Since i was 16 ive been in and out of serious relationships. Only one of those (the last one) was sexual. Now its been 4 months since my last realtionship and I am finally having fun being single. I eventually want to get married and have a family but now I want to experience not being someones other half. I just want to be me. I am dating(not having sex with) 3 guys who all know about each other. I like them all and each have something about their personality that I adore. I told my friend who is a married (shes been married since she was 20) about this and she blew up. She basically called me a slut and said its people like me who gives women a bad rep. Im not leading anyone so what is wrong with datin 3 or 30 guys I'm single.and an adult. I am I wrong?
2007-08-07 13:15:36 · 14 answers · asked by brandxi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
As long as the guys know that it is not exclusive and no one is getting sex from it, have at it, my friend
2007-08-07 13:23:00 · answer #1 · answered by Experto Credo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No you're not wrong! It's perfectly fine to date more than one person at once, as long as they all know the deal.
I went from extreme promiscuity as an early teen into an exclusive relationship with a girl that lasted over two years, then after a period alone, I had a relationship with a guy that lasted almost three years. Each breakup was very painful for me. I'm reluctant to commit to another wholeheartedly at this stage.
I'm in the same situation as you,except for the sex part. I'm seeing a few different people (two girlfriends and one man) and they're all aware we're not exclusive. I'm great friends with all of them and love them each in a different way. I'm not ready to settle down with "the one" yet... even if he or she were to suddenly appear.
Good luck!
2007-08-07 20:27:09 · answer #2 · answered by No Body 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in yourself. Do whatever you think its right as long as nobody is hurt physically. As long as you are not married, you do not belong to anybody. But sometimes, too many relationships might place you in a difficult situation - such as there are times 2 or 3 guys asking you out on the same evening and you dont want to let anyone of them down. Problems may arise when these guys are jealous of each other. The important point is you must be opened and telling these guys you are not in serious in the relationship and as ordinary friends. Enjoy yourself and be happy.
2007-08-07 20:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by tan w 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nope, you're definitely not wrong... your friend who's been married since she's 20 has nothing to say about what's right for you.
I think as long as you're not being deliberately deceitful, you should be free to go out with as many guys as you can handle...ESPECIALLY if there's nothing sexual going on!
Have fun!
2007-08-07 20:25:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not wrong as long as these guys are told the facts before the date as guys enjoy dates but usually expect certain replies to them so as long as you have informed these guys that nothings going to happen then no do as you please as no-one enjoys spending time with a tease or a as your friend said dont give you girls bad names un necessary
2007-08-07 20:24:08 · answer #5 · answered by magnum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reputation is a very individual thing so your married friend is full of crap when she says it's girls like you that give women a bad reputation. She may be jealous because she'd like to be in your shoes but her rigid moral standards won't allow her. As long as you as conscious of what you are doing and your looking out for yourself, don't worry what others opine!
2007-08-07 20:36:52 · answer #6 · answered by SexRexRx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on which perspective are you looking from..
well, you're looking for a boyfriend, and it's normal to know many guys in your area, but maybe not private date.. why not try to hang out with other friends? that should be fun..
2007-08-07 20:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by Yohanes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow the three guys know you are dating like, well, each other and they are still okay with it? Um...I'm sorry but I feel like your friend had the right to blow up at you. Maybe you are giving us a bad name..making people think we like dating three guys all at one...
2007-08-07 20:20:02 · answer #8 · answered by starz_crash05 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No. You're not sleeping with them and you've been honest with all of them. It's called casual dating.
Honestly? Your friend is jealous that you have this freedom and she doesn't. 10 bucks says she's unhappy in her marriage.
2007-08-07 20:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by lanagrl78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you're right. Go ahead there's nothing wrong with having fun. Just don't go sleepin around :)
2007-08-07 20:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋