In the month of July, I dropped $960.00 at the strip club. I feel very guilty about it but I cant stop this activity . Ive been addicted for the last 11 year and spent over $50000 and the number keeps going up. I am now 33 years old . I indulge in lap dances . I want to stop but am unable to . I promised myself I wouldnt go back but always find myslef there. Have i gone too far
2007-08-07 11:39:47 · 12 answers · asked by Black Jack 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If you are not able to control it, then yes, it is out of control and yes, it is an addiction. If you can do it yourself or with a trustworthy friend, ask yourself what you get out of the experience that makes you continue even though you want to stop. Once you figure out what you're getting (or what you might be running from) the answer is to find something else that will "scratch the itch". I don't dare speculate about your motivations or stumbling blocks. Find an insightful friend or a good counselor. Maybe promise yourself a one month "vacation" and spend the nearly $1K on nine sessions with a $100 per hour therapist and see if that helps you. Good luck!
2007-08-07 11:56:40 · answer #1 · answered by avengingeagle7 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have fun, great relationship, go out frequently and love each other, I see no real problem in this situation. Clearly if he is lying it is because he don't want you to have pain or he is afraid to talk about it because you both never talked about it and he is not sure if he would be allowed to go. Seriouly strip club is really not that big place of evil you may think it is. Most of the men go their in group to relax, espace from daily stress and have a good beer with the boys. I would suggest that you site down with him and talk about it. He is not cheating, tell him your position about strip club or about the private dance it self. If you didn't set the rule before between the both of you, it is not ok to go angry against him. Set the rule TOGETHER and talk about it seriously. I work in the business even if i don't own a club i've been working with many real strippers and half of them are mostly junk, you don't have to worry so much about them as he would certainly avoid them anyway. The other half are nice girl with a brain. These are sexy yeah, fun to talk yeah, but still strippers and they are their for entertainment. And this is what it is. Nothing more. (i know sometimes it's more than that, but that is another problem then just going to the strippers and lying about it because you are afraid of your wife reaction)
2016-05-21 01:52:20 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The moment you became addicted, it was out of control. You are losing so much money over this, and you feel guilty. The fact that you want to stop (promising yourself you'll stop going), but you keep on going anyway is definitely a problem. You need to seek professional help right away. If you don't, I'm afraid thatyour addiction could very quickly consume your whole life. Best of luck.
2007-08-07 18:34:05 · answer #3 · answered by mysemicharmedlife 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Most guys I know that go to strip clubs just go a few hours on the weekend. Sounds like you need to find someone to spend your money on. Maybe you should invest in a new or additional girlfriend who knows how to lap dance. Good Luck!
2007-08-07 12:00:50 · answer #4 · answered by MissKathleen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When you get to the point you cant tell your self no, thats a pretty bad addiction and it is somthing you should either just plain stop, or find some one to talk to about it. You have the power to change you, it just helps having some one to help you realize that. Either way you go, I wish you the best.
2007-08-07 11:48:54 · answer #5 · answered by ~†~§amueL~†~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a terrible waste of money, spent of women that could care less about you, and are probably putting it right up their noses...you HAVE to stop it..it is really evil, and all the money you could have in the bank to show for it...is really sad that you have lost it...it is just a bad habit, and you are probably lonely, and bored...you seem to like the cheap thrill, and the fantasy that those gals really like you and find you attractive so you don't mind paying them...sheesh...if i thought I was ugly, man I would have used the dough for a complete makeover...It is really a sin also...and you must know that...it is just satans way of keeping you from doing the right thing...so ask God to help you, through Jesus,...and you will find the strength to stop, I promise
2007-08-07 12:24:40 · answer #6 · answered by MotherKittyKat 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Yes your out of control. What you need to do is find a new hobby and date girls to be able to settle down.Maybe they can give you the lap dance for free
2007-08-07 12:03:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you need JESUS in the highest power.If you don't know him find someone who does and for sure you will get a better understanding of what you are suffering from counseling for sure.Spend some money on that therapy,GOOD LUCK.
2007-08-07 13:29:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sure have. Try investing that money into something thats actually gonna help you.
2007-08-07 11:44:27 · answer #9 · answered by KingstonGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop
2007-08-07 11:45:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋