I met this girl 2 weeks ago, and I think I like her. But we haven't dated or anything, because every time we get together, it's at a club, or a restaurant, and it's with her friends. We haven't dated yet, or hung out just the two of us. When we went to this one restaurant last Sunday, she was upset with me because I didn't offer to pay for her. I didn't think it was appropriate for me to offer to pay, since we haven't dated yet. She thinks I should have paid for her as a way to show I am interested in her. Does this make any sense to you, do you think I did anything wrong?
2007-08-07 16:49:56 · 17 answers · asked by Jason 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
"She thinks I should pay for her as a way to show I am interested in her" ... um, she obviously already knows you are interested then. Why does she need a sign? Why is she asking you to pay for her? That's really undignified. She's just asking for stuff. Sounds like a freeloader. It sucks that you like her - you can't choose who you like unfortunately.
"Do you think I did anything wrong?" - No way. What are you supposed to do? Completely financially support someone as soon as you start to feel something for them. Ridiculous! Don't let it trouble you.
2007-08-08 02:44:17 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you have to see it from her point of view. Yes, traditionally, the guy pays to show he's interested. She probly just got her hopes up too high and expected you to reciprocate the feelings she felt for you by paying for dinner. However, that is a very silly thing to get upset over. It should leave you questioning who she really is before you start a relationship..
good luck!
2007-08-07 17:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Avery K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF you aren't dating or at least interested in each other, then you should have split the tab. You pay yours, she pays hers. If there was real interest, you'd pick up the tab. A man should always pick up the tab on a first date. Remember, I said 'DATE', not a 'get-together-with-friends' thing. Skip her, go to the next one.
2007-08-07 16:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by Jose 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The way i see it, thats her idea of what a gentleman SHOULD be, and i agree with you. You're only just friends that met 2 weeks ago. I don't think you should be paying for her.
2007-08-07 16:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you invited her on a date ? did she assume you did ? then she would have expected you to pay. But, if you ask to go out as freinds and made her aware it wasn't a date then you were not responable for paying. if you like her and want to go out again you need to explain the situation and make it clear who is paying if you go out again.
2007-08-07 16:58:19 · answer #5 · answered by kat M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it! If she is soo mad about this! Oh my are you in trouble! Sounds as if you did the right thing. See now your seeing the other side of her. Looks aren't everything. Well maybe. Dang dude! Sorry.
2007-08-07 17:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Jason since she not your gf I don't see what she complaining about. I think it was rude of her to expect you to pay for her. If this the childish way she behaves then she not worth it.
2007-08-07 16:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think you did, unless she hinted beforehand that she wanted you to pay. If she did, it would have been good to take the hint, but otherwise, no, you didn't.
2007-08-07 16:53:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if ti wasnt a date why should you have paid ?
however tell her what you thought, and ask to 'make it up to her'
and if she is still upset then dump her
2007-08-07 16:52:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you hve to admit its kind of traditional for the man to pay it is a sign that you have feelings for someone and its polite
2007-08-07 16:53:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋