I am a completely devoted Christian & I believe in God fully. But right now I'm wondering how this could happen. My Grandpa (whom I loved like my father) died when I was 5. Now his wife is living alone with a bad case of alheimzers (I dont know if I spelled i right, but its pronounced all-timers) And it gets worse everyday. I also have 2 great-grandparent. One is 95 & the other is 97. They are showing their age & are also slowly fading. I was just wondering...how could God let the people I thought of as firm rocks to support me slowly die away. Now it's like I have to treat them as children rather than older adults. I'm scared that I'm going to lose them all at the same time. I can't handle losing 3 people I love so much all at once. It would be traumatic & depressing. I've prayed for God to help them live as long as possible. I just don't know what to do. Do I believe God has a reason for this? I feel like my faith in God is slipping!! Help!!
2007-08-07 14:23:54 · 10 answers · asked by beat2ofthedrum 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I know its hard to watch the people you love age and die.But from the sounds of it they have lived long,full lives. Why don't you ask them how they feel about passing on? It is not fair to ask God to let them live longer so you don't have to deal with their passing. They may have people who have passed on to whom they are ready to see again. And if they are suffering mentally or physically why would you want to prolong that? God has his reasons for everything and everyone's faith slips now and again.But you need to talk to your Grandparents about your feelings. I'd bet that they can help you feel better about their ageing and inpending deaths.
2007-08-08 02:09:46 · answer #1 · answered by gypsymamma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately no one can help you with your faith. That's something personal between you and God. However, I understand completely what you are going through. I lost all of my grandparents with whom I was extremely close to in 3 months. It's a difficult thing to deal with but in the end life can't go on forever and you have to look for the positives. You have to spend as much time with them now as you can because it may not be there very much longer. You should also be grateful that your greatgrandparents are still around. Try asking them things about their lives and different stories they can tell you if possible because those are the things you can keep with you. A picture is one thing, but KNOWING who the person is in that picture 20 years down the road is monumentally more important.
2007-08-07 21:30:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey we are all going to die. Just as we can't choose the time of our death, we can't choose the time for others either. They have lived long lives and for that they are fortunate.
As for your grandfather's wife, I suggest getting home health care or putting her into a nursing home. She should not be living alone and you could help get someone to take care of her.
Now is not the time to lose faith in God. Now is the time to lean on God to get you thru this. There is sorrow in every life but God is the only one who can comfort and strengthen you.
2007-08-07 21:32:31 · answer #3 · answered by Prof Fruitcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Georgia P's answer has me almost in tears. I hope you pick that one as the "Best Answer".
I also lost my last two Grandparents within one week of each other, right before Christmas; it is very tough. When the time comes, as it does for all of us, take time to mourn for sure.
But also try to focus on the joy and the memories of these relationships and maybe be thankful for how long you had them around, how lucky you are to have known and loved such wonderful people, and remember we never really do say good-bye; just "see you on the other side" :)
2007-08-07 22:00:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Part of life is death. I am sorry that so many of the people you love are sick, but living until their 90's is wonderful! My dad only lived to 60, and my grandfathers lived until their 50's. Please do not base your faith on whether or not things happen the way you wish they could honey. Thank God for so many wonderful people in your life! Some children have no one that shows love to them. Keep close to God, and love your family while you have them.
2007-08-07 21:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, don't fault God for not keeping promises that He didn't make. We all get sick, we all suffer, we all die. That's part of life. The important thing is that we live our lives well, and that we spend eternity with God. He didn't promise us a smooth ride in this life.
2007-08-07 21:29:10 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff A 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's the cycle of life. It can be very hard but it will happen. You've done what you can, now let nature take its' course. Accept it instead of dread it, it will make it less painful.
I've always respected the saying "life was never meant to be fair".
2007-08-07 21:30:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
they are gonna die God or no God, thats part of life. But its understandable to want to blame someone or something. Don't beat yourself up for questioning your faith.
2007-08-07 21:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be thankful that they lived long enough for you to know them. I will pray God give you strength through this.
2007-08-07 21:28:41 · answer #9 · answered by RB 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
its hard but everyone has their time u know ..its part of our human experience .. love them and cherish the time u do have with them before they are gone ..
2007-08-07 21:27:58 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋