How to deal with our first time?

Question

My girlfriend and I are looking to have sex for the first time and she has some fears about the pain, i understand completely that this is why she is somewhat apprehensive about it. So really we just need to some suggestions as to how to get around the pain factor or just make things as comfortable for her as possible.

Answer 1

You should just wait until you know the time is right and when you think the time is Right just go with the flow and don't worry about anything ..... But You should wait untill marriage

Answer 2

First of all, I just want to state that I personally believe two individuals are ready for sex when they are mature enough to deal with potential negative consequences (STDs, unexpected pregnancy, emotional ties, etc.). Please make sure that both of you are at this point.

Assuming you are at this point, please make sure that you are using protection. It wouldn't be a bad idea for your girlfriend to look into birth control pills as well--using a combination of the Pill and condoms will lessen the risk of unwanted pregnancy.

Okay...so now to answer your question!! Every woman is different. Some women experience pain and/or bleeding, while others do not. I can personally say that while I did not bleed my first time, the pain was excruciating. In fact, it hurt my second time as well. However, after talking with other female friends, I find that my first-time experience is uncommon. Most stated that they felt discomfort or only slight, temporary pain. A few said they felt no discomfort or pain at all.

The best thing you can do as the man is to listen and watch for your girlfriend's reaction. Let her know it's okay if she needs to stop for any reason. I would also suggest making sure that you have spent plenty of time on foreplay--this is essential for women.

I could go on with more specific suggestions, but I don't feel entirely comfortable posting them here. If you have further questions, please feel free to e-mail me.

EDIT: I just finished reading a post that someone made suggesting to use lube. This is NOT something I would suggest for the simple reason that a woman's body is meant to lubricate on its own, if the woman is ready. If her body is not ready for sex, using a fake lube (like KY or Astroglide) is not going to help her be ready, and you could injure her. If she's too nervous and unable to get "wet", then you both need to wait until the right time.

Answer 3

Is this physical pain or the possible emotional pain she will have after losing something so precious in today's day and age? Her apprehension is a good thing. Until SHE moves beyond it, back off. Sexual intimacy is only partially about the body. Ensure her mind is in the right place and her heart is with the right person. Any physical discomfort can be overcome if all the factors involved in meaningful sex have been properly disciplined.

Answer 4

Might want to think about marriage, but for now. Go very slow, do some foreplay first for a while to get in the mood, use lubricant, astroglide works best, but it might make you go in faster than you want to, so be careful. It will hurt some, no matter what the first time. It wasn't really that bad for me, just kind of annoying, but it didn't take away from the overall enjoyment. Just realize, that pleasure often comes at a great price. It shouldn't hurt so much the next time.

Answer 5

missionary position and ask her if it hurts too much sometimes, I would also say her on top so she controls which is comforting for her she can get off easily or if she is ok she can move a bit faster or lower.

Personally I didn't have a good experience with that position but it's not because it happened to me that it will to you. One of my ex even though it wasn't our first time she went on top and she wanted to go at it deeper because she was confident everything will be fine and she teared herself a bit not funny when it hurts down there. Another time she wanted to go deep and fast she lower herself to fast and too hard, I hit something hard it hurt and she was hurt way worst then I was. We had to go to the hospital and the doctor told me with big eyes to go easy on her because I moved some organs. My girlfriend was so shocked by that fact and the way the doctor was looking at me as if it was my fault that she started laughing so hard the doctor didn't know why and after a while she was able to tell the doctor that she was on top. Then the doctor looked at me all funny. Since then woman on top has to be softcore or else I get worried it happens again.

Answer 6

I would make sure that you both are married, or at the very least engaged before you even THINK about having sex. You don't want to end up in the same position that my sister has ended up in at the tender age of 16, a child raising a child. I know you two want to get your rocks off, but please, please, look past that and look into what the future might hold.

At the very least, use protection or don't do it at all!

Answer 7

make sure you please her until she is crazy and then do it. My first time hurt and I bled a little but it felt so good at the same time. Kind of like good pain. Make sure you make it all about her. It won't hurt you and if you really love her then you will do whatever you can not to hurt her any more then it is going to already. Also go slow and listen to what she says. If she says stop because it's hurting her then stop.

Answer 8

Just take it slow! Lots of foreplay, make sure she is "wet" before you actually start intercourse. As always use protection. It will only "hurt" her at the very beginning. (really I wouldn't describe it as pain, more like its uncomfortable at the beginning) After you get going she should be OK. Have fun!

Answer 9

Do it missionary style it is the easiest and great for a first time. Make sure she is good and wet too cause it hurts if your not. Make sure its romantic and something you'll want to remember for the rest of your life.

Answer 10

You deal with it in marriage, and you abandon the thought of doing it now.

In other words, marry the girl or don't use her, according to the advice of the liberal agenda. What do they know, and how have they ever helped the world?

With their philosophy of: "If it feels good then do it," everyone could eat themselves under the table and balloon up to 300 pounds, if not 400.

There reasons you don't have sex until you're married, but the answers of liberals always have to do with "safe sex", condoms and other stupidity, and sometimes involve the downright corrupt, such as abortion, as a remedy for their dysfunctional mentality and behavior.

Liberalism is a mental disease and sex before marriage is the primary indication.