your own mother... when this is the person who slanders and distors all that you are and all you have done?
2007-08-07 16:02:47 · 7 answers · asked by Donna Le Oiseau de Feu 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Honey.....you pray.Prayer can move a mountain as long as you have faith and believe.I am going to pray for you now....
Dear Lord I bring this young woman before you and pray that you ease her troubled heart.She is going through a period in her life where she needs help and support.Give her comfort and let her know that this will be for a season and that all things will work for her good oh GOD.
Help her not to hold malice in her heart and may she find peace,love,joy and comfort in your arms.
In Jesus name, Amen.
2007-08-07 16:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by Chara 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Learn to live your life without her being involved in it.
We cannot pick our parents, but when we become adults, we have the right to choose who is involved in our life.
My own Mom had a lot of difficulties in life, and if she were alive today she would definitely be diagnosed with a series of disorders, including bi-polar.
I learned at a very young age to depend on my Dad, and work my way around her moods and impossible demands.
Once I attained adulthood and had finished my undergraduate degree, I moved forward in my life and kept contact with my Mom to a bare minimum, and my life was much better because of it.
It was sad to have to live that way, but sometimes removing a toxic relationship from your life is the only way you can live and have a life of your own.
If you know you are a good person, and are doing well; that is what counts. The good thing that I learned from having to deal with my Mom was to never treat my children in the way that I was treated; and that turned out to be a great lesson.
Best of luck to you, be strong for yourself and your future.
2007-08-07 23:30:45 · answer #2 · answered by Sue F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your mom is so afraid of failing you as a mother that she's trying altogether TOO HARD and fails because of her fear. She paints everything negative because she is trying to protect you from everything.
Even if she has the best of intentions, I know how hard it is to take...my mom tried to apologize for everything when she was on her deathbed, and I said, "no mom it wasn't you it was all MY fault." Later, after she was dead, I realized how mean I was to not let her apologize, and not say "I forgive you."
Try to understand that you will see her differently when you are closer to her age. Meanwhile, do the best you can to hold on to your self-esteem.
I don't know how old you are, but you seem pretty close to adult. Just be sure to give yourself a good life, things will get easier for you.
2007-08-08 06:51:33 · answer #3 · answered by Dr. Souldogs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bully, Bully! The Invisible Man
2007-08-07 23:24:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i really dont know how to answer your question, because sometimes i feel this way too, and the only way i handle it is to push the emotions involved, away. emotions like anger, sadness, hopelessness.
i just pretend nothing happens, because whoever believes ur mom's slanders and mis-truths are just what they are, stupid. so i just dont care. whoever wants to believe it will have my disdain lol. they will judge for themselves.
2007-08-08 06:27:02 · answer #5 · answered by nobodyknowsme™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I dont know why I am "scared" of my mother.
She is actually loves me but with her own "style".
I just simply love her and care for her, for the sake of my submission to my God. And it is fine by me. it is harder when i am against her, it's not worth.
I really know she loves me, but gosh ...........we are so different.
I dont choose her as my mother! She was given to me with all her goods and bads.
The hardest person to "obey" is mothers. That's why, my prophet s.a.w. said, your mother .....your mother...... your mother .... .
What I try to do, is not like my mother's behaving and doing to me when I deal with my child.
I try to understand and to ajust with my son's feelings and thoughts, and it is not easy. It's worst when he's married.
My life is worshipping God, accepting the difference between me and my parents, between me and my sister and brother, and between me and my child , are the most difficult tasks.
The easiest one is dealing with others ,second was dealing with my husband.
With others I can ignore.
With husband I could discuss as well as argue and love.
2007-08-08 03:34:04 · answer #6 · answered by bill s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grow up fast, move out soon! If you have already moved out, then just keep contacts with her as minimal as possible. Life's too short to be miserable because of ingrates and their kind.
2007-08-07 23:08:51 · answer #7 · answered by The Invisible Man 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋