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I've been dying a little every day for the past 2 years because the only person that I want is the only person I can't ever be with. They like all the same music as me, watch the same shows, same movies, same basic taste in clothes, go to the same school, same religion, HECK, our MOMS are even good friends. I
I've been trying really hard to get over this person for a long time, but I just can't seem to. How do I let go? Or can i even do that?

2007-08-07 14:17:05 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

i guess i forgot to mention;
i'm open to new things and new people and HAVE BEEN FOR THE PAST TWO YEARS. i've dated 3-5 guys, and he's been with the same girl since.. last december. It makes me feel terrible that I want him even though he's taken, but I can't help it. I'm not going into detail about why I can't have him, it's a long story.
I don't want to see a therapist, that's expensive and unnecesary. If anything that would make it worse.

2007-08-07 14:57:18 · update #1

28 answers

if you truly love him, do not let go of your love - your time will come

2007-08-15 10:20:53 · answer #1 · answered by Big Buddy 6 · 0 0

I have been wallowing over someone for the last 16 years. Even though I am married to a different person, have a child and so on and so forth, I have never ever been able to overcome the fact that I will never have this person by my side. How do I cope? Day by day but the sting is no less now than it was 16 years ago. It is amazing how some people have a lasting effect upon you. Sheesh!

2007-08-07 21:27:29 · answer #2 · answered by fierce beard 5 · 0 0

I understand. I was in the same situation. I love that person. I'm not what makes that other person tick, and so since I love someone who doesn't love me I've let them go. The other persons happiness was the most important factor. Just send that person your love and get on with your life. You'll find someone. There are a lot of wonderful people just like you that will give you the attention you want. Move on....

2007-08-15 20:44:49 · answer #3 · answered by Rex B 5 · 0 0

I know exactly how you feel. I am going through the same thing with my best friend. She is the love of my life and I knew that from the start. You may be able to move on, but youll never get over them. You may be meant to be or not. The best thing you can do is let them be happy and be there for them. I know its hard. All I can say is if you feel this guy is the love of your life, don't give up hope.

2007-08-07 21:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by bolinger81380 4 · 1 0

... Ok, there is simply not enough information here to help you. Why can't you be with them? Answer that, and I might be able to give you some advice.

The only advice I can give you, is to get some distance between the two of you. As long as you keep interacting with him, you will continue to desire him. Tell him the truth, and let him know, you just need some space. Given enough time where you are not reminded of him every day, and you might be able to let him go.
The other thing you should work on, is to do your best to not compare other men to him. I'm sure you've established in your mind who the best man is, but it's not fair to your other relationships if you do. If you are lucky, you will find another man to love as much as you love him, and who knows? Stranger things have happened.

2007-08-07 21:23:45 · answer #5 · answered by Erulechto 3 · 0 1

I understand what you mean COMPLETELY. My boyfriend just broke up with me because he doesn't have time for a relationship. He is starting a job working from 8pm to 8am and going to school full time and has family issues. He can't devote to me right now so he broke up with me. I am trying to keep my options open, trying to talk to other guys. But every time I get to know them I compare them to my ex. He is everything I want and I can't have him. The point is...it takes time to get over it. It's so hard to let go because you know you had something special with some one you felt was just so perfect for you...but if you can't be together it's not meant to be. As you grow up you will find more guys who are perfect for you in every way, and they will still hurt you. It's unavoidable. Just have faith, I'm trying my best to give it time. Because time heals a lot of things.

2007-08-07 21:23:31 · answer #6 · answered by TegLover 3 · 0 0

2 years?!?! Wow, sounds like you have it bad. Maybe you should consider seeing a therapist. What kind of activities are you doing to move on? Hobbies, friends, school? Sounds like you have way too much time on your hands so you're left to dwell and you like the challenge of not having someone so obtainable. So, move it girl, see a therapist and make some positive changes in your life. Do what you love to do and slowly with time, the feelings for him will fade. Maybe you're too close, perhaps a change of scenery or location will help you grow.

2007-08-07 21:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 2

You probably haven't been trying pretty hard. You've probably blown off advances from some pretty cool other people becasue they weren't exactly like the person you are fixated on. Give someone new a shot and you'll see that there are all kinds of things you never thought you would like that interest you.

2007-08-07 21:21:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 1

obsess over a dog...or just keep playing the feild and think do you really just like the idea of loving him or do you truely like him or if it is more of a brotherly love and your confusig the two. If you still conclude your in love with the guy sped more time with him. Depending on his age the relationship might break or not.

2007-08-15 19:25:50 · answer #9 · answered by aleka 3 · 0 0

You can. I know how you feel truly. I had even went as far as to have a name tattooed on myself. I stayed in that rut for four years. My first step to recovery was viewing that person as a PERSON. Seeing that he had faults. Second and most important is prayer. I prayed and prayed and prayed . What you're going through is no joke and it can be pretty bad. I will pray for you for you as well. I'm sorry , please be encouraged. This can pass.

2007-08-07 21:28:06 · answer #10 · answered by just because 2 · 1 0

Just try to focus on other things. Everytime you think about him try to think about something else. Take up a new hobby. Go out and meet some new people. Distractions are always great

2007-08-07 21:27:08 · answer #11 · answered by hollygolightly 5 · 0 0

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