My sibblings never really have to do anything, unless they are asked to several times by my mother. I on the other hand am expected to clean and cook and on the few off days that i don't she (my mother) give's me an attitude for not doing what she didn't have to ask me to do. If she is really so worried about the dishes being done or having a meal when she comes home-- why dosen't she just tell her other lovely children, who lie around here doing nothing. I am so sick of her serving my sibblings first, and only being happy with me when I work alll the time! So freaken unfair! what should I do?
2007-08-07 15:20:43 · 8 answers · asked by breezy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
There is a wise saying that what does not kill you only makes you stronger. I grew up with the same problem you have. I decided at a very young age that my attitude about things I had no control over made a difference on my own happiness. I decided, I have to do everything around here no matter if it is fair or not, so I will just do it and stop crying about it. It was really weird how things changed. For one, my Mom noticed and started making my other siblings do some stuff too. Second, I started feeling good about what all I could do. Try it and see what happens. What do you have to lose?
2007-08-07 15:29:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how old you are but I gather you're the oldest of the children. Tell your mother how you feel and ask her why you have to do more than your siblings. If you don't communicate with her she won't know how you feel.
Perhaps she is working and too tired for the aggravation of harping at the others when you have shown maturity and helped out.
Perhaps you could cook enough for several days in one day and then ask that your mother designate the others to do the dishes and cleaning. You'll never know unless you speak up. I'm sure you'll find that your mother appreciates your help. Good luck.
2007-08-07 22:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by Frosses 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it may sound really unfair i was the oldest of 6 I don't even think i was ever asked or told it was just expected and i know about siblings that don't help then i would end up fighting with them to try to get some help out of not make them do everything just help out dishes , something anything when we fought mom would get mad at me and say some off the wall **** when i got older and had to go to work i understand about needing help and being tired after working all day it really hard having someone expect so much out of you i mean when do you get to be a kid. how old are you anyway your not like 18 plus living at moms do you work if not and your 16 and older you can get a job and go to work that was the way out for me
2007-08-07 22:50:27 · answer #3 · answered by melanie o 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would appear that you are the older child and a girl to boot.Hence, you will always be "the second mother" expected to help raise them especially if they are still little.I will suggest that you talk to your mother letting her know just how tough it is for you to do all the things she expects of you.Let her know that you want to do everything she wants but to please let you 1)use the older siblings to help with the small chores around the house2)give you some time to focus on your studies and your self as well as your job.Hopefully, this will endear you to her as she will see that not only are you willing to help, but you're actually thinking about how to streamline everything.Whatever you do , be polite and have a smile on your face in order to disarm her anger.Even if she does not agree to all you say,she will see the wisdom in your words and actions and might be more apt to compromise with you.I wish you the best.
2007-08-08 23:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by abbeycoolit 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aw, i'm sorry! my family too. my parents think cuz i'm the oldest i should do everything that they don't want to and somehow my siblings never have to do anything...sadly, i don't have an solution. i tried to tell my mom but i'm not really a type of 'lets-talk-about-our-feelings' type person and she's a *****, so whatever. i rebelled, and moved into a friend's house. i'm sorry, i can't be more helpful...just think about when u can go to college and never have to do anything for anyone except your self!!!
2007-08-07 22:26:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anachronism 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to have an open and frank discussion with your mother about this.
No yelling or screaming,just explain to her how you feel.Give her a chance to explain to you the reason why she does this and come to a compromise.
Good Luck.
2007-08-07 22:27:10 · answer #6 · answered by sonnyboy 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could always sit down and talk to her about how you feel.
2007-08-07 22:25:12 · answer #7 · answered by Fisher K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it, no yelling.
if that fails, go on strike.
2007-08-07 22:29:55 · answer #8 · answered by KRIS 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋