Having Sex with your friend?

Question

I have this girl thats a friend I have been hanging out with for years. For most of the time, I haven't thought of her as anything but a friend. But lately, when we shoot the crap and do stuff like watch movies together on my bed, she will put her head on my lap and watch or even nap. I obviously grow when she does this, but it is like she doesn't notice. Sometimes she falls asleep right there and I have to bite my tongue. She will change in front of me, but never to the point of ever getting nude. I am getting a mixed message here. What should I do?

Answer 1

she is comfortable with your friendship but it wont hurt to let her know how you feel towards her never know.

Answer 2

Sounds to me like one of two things, either she is totally comftable in your company and there is no way on earth you should ever spoil that, even the slightest mention of 'growing' and you could ruin your friendship forever.....

Or....

She wants you so bad she is literally dying inside a little everytime she sees you and you don't do a thing about it which is slowly driving her mad with lust..... and if you did do something about it, well it could turn out to be the best decision you ever made....

Heres the real catch 22 tho, you say something, and your wrong, well goodbye close friend no matter what she says things will never be the same between you, but you don't do something and you could be saying goodbye to the love of your life....

Heres my suggestion, take a box of kleenex, go to the tiolet, make the 'growing' stop, then go back and start a convo about how funny it would be if you were seeing eachother, point out the fact that you pretty much are except the whole no sex thing, and then see if she takes it from there.....

Good luck your gona need it.

Answer 3

If you've been friends that long you should be about to talk to her straight up. Just come right out with it so there aren't mixed signals. They say the best way to start a relationship is being friends first. But keep in mind that if you decide to take that step towards a relationship things will never be the same between you. And if things should happen to not work out would it have been worth losing the friendship that you had? Good Luck!

Answer 4

I think she just feels comfortable with your friendship. Don't jump to conclusions!

LOADS of girls lay their heads on people's laps to nap... That's just a sign of a good, strong, healthy friendship.

If she's changing infront of you but never to the point of getting nude then she's modest, but it could be that she sees you as a friend enough to be alright with this.. IT DOES NOT MEAN THAT SHE'S MESSED UP. It just means that you two have a really good bond going on there.

A lot of friends I know behave like this. It does not mean that they want to have sex. But if you have to ask, then a friendship like that shouldn't become damaged or anything =] Investigate, subtly. Ask if she likes anyone currently, for example, if she hesitates and says no then this could be a hugeee hint and ask further questions that won't give you away.

Answer 5

Next time something like that happens, back away very gently, maintain eye contact and tell her you're having trouble. Tell her you've become attracted to her over time and that you don't want to give HER the wrong idea. Don't tell her she's giving you mixed signals, that's a cop out/she already knows it and is waiting for you to say how you feel. So just be honest and say you care about her and that you want to get to know her more intimately. She'll most likely be honored. Then the conversation should get interesting...

Answer 6

ok yea i would never change in front of guy who i thought was JUST a friend. She's testing you...wondering if you'll do anything. If she's being like this with you, then give back the good feelings. If she reacts the wrong way, then she's messed up.

Answer 7

wowzers, i had the same thing happen 2 weeks ago!!! i wanted a bit of both but when i put my head in his lap, i didnt realise the effect i had on her. i never saw that guy in sexual way or in a more than friends kind of way. but if i thought bout it carefully, i realised i did have feelings. so wat im trying to say is that maybe she likes u or is sending signals and not realisng that she's sending them... talk to her. thats the only way to find out. oh wow, i just read what everyone else sed.. and i really dont like playing games with guys like yoos. its stupid and i waste of time... games?? omg. pathetic. most people aren't even aware that they are doing it. not all girls are like u. sorry.

Answer 8

she seems really really comfortable around you. It may be that she just sees you as a great friend and just doesnt see you two together that way or you even thinking that way about her so she just does all that stuff cuz you guys are close....
orr she could be hinting or trying to get you all worked up, talk to her about it or make a move...maybe mention it in a joke and see what she says....you feel me?

Answer 9

IM having the same problem only with a guy (im a girl) I would definatly make the move it is a huge plus when the guy makes a move and dosent count on you to do it.

Answer 10

Ask her what the deal is... I have lots of platonic guy friends and those are not things you do with a guy who is "just a friend" I think she likes you and is giving you hints, but wants you to make the move.

Answer 11

Obviously she waiting for you to make the move. Now is the time, if you could see yourself with her in the future, if not, don't do it, it will ruin the friendship you have with her. Or you could just move over.