Do you think this was a set up?

Question

I have a next door neighbor who is a single mom. I hardly ever see her at the apartments because we are on different schedules. In general I probably see her once or twice a week, usually just in passing. I see her daughter outside playing a little more often. I would hardly describe them as more than acquaintances, but we usually exchange friendly greetings when we see each other.

I manage a drive-in movie theatre and a few weeks ago my neighbor and her daughter came to the drive-in and I saw them at the snack bar. A while later the daughter came back to the snack bar to get some candy. A few minutes later she came back asking to use a phone because she couldn't find her mom. I let her use my cell to call her mom and when she come in she gives a friendly thank you and they go back to the movie.

One of my employees thinks my neighbor was manipulating the situation to see/talk to me, but I don't think so.

Part of the reason I don't think so is because she never goes out of her way to see me. If we pass on the way to the laundry room or something she's always friendly, but it's not like she looks out her window when I pull in or pokes her head out the door to say hi.

I think she's attractive, but I don't really know anything about her except her name and her daughter's name.

FYI, I did post this same question a few days ago but I only received two responses and I was hoping for a little more input.

Answer 1

nah i doubt she was manipulating the situation. Her daughter was talking to you, not her. I think you'd have to be a manipulating person to think that scenario up, you should take a look at your employee.

Answer 2

I am only going to say no because how old are you,mom and daughter? If you and mom are close in age as you should be having an apartment and all, then you are old enough to not be playing these childish games. If the girl is a teenager or something, then maybe she has a crush on you but it is possible for her to get turned around or something. I think if they don't try to make more contact with you at home then you are reading more into this than what really happened. Plus who works with you...teenagers who do play games like this? Maybe they are leading you down a road in which you know better than to travel down in th first place. If this does not happen, then maybe you should need to borrow a cup of sugar or something to see what the vibe is like after that. if you feel like something is going on then pass numbers and tell her if she ever needs anything to call or something. Oh another thing, school is out so that may be the reason why she is out more. Getting all the fun now before school starts back. Just don't read more into something...find out by asking or talking to get another vibe. That would be my advice. I hope the best for you.

Answer 3

Man, this is a toughy. If the girl isn't at all flirty with you, doesn't bat her eyelashes, doesn't put on chap stick near you, doesn't do anything else at all except be a friendly human being then it doesn't sound like the girl likes you. As to whether it was a setup... its possible, but no matter what a parent does her daughter would have to like you first or no amount of setting up will work. I'm going to have to go with a no though. Unless they come to the theaters a lot and this happens a lot? Does the mom ask you to help her often and you find yourself near the daughter?

If the mom asks you to do something, help out, and you find yourself spending more time with the daughter than the mom, then you can start to suspect that it could be a set up.

Answer 4

Maybe it was. If she doesn't thank you again at home, then it wasn't. If she asks you what will be showing, it could be. Is the daughter old enough to play that game and keep everything, including her mother's cell number straight?

The next time there is a feature suitable for her to take her daughter coming along, tell her and see if she shows up unless you would rather she didn't.

Answer 5

It does sound a BIT odd, but only in that the mother and daughter somehow got significantly separated at a drive-in.

As for them showing up there, did they know you worked there, or was their appearance merely happenstance?

I think that if the mother was interested in you, she would have approached you at the apartment building -- you know, ringing your door to borrow a cup of sugar, or something else.

But since the call seems to be the crux of the matter, you should decide if the daughter was sincere [i.e. telling the truth] in really needing to get in touch with her mother. With children, it's usually quite easy to tell if their being untruthful.

Answer 6

OMG! THIS IS CRAZY! JUST ASK HER OUT. I BELIEVE U IS PLAYING HARD TO GET. OR SHE IS. WATEVA JUST ASK HER OUT ON A DATE, IF SHE SAY NO THEN LEAVE HER ALONE.

Answer 7

hell no she wasnt using u or manipulating or watever..sheer coincidence...