2007-08-07 15:47:48 · 21 answers · asked by Ibeebill 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Hello, I know this is gonna' sound strange, but you asked the question!(just remember that!) O.K. When my nine year old son had passed away, it was in the middle of the night. I had never been in the presence of anyone who's body was dead, before. Neither had I ever been to a funeral. that is not to say I'd never lost a loved one, just not someone 'so close'.
Anyway, I was in a bit of a state of shock, and grief. Alot of decisions had to be made and in a short order of time. The 'memorial service' was gonna' have to be scheduled for only 2 1/2 days after he died. I, being his mother, was not ready to be 'separated' from him by '6 feet of soil.' So, I indirectly opted for cremation. I figured, in some small way, I could still 'feel' close to him. No 'human words' can describe the excruciating pain I felt when the woman at the funeral home handed me a 'little box' and said, "Here's your son." I am sure my heart broke into almost as many fragments as there were ashes in that box! I brought 'it/him' home and placed it in my closet till I could figure out what to do. My other child was very curious, I did'nt want him to open the box. Anyway, about four months after Matthew's soul & spirit went to Heaven, God gave me the idea and the courage to know what to do with my son's ashes. He directed me to put them inside his favorite teddy bear. It was a huggable sized bear, that he always slept with, ever since he recieved it for christmas. That way we could 'somehow still hug him' even if it was only for our own comfort. It was a good idea, I'm glad God thought of it! It came in handy through many tearful nights for my son Jonathan & me. No, that was'nt 'normal' but it sure was more comforting than any other option I had at the time! Sincerely, Rose
2007-08-07 16:49:42 · answer #1 · answered by God's Fountain Pen 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Many are placed in a Urn then buried or placed in an above ground mausoleum. Some spread them in a favorite place, some the family keeps.
Lady I know, lost baby at birth when she was out-of-country. The baby was cremated and will be buried with the mom when she passes.
2007-08-07 15:51:25 · answer #2 · answered by Devon 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some people bury the ashes in a grave next to a love one.
2007-08-07 15:53:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Really it varies greatly from family to family, and person to person. Often the person who is cremated has some specific purpose for thier own cremains. I know some spread the ashes somewhere that is of importance to them/their family/the deceased person. So far we have both my grandmothers, my father, and my dog in urns on shelves in the living room.
2007-08-07 15:53:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ish Var Lan Salinger 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cremations shrink the physique to bone fragments, which aare then run by means of a pulveriser (which grids the bones to something like sand or powder; it extremely is not probably ashes.). talk with a very good crematorium interior the section the place he lives to work out in the event that they are able to (legally) launch the bones to the kin, to allow for the classic ceremony.
2016-10-14 09:20:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some bury them in a family plot... Some have the ashes scattered in a place the deceased wished. Some keep them in their homes...
2007-08-07 15:55:53 · answer #6 · answered by Thunderrolls 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Some keep them in an urn, or spread them in a garden or favorite piece of the earth.
With no instructions, the living heirs do with them as they will or if there is a will, the executor follows the instructions to the best of their ability.
2007-08-07 15:59:15 · answer #7 · answered by Jeremiah 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
so keep the ashes in the house on a mantel piece, most spread the ashes over the person's fav place, or just somewhere beautiful.... some in gardens or over rivers, etc etc
2007-08-07 15:50:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
To answer simply.
Scatter them ( ocean, park, lake..etc etc)
Keep them in an urn at home
Keep them in an urn in a columbarium ( a cemetary for urns if you wish...)
bury them
Also, I've heard one case of a man mixing his dogs ashes in his tattoo- in memory of his life with his 17 year old dog.
2007-08-07 16:13:15 · answer #9 · answered by SolarSoul 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well...nothing. they are deceased :-/ but i would WANT mine sprinkled across my very favorite place on earth. of course, i have no idea what that would be...but someplace serine and beautiful. i think it's odd when people keep ashes on a mantle or something. i can't believe in heaven and recognize bones as my loved one. just seems odd. i rather just close my eyes and feel their spirit.
2007-08-07 15:58:05 · answer #10 · answered by sexy law chick 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋