Marriage help!!?

Question

I am dating the best man ever, and he already asked to be my husband, and I said yes. BUT, he wants the marriage to be held in 1 month, but i want it in May. No matter what I say, he says he thinks its best in September. But I dont want to marry then. Im just not prepared right now!

Answer 1

If he is set on September, why not suggest next September, that would give you a little over a year to plan, which would be perfect.

I would try to explain to him that there are so many things to do that there is no way to do it all in 1 month and have everything the way you both want it. (Unless you are goig to elope.)

If he won't budge, maybe a compromise, elope in September and have a huge reception party in May or on your first anniversary to celebrate with all your family and friends.

If he loves you he will be willing to make some sort of compromise.

Good luck!

Answer 2

Quite wondering why he is in such a rush to get married in September......

If he is pressuring you, that is not a good thing. let him know you feel rushed (which will stress you out instead of enjoying the specialy day and not many people can come in such a short notice) and that you two need more time to set a date that is not so close.

How about next september if he loves the month a lot (as I do myself)? That gives a whole year to plan, which is a good amount of time.

If he doesn't like may, decide on a month that is meaningful to you both. Whether first month you two met? Same month engaged? etc etc.

Answer 3

If you can't even decide on the wedding date that isn't a good sign.
You both need to sit down and discuss this. Find out his reasons for wanting it in september and tell him your reasons for wanting it in May. Maybe he has a really good point to make and vice versa.
Talking things through never killed anybody.

Answer 4

Honey, if the two of you can't sit down and work this out reasonably, then you have bigger problems than the month of your wedding. Marriage is about compromise and doing what's in the best interest of the couple, not one of the individuals. This should be easy. If not, BIG RED FLAG.

Answer 5

TELL HIM THAT YOU ARE WILLING TO MARRY HIM BUT YOU ARE NOT REALLY RIGHT NOW, AND IF YOU CAN GET A LITTLE MORE TIME TO GET READY FOR THE WEDDING THEN YOU WOULD NOT MIND MARRYING HIM.

BUT IF HE IS TRYING TO RUSH YOU AGAIN THEN TELL HIM TO SLOW DOWN AND TELL YOU THE REASON WHY HE WANT IT IN SEPTEMBER AND WHY SO SOON WITH SO LITTLE TIME TO BE MARRIED?

AND WHY NOT MAY?

SEE IF HIS REASON IS GOOD OR NOT THEN BASIE YOUR THOUGHT ON THAT AND IF IT IS A GOOD ENOUGH REASON THEN GO AHEAD AND GET MARRY .

BUT IF YOU CAN NOT DO IT THAT SOON THEN COME UP WITH SOME REASON WHY YOU CAN'T MARRY HIM.


WELL I HOPE THAT YOU TWO WORK THINGS OUT FOR THE BEST.


GOOD LUCK

BEST WISHES

Answer 6

TALK TO HIM...

Tell him September is TOO SOON for you, and if he insists on getting married that month that you will have to give the ring back.

WHY does he want to get married so soon?

A red flag is flying right about now, I'd be suspicious.

Answer 7

you both need to compromise...you arent willing to marry in septmeber, but why should he have to settle for may just because you want to? you need to sit down and decide on something that works best for both of you. if you cant do that then you have bigger problems then you think and you arent ready to be engaged let alone married.

Answer 8

Tell him that you want to wait and that if he wants everyone to come to the wedding, they need six months in advanced. Same with most places to get married.

Answer 9

If he really wants september- then plan for next september.

Answer 10

How the heck are you supposed to book a church and a hall in one month?