My nephew recently passed away, should I send a sympathy card?

Question

I really feel badly for my sister and her husband, but we haven't spoken in years. I can't imagine losing a child and wish to express to her that my heart truly goes out to them both. But I don't want to upset her anymore by hearing from someone she doesn't want to hear from, but my heart tells me to send it anyway because I do care.

Answer 1

Yes, it's time to reach out ... send a card .. but one from the heart, and make sure she knows how much you care. It's at times like this that family needs to forgive, also if you can look into going to the wake. Go with another family member and/or make sure you hug your sister, she needs you right now, she just doesn't know it.

Answer 2

When your heart speaks ..do it. During this time of loss (and it being a child) any words of comfort is welcomed. I know when Mom died that even the cards that came 6 weeks later made me feel good that someone was caring !
Send it as soon as possible and you may also mend some feelings that will turn back into friendship again. God Bless

Answer 3

Definitely, 100%, absolutely send the card. Don't write a long mushy message, maybe just a brief handwritten note saying what you said here. You can't imagine her pain, and your heart goes out to her. If you want her in your life, it would be OK to say you miss her, but leave it at that.

Not sending a card sends as strong a message as sending one.

My condolences to you and your sister.

Answer 4

no, you shouldn't send a sympathy card, you should show up at her door and give her a bear hug, let her cry on your shoulder. she is your SISTER after all, and she needs all the support she can get. her son died, not some distant relative, not her neighbor, this is the child she carried in her womb. it doesn't matter if you haven't spoken in years or not, she needs to know that she has support from even the ones she thought she didn't. this is a prime opportunity to be back in each others' lives. don't let it slip away with some puny $3.49 hallmark card.

Answer 5

Oh yes, please do. Go get the best card you can find. Write a note on a separate piece of paper. Losing a child is terrible. Open your heart to them. If you never hear back, so be it. But, you did the right thing

Answer 6

Please listen to your heart. Whatever has come between you and your sister in the past, none of that matters now. You can let her know that in this darkest time of hers, you are here for her. This is an opportunity for you to be the arms of comfort that she needs, whether she reaches back to you or not. Know that she really will appreciate the gesture. So sorry for the loss of your nephew.

Answer 7

Yes I would, even if you have not spoken it is a polite way to share your concern. I would in your situation. And it also saves from years down the road you feeling guilty ( although I understand that this isn't about how you feel it's about her and her grief.), and causing even more of a riff between you because you didn't.

I'm sorry for your loss.

Answer 8

I think that u shud send one. And maybe it will bring u and ur sister even closer. If not, u shud try to keep in touch w/ her. But by her not getting one, it may make her feel worse, like u don't care.

Answer 9

if he passed a while ago then dont. I think you should call if you can and ask if there would be a time to mend things up with them too. If she doesnt want to there hasnt been much time for her to heal. But, if she knows that your intensions are true everything will be alright

Answer 10

;-{ "Look,' at a time like this.. Why do'nt you feel that it's YOUR DUTY to <>!?! a card is an ?OK? gesture!?! But a call is more personal/caring~!!! Now is this like a 1/2 sister or something? You truly do'nt seem to MEe as caring or concerned as you could or should be !?! ;-{} WHATEVER Y O U think's best ok !?! ' ;-{} "R"r`r,r'r,r`.'->