just found out that my girlfriend has been cheating on me with my best friend, what do i do?

Question

it had been going on for 3 moths i am so angry that i never suspected that anything was goin on between them and at the same time im sad/upset cuz i truly did love her and i thought she loved me to but i was mistaken,
i have thrown her out
what should i do???

i just need someone 2 talk 2 about this cuz i cant talk 2 family about it because they will just say "i told you it would end bad" they had never liked her since the first time they met her

any answers are appreciated
thanx

Answer 1

well that is life and i saw that happen to my own son. he was 17 and she liked a neighbor who was her age and they jsut did drugs together and stuff so she went her way and that is what you should do its good you found out now cause it wiould have been worse if you'd made it perm and she went through with it and later divorced or whatever so you are lucky and there are more out there in this big world.

Answer 2

The first strike was that your family didn't like her and that will wear any relationship down over time. The thing you did do right was throw her butt out the door I hope she made a thud sound when she landed. Just be smart and don't look back because your ex friend and girlfriend relationship won't last because it started wrong in the first place and she will eventually try to come back making alot of empty promises.
One way to look at is at least you found out how she was before you married her. The other thing your ex's will find out they probably lost other friends as well. Spend time with your other friends and in time you will meet someone else who is suppose to be with you.......

Answer 3

Wut up man.

This is a tough situation - but it's happened to more than just you. How do I know?

I've gone through it before. Yeah, I idealized this woman. Thought she was the "one" and then BAM! Reality sunk in and it hit me. This girl had been with practically every one of my friends. Talk about bad luck, right?

WRONG!

Before I go on - make the choice.

Listen to people say "oh, that's too bad. Good luck" and things like "that friend was a jerk". You can sit here in your self pity..

OR

Take my advice. I'm not family - but I'll treat you as it. I'm honest with everyone that I talk to - and I'll help you get through this. I've personally done it - so what better way to learn?

Still thinking? Make up your mind....Good.

What do you do?

Start by realizing that this was your fault. Man, I know it's tough, but if this woman truly was still ATTRACTED to you she would of never done this.

I don't know the details - but can you really blame your friend? Honestly, most guys will date attractive women. Just stop pointing fingers - it will NEVER help.

Actually, email me with the details. Then I can actually give you a better answer.

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Plain and simple, you lost control in this relationship with your woman. I'll show you how to get it all back.

Brock

Answer 4

Cheating is never easy. I am sorry to hear that she did that to you. But you did the right thing to let her go. If she can stoop so low as to date your friend behind your back good riddance to the both of them. They apparently deserve each other. Although that don't stop you from loving her, apparently she did not love you otherwise she would not have cheated. Look at it as her lost. She lost a wonderful man. All she did was made room in your life for the right woman, who will love and respect you the way you deserve to be love. Take care and Good luck.

Answer 5

Im so sorry you had to go through this. I can only imagine how hard this must be. You can email me if you want. I am going through something farly similar and feel the same way...like I have no one to talk to because Im scared of the dreaded "Told you so" ( do ppl not realize that its not comforting in any way to hear that). I bet you feel like kicking both of their asses right now but know its not worth it.......Karma is a B.tch!!

Answer 6

I am sorry to hear that you must be feeling really down. Your friend is a dog he probably has been liking her for a while i had this happen to me a few times where my ex's friends would hit on me and i never fell for it that is just pure disrespectful. Can't he get his own lady. You will fnd someone else better out there just be careful do not trust your friends.

Answer 7

You did what you could, you threw her out, what's left?

If you feel you need talk to someone about it and don't have anyone, talk to yourself. Not literaaly, people will think you're nuts, but grab a pen and paper and write your thoughts down. Work it out on paper, logically, with yourself.

I kept a journal all through high school, and we all know how those relationships are, worked wonders.

Answer 8

Just lose the girl forever, and this so called friend while your at it. And by the way if your family doesn't like a GF of yours it's for a reason, listen to them next time!

Answer 9

the way i do it is first i cry it out. then i get angry and get over it. especially when someone cheats on me. it ends up hurting longer if you dont let it go. i leave the cheat totally and dont contact ever again. you have it in a different way, a friend and a loved one has betrayed you. im sorry for you. if it was up to me, leave them both and learn to trust again. best wishes.

Answer 10

You shud get over her and ditch ur friend..hes not a real friend if hes gonna take advantage of ur girl!..trust me hes not a good friend.. Try to take it easy 4 a while and start over new and get to know a girl REALLY well before making it official, so u kno she wont put u down! :)