My wife has gone full christian. HELP !!!?

Question

I am very supportive. We two kids. She is right now attending the Believers Convention in Dallas and went to the prior one as well. I actually encouraged her to go to Dallas.
My problem is with the belief to donate to the church 10% of our income. She is demanding this of me and I don't want it ! I asked her (cause we are getting 100k next month) so you are saying we give the Kenneth Copeland Minister 10k?? She said yes. I told her I don't want to do it.
Today she called from Dallas with some stupid *** off the wall, god driven plan on one of our investments. I told her maybe we should split as I don't agree with her church and the whole , 'God causes all actions and therefore 10% goes to the church'. I made that 100K. Nobody else. God does not pay my bills. I saw a statement where she has donated $1000.00 without telling me. Don't pitch the line THEY pitch please ! I don't want to be prayed for I just need to figure this out so we can live with each other.

Answer 1

I feel for you. They do have quite the racket setup; they make the mafia look like a bunch of morons. I liked the suggestion of donating 10% of her income, though I understand it is possible she doesn't work.

If she doesn't have an income, I would initially, calmly refuse. If she were willing to become rather estranged to you over your not donating to her church, then that is a huge issue in itself. Try to remain calm, and use logic. Perhaps remind her that as a christian she should be accepting/tolerant.

$1,000 donated without your knowledge!!!?? If that were entirely/partially your money, I would be furious. That is like a drug addict slipping money behind their parents' back to feed the cycle.

The only alternative of a full refusal I can think of is some sort of compromise that may be reached by the two of you. Involve her in your decision, if you take "the buck stops here" approach, she will probably resist more and more (dig a deeper hole).

The key is to remain calm and use logic. You can even tell her you'll donate the money; but never again and you will remain bitter over the donation. Make it very clear you disagree, and be painfully honest. Maybe that approach will open her eyes, and allow her to realize family is more important than some church/cult/racket with Reverend/Minister/Scam Artist Kenneth Copeland. Good luck art, I really do sympathize with your situation. I'll pray for you!!! (I'm kidding)

Also, I read some other answers, I strongly agree with the acquisition of a separate bank account, and a lawyer as a very LAST resort. Once again, good luck!

Answer 2

I'm not an Atheist; I am into religion. I don't believe in giving the 10% to tithe though. I agree with someone elses answer. Get separate accounts or if you feel your compelled to give her some of the 100k. Tell her you'll split the money and let her do with it what she wants. You can have sound of peace for yourself if thats what she wishes to do. Tell her you too need to sit down and have a serious talk.....Someone has gotten a hold of her and telling her things that are scamming. She's believing it also. Tell her that 100k won't last forever and the 10% tithe actually should go to yourself to provide food and clothing on your own back... Good luck.

Answer 3

Please, donate NOTHING to Keneth Copeland, and send NOTHING to TV preachers in general! Do NOT send your money because you've being sold a bill of goods by threats and emotional appeals. There are alot more deserving organizations that need your help than these get-rich quick con-artists that do nothing for anyone, and exist just to line their own pocketbooks.

Remind her that tithes cannot be demanded -- that's called something else -- tribute.

I would suggest either the Salvation Army, or a local Christian foodbank or shelter. If she still insists on tithing, then recommend setting up a church or a charity of your own to intellegently decide what organizations you'll donate to.

Setting up a church is easier than setting up a foundation because it doesn't have to abide by some very stiff requirements to show that your charity is a public one.

Remind her that the Bible requires that you are to be responsible and *****prudent stewards***** with what you give to charity.

Keep in mind that many charities pay 80% or more of their income to professional fund raising groups -- cut out the middle men and give directly to deserving groups that you have thoroughy investigated. You should approach this like any other investment!!!

Check on how they spend their money, ask questions about what they want to accomplished and how they do it. How much do the Director's make , how large is their paid staff? You shouldn't don't want these salaries to absorb most of your donation. Also, check on their non-profit status, whether they have any complaints against them, and whether what you give is tax deductable or not...

Answer 4

SOME SHOCKING TRUTHS ABOUT THE CHRISTIAN TITHING DOCTRINE
1. Abraham never tithed on his own personal property or livestock.
2. Jacob wouldn’t tithe until God blessed him first.
3. Only Levite priests could collect tithes, and there are no Levite priests today.
4. Only food products from the land were tithable.
5. Money was never a titheable commodity.
6. Christian converts were never asked to tithe anything to the Church.
7. Tithing in the Church first appears centuries after completion of the Bible.

Do you think she might have a staff member encouraging her?
I think you should get an account with only your name on it (for this 100k) and don't tell her where the money is.


Tithing
http://www.bible-truths.com/tithing.html

Answer 5

First off, I'm a Christian.

Second, she has no right to demand anything of you. Tell her to read:

Col 3:18 ¶ Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as it is fit in the Lord.

Unless you're telling her to do things that are sinful, she has no business telling you what to do with your money.

Tell her to read this page and the links here - http://www.deceptioninthechurch.com/kcopeland.html

Kenneth Copeland does not need your money and I cannot in good conscience recommend anyone giving him money. If that's who she's listening to, I would highly recommend you get her out of there. Find a nice regular church for her to attend. Go with her the first time if that will get her to go.

Answer 6

If your relationship is good besides that I'd just work it out. Maybe she should have her own account if you dont agree with this. I wouldn't let this one problem become irrational and out of control. Maybe you should let her start her own fund raising project to help out the church, just explain to her how you feel about that. You may also want to ask the church for a statement on how all their donations are spent.

Answer 7

The problem is that you're not on the same page. I'm not a 10% person. The New Testament states "as you've been prospered." But 10% is a good figure to work with. Would you be opposed to giving to other causes? What about the single mom down the street who can't afford school supplies for her children. What about the old man next door who can't afford his medicine. What about the homeless couple who need a meal for a change. I'm sure Copeland uses the money to God's glory but I'd suggest giving it to the needy yourself. 10% to the sick and hungry you live beside means more to you than 10% to any ministry. No offense but it also sounds like you need to do this to help get your own priorties straight.

Answer 8

I know Muslims have to donate 2% of their income, but 10% is insane. I think that there is some kind of fraud involved (it's more common than you think). If you think your wife is going down a really destructive path, then you should get out of the marriage. She could ruin your finances doing stuff like this. And if she's going behind your back, she obviously doesn't trust you, and what's a marriage without trust? If it was me, I'd get a divorce, even though I don't like them, but they can be necessary at times.

Answer 9

Im starring this and hopes you get some good info.
I reading this and as an agnostic I am thinking "Oh hell no" the entire time. So I know I am not one to maybe give you the best advice. I am hoping some good people come in and give you sound advice.
Maybe to save face for the marriage tell her to donate only 10% of her pay if she feels so strong about it.

Answer 10

Oh no not the "old im a satanist but Ive fallen for my pure christian wife problem thread again". I swear how many times are we gonna go through this people. It right up there with the "Im in love with chainsaw juggling, devil worshiping, transsexual monkeys who are addicted to drink unicorn giggles".