can't even imagine where my mind will wonder about her cheating. I don't understand why I keep thinking about that. Its like im not normal. Thats all i think about when even the slightest hint of her talking to some other guy.
I love her to death, i'd give my life to her. this is the woman i want to marry when i'm older. ((Im a freshman in college by the way)). Why havn't after this one year and one month have i been able to stop getting these crazy thoughts of her cheating? She loves me.
2007-08-07 17:46:39 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
its true what christina said for both guesses, i have been cheated on and my mom accuses my dad of cheating on a daily basis.
so i suppose i bring that into the relationship. not good huh? haha, i'm tired of hurting inside. im just hurting myself thinking about stupid stuff that doesn't exist. do i just slowly tell myself everyday to trust her and push away thoughts of her cheating?
2007-08-07 18:04:37 · update #1
Seek counseling, this is obsessive behavior and is not a good thing.
2007-08-07 17:50:03 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Has she ever given you any specific reasons in the past to be jealous? If not, I'd say to make it a point to hang out with her and her friends in some public place and see how she acts. Talking to the opposite sex can't be avoided, but it goes both ways--ever thought that maybe she becomes a little jealous, also, when you speak to other girls? I'd pay attention to her words and body language when you two are together. Still, it takes two and if you have reason to feel hurt (such as if she goes to clubs often), you might want to have a talk with her, and both agree to something that is fair to everyone (for example: don't keep any secrets and don't visit clubs w/o your significant other, etc). Also, if she is more outgoing than you, realize that you can't change a person anymore than that person can change you. You must either accept her as she is or move on. Speak openly and often in your relationship and, hopely, both sides will benefit from it and form an even stronger bond. Good luck!
2007-08-08 01:14:26 · answer #2 · answered by Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously she's not going to cheat on you if she hasn't, especially if she loves you enough to spend every day with you for that long. Stop stressing out about it, instead of freaking out when she is talking to other men, think about how great you and she are together, maybe she's just helping someone out.
Nip your obsessive thoughts in the bud before it drives a wedge between you, or else it may destroy you and your relationship
2007-08-08 00:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by inquiring mindz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may be worried about her because of the way you act with other girls. If you find yourself easily flirting or checking out other girls, ( even if you dont cheat) it may be way you are so uncomfortable with her talking to guys. Give her the benefit of the doubt and realize just because she is talking to a guy doesn't mean she is into him.
2007-08-08 00:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by shortyj04 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU DON'T TRUST HER AT ALL! Be it something in you or her, but trust is a MUST in a relationship. If you don't have trust, you have nothing. I really don't think you are capable of having a long distance relationship, in part because they are hard period, also because of your age, and most importantly, your lack of trust. I am sure you communicate this to her, either verbally, or non-verbally. I would not be in a relationship where mutual trust was not a given....just my thoughts...
2007-08-08 00:53:08 · answer #5 · answered by Vee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that maybe someone in the past cheated on you and you are bringing it to this relationship or you have seen your parents cheat on each other or she cheating on you before and now you think she will do it again. get it out of your head, she is a good girl and she loves you and you think bad of her. love her and appreciate her. dont think bad of her or bad will come to you. be positive. good luck.
2007-08-08 00:58:31 · answer #6 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to trust your girlfriend if you want it to work, obviously you do. so you need to accept the fact she's going to talk to other guys and you're going to talk to other girls. don't get jealous because if you talk to girls she's obviously going to talk to guys. all girls are friends with guys. hell my best friend is a guy. you're going to have to tell yourself she isn't going to cheat on you. and if she loves you, she won't.
2007-08-08 00:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by gimps 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell her how you feel and she will totally understand i am who wouldnt worry about that kind of thing i mean i sure did and alot
2007-08-08 00:53:08 · answer #8 · answered by Mrs.NICK.JONAS!!!! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let her leave the house. that way she can't cheat on you. chain her to something heavy and don't forget to feed and water her.
2007-08-08 00:50:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Tell her where you're going. Women are always wondering where you're at. Just call her when you're out and check up on her, tell her where you're at. That way, you can check up on HER and she can check up on YOU at the same time.
2007-08-08 00:50:03 · answer #10 · answered by Adam J 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋