Tomorrow will be one year that we've been together and we aren't doing anything.
I don't really mind that, he just going to come over. There isn't anything to do in this town anyway. What made me mad is when I asked what we were going to do he didn't answer me, he just said he didn't know and acted annoyed that I brought it up. He asked me what i wanted to do and since I live in a small town, I didn't have any ideas because there isn't much to do except eat and see a movie, which I don't want. I got mad and said we wouldn't do anything he could just come over and he repeated what I said which made it worse. He wasn't being immature, and I know he didn't mean to make me mad, that's just his personality but don't you think he should have been a little more serious and nicer about this? It's one year that we've been together and it feels like it's not as special to him as it is to me.
2007-08-07 13:58:23 · 10 answers · asked by IndiHippi 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't tell me to get someone new. He treats me just fine, he's just a lot like my dad when it comes to talking about things. He's quiet, not a bad guy.
2007-08-07 14:04:14 · update #1
The truth is men aren't as sentimental and sensitive as woman are. It's easy for us to forget that sometimes and we get upset with them. Men need some guidance occasionally. When it comes to special events they don't always know what's expected of them. He could seem annoyed because he doesn't know what you want from him. As nice as it would be for him to make some fantastic plans don't count on it. It's not that he doesn't care for you he's just probably clueless. Has he ever been in a relationship this long before because if not he really has no idea what to do. Try taking the lead a little. Even though there may not be much to do in your area do your best to come up with something fun and different. Dress up nice and maybe rent some movies and celebrate with of your favorite treats. I don't know your age so I'm not going to make any other suggestions, but I'm sure you can pull something together. Most importantly, let go of your negative feelings so they don't ruin this special day for the two of you. Be happy and make the best of it.
2007-08-07 14:11:14 · answer #1 · answered by horsewhisperer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can understand why you feel mad at him. But look at things differently.
Even you didn't know how to spend your anniversary when he asked what exactly you would like to do. I don't justify that he didn't do anything at all, that's probably because some men are just like that and it doesn't mean they don't love their partners.
Perhaps, you should do something yourself without accusing him and next time he will think of something too. Just don't expect him to do EVERYTHING for both of you. You should make the effort too and when he sees how sincere you are he may change his attitude to such things as well.
Also, men don't often realise how important all these things are to us. Tell him what it means to you. But don't accuse. Make him understand your feelings instead.
2007-08-07 21:18:33 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi; I see you got a problem.Well lets see if I can help.talk to him again but this time tell him you might be going away.Like to collage or an job out of town or state.Just see what he say,s.Ask him if he would go with you if it happend.If he says he would then you know he cares.If he say good luck and won,t go with you then you know hes not interested.I know that hurt,s.But what would you do.Stay with a guy thats thier as an body but no soul for love.You need to do this and change you ways before it,s too late.Good Luck....JW
2007-08-07 21:08:43 · answer #3 · answered by whitfield185 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he might feel a bit awkward or insecure. He might feel guilty that he can't think of anything to give you, or where to take you. He may not know how to show that he cares about you.
Don't take it personally; it happens. If he keeps acting moody, then there may be a bigger problem, but to me he just sounds a little scared. Scared that he won't be able to show how much he cares.
2007-08-07 22:25:34 · answer #4 · answered by LiveToTell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both bored... if there is not much to do and you have already done it all, what is there to ask and talk about. you will have to find some other form of entertainment. Play cards, games, get other couples involved... get competitions between each other going.... you can find something I am sure.
2007-08-07 21:02:40 · answer #5 · answered by just me 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not, and you making a big deal over 365 days is probably freaking him out. How old are the two of you anyway?
2007-08-07 21:03:29 · answer #6 · answered by pure conscience 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys can be strange when it comes to anniversarys. maybe he's trying to plan a surprise for you.. maybe you can do something special for him... like make a scrapbook of different things you've done together over the last year. or cook him dinner... just make it special for you!! good luck.
2007-08-07 21:03:11 · answer #7 · answered by nikki f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably annoyed with himself more than anything for not being able to find something amazing for you
2007-08-07 21:16:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is how men are he asked what you wanted to do i mean he is a man they don't know how to come up with that sort of stuff
2007-08-07 21:02:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a new man that will enjoy spending time with you
2007-08-07 21:01:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋