If she has
-lack of self esteem, very wary and nervous around men.
What would you suggested to make this women feel like she means the world to you.
What would you do to improve her self image and make her a better person in this world?
Make her more outgoing?
Make her happy?
Any advice is appreciate. Thank You!
2007-08-07 15:43:40 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I HAVEN'T RAISED MY VOICE AT HER AND I AM NOT GOING TOO.
I AM VERY CALM AROUND HER, I SUCK MY ANGER IN IF I GET ANGRY.
2007-08-07 15:59:16 · update #1
SORRY I CAN'T MAKE ANYONE DO ANYTHING YOU ARE RIGHT...I SHOULD SHOW HER.
2007-08-07 17:48:56 · update #2
treat her like she is a queen. tell her how much she means to you, compliment her on small things, take her on romantic dates, open doors for her, stand up when she does, push in her chair, make her feel like she is the most beautiful special thing in the world. do that and you may have true love on ur hands
2007-08-07 15:49:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Codex,
You can not "make" your new girlfriend (or potential new girlfriend) do anything.
The only thing you can do is show her that not all men are pigs or a**holes, by not going over the top, but not backing off completely. Take her out for dinner once a month (not always on the same day or date), or do something with her that you wouldn't normally do (like ice skating if she's into that, or learning to dance or whatever she's into!).
Your objective is to make her happy, and improve her self image of herself. Just listen to your intuition (yes, it's really in there!!!!!) and let her guide you. When she's ready to trust, she'll send you loud, clear signals - you just have to know how to read them.
Hope this helps!
2007-08-07 22:50:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mama_Miiiiiiia 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her. Look deeply into her eyes. The eyes are the window to the soul, and this is how most women determine whether a guy is "safe" to open up to. Listen to her life story, as this is something that likely nobody else has ever done before. Find out what her life dreams are, and see what you can do to make those dreams come true. Tell her that she is beautiful inside and out. In due time, you will get to see a beautiful flower that you thought looked almost wilted come back to life.
2007-08-07 22:51:02 · answer #3 · answered by Theodore H 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As someone who was in this position I would recommend making her feel like your queen. Wrap your arms around her and tell her how beautiful she is, how you could never see her hurt, how you will always love her and be there for her. Lift her chin look into her eyes and tell that she is beautiful and you would never do a thing to risk losing her. Try to never raise your voice to her If you are angry and think you may yell tell her you need to be alone for a couple of minutes and come back and talk to her calmly. In time she will learn to trust you and begin to love her self again. Good luck!
2007-08-07 22:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by *Amanda* 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will not be able to make her happy until she can fully trust you. Do sweet things like a thinking of you card, or pick a flower out of someone garden for her, or call her when you hear her favorite song on the radio to let her know it made you think of her. Never raise your voice to her, don't watch violent movies. Cook for her... don't be too physical with her. Start out by touching her hand and holding it. then putting your arm around her kneck or waist, only 1 arm. if you put 2 arms around she may feel trapped and push you away.
2007-08-07 22:49:53 · answer #5 · answered by krazyraider0516 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am with a woman with a similar past....worthless ex husband!
The best advise that I can give is to never show aggression. She will probably always have that fear but if you are kind gentle and caring then she will trust you at some point. Never bring up the past...let that be on her terms. It is a different situation for every individual but just show unconditional love.
Good luck
2007-08-07 22:49:39 · answer #6 · answered by WB78 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say just be patient with her..women that have been abused need to be handled with care. I can tell you though that sometime's it is better for a woman to learn to love herself before involving herself in another relationship.
Education- is she interested in pursuing? This is a great self esteem boost (as long as u do well)
Vacations, Therapy, Counseling is needed, self-finding, books, ect
2007-08-07 22:49:59 · answer #7 · answered by kim g 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Treat her like a goddess. Let every thing go slow and at Her pace. She will be forever grateful if you do. It will really show you care and respect her. Dont overly do it. Just be there for her when she wants to talk but dont pry and dont push. Be patient, and something really good could come of this.
2007-08-07 22:48:18 · answer #8 · answered by Backwoods Cutie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like any other woman, like a lady. Treat her kindly and don't force issues. Right now, she probably needs a friend and a feeling of self-worth more than anything else. Be that friend and give her that feeling.
2007-08-07 22:52:26 · answer #9 · answered by Tom K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Speaking from experience. You treat her the same as you would any other woman that you love.
The issues you described above, are hers. Not yours. She will either deal with them, get help dealing with them. Or she won't.
All you can do, is be there for her. And be supportive of her.
NOTHING you say, will change anything.
EVERYTHING you do, can change some things.
Be prepared for a bumpy ride.
2007-08-07 22:49:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋