question for wiccans/pagans only please!?

Question

Is it possible to be punished for doing spell work by the goddess? or, does she ask for something in return when you do spell work? I remember hearing about that a long time ago, and it's been haunting me every since.
When I was in high school I could do some serious love casting, and I did....often. (after the first 1 or 2 times i learned that I should always say "if it's what is good and right", not just my will) It always worked (well) but gradually bad things starting happening in my love life, and it ended very badly. Since then my love magic backfired and I eventually stopped casting.
So, then in college I had a really evil roommate, so I tried to bind her, thinking it was the best for her and everyone around. But then she vanished from school, and none of us have heard from her since. Do you think that these things are a coincidence? I haven't casted in 5 years, and now I have a baby and want her to experience the goddess, but I'm so afraid. Is it the 3 fold law? Help!

i'm afraid that if i cast again something will be taken away from me as like, 'payment'....like my new family.

ok, i guess what I'm asking is, even if you honestly think what your doing won't hurt someone else, you have the purest intentions, will you be made to give something up? like, sacrifice something in order for your casting to work?

Answer 1

Love spells have a habit of backfiring, because usually they're trying to interfere with someone's free will. And binding someone? That's going to set you up for bad karma in a big way, unless you do it VERY carefully. This is not punishment from the Gods, it is simply the universe's way of balancing out energy expended with energy returned.

And in fourteen years of practicing Wicca and witchcraft, I have never known the Goddess to "ask" for something in return. That's not how She works, or at least the aspects of Her that I know and love. The beauty of the Goddess's love is that it is truly freely given, with no conditions, to every living thing on this planet. As for magic, that is a case of the witch laying his/her hands on the energies of the universe and shaping them to his/her will. There is no transaction involved (although personally I will offer incense to any God/dess Whose help I ask for in casting a spell, just as an act of courtesy).

Goddess worship and spellcraft are two completely different things -- you don't have to do them both at the same time. So if you want to honor Her but are leery of witchcraft, it's perfectly possible to do one without the other. No worries.

Answer 2

Sorcha, as you've already seen, all the other withces in here agree unanimously, doing spell against the will of another is NOT a good thing. The binding spell is one of the most precarious of the ones that you mentioned. When you BIND someone you are also binding yourself to that person as well. By binding your roommate you essentially made the assumption that YOU knew what was best for him/her and removed that person from the responsibilities and repercussions of their OWN actions. YOu took away the possibilty of them being able to actually learn from their own mistakes and prgoress on their own Spiritually. Goddess may have removed tham from YOUR life but it may NOT have been for the reasons that you wanted. It may have been to protect them from YOU. You were young and had no idea about HOW to get them to stop being so bad to you, and you resorted to using Magickal means rather than actually searching for the correct Mundane methods to achieve what you wanted to. Your worrying about the 3 fold law basically means that you recognize NOW that you did act innapropriately. You now need to do some cleansing meditations and maybe a little spell work to remoce that effects of that ill-advised former spellwork.

As for the baby, I agree with the others, that you CAN raise her knowing of the Goddess, but whatever you do, do NOT train her in any rituals or spellwork until she is mature enough to handle those things responsibly. Just like a loaded handgun, would you let your child play with one? then why let them play with Magick? Bothj can cause damage in the wrong hands. While the love of Goddess and God IS a GOOD thing for children to learn, there are other aspects of the craft that are simply NOT appropriate for children. Wisdom is knowing which is which.

Brightest Blessings,
Raji the Green Witch

Answer 3

First, if you think experiencing the goddess requires spellcasting, you've entirely missed the point.

Second, I do not believe that deities frequently dish out rewards or punishments. There are, however, consequences for our actions, and you seem to be suffering from them. Most Wiccans avoid both love spells and bindings because of ethical reasons as well as potential personal effects suffered, and if you don't understand how your magic affects other people, the wider world, and then in turn yourself, you really shouldn't be using it.

You need to take responsibility for your actions. The fact that you think saying "if it's what is good and right" after a spell mitigates anything indicates that you don't really understand the responsibility involved. You're expecting the universe to clean up after you and stop anything that's potentially harmful (by the way, it won't) instead of taking the time to examine the possible consequences, decide whether the intended results are worth those consequences, and take responsibility for those consequences.

Answer 4

Well, all I can say is this; NEVER cast a spell on another! You take away their free will and must deal with the three fold return law.
Even good spells (health, money, etc.) for another must be done with their permission ONLY, and your feeling about it.
I think you need to understand Goddess just a little bit better before you indulge in the craft further.
No such thing as coincidence!
One must learn about Goddess before the craft.
Blessed Be

Answer 5

It's not a "payment", per se - but you do need to be careful with things. Fire's great for cooking a meal, but if you aren't careful, you'll end up burning yourself (and/or the meal, while you're at it.) Magic's just the same - there's an art and a science to getting things right, and doing things wrong can have unintended consequences.

I don't think fear is the right place to approach from - but caution, mindfulness, on the other hand, is a good start.

Answer 6

It's a lot like karma, do good things, get good things. When you interfere with someone else's will, sometimes there's consequences. Whether it's worth it to take a hit of negativity is the person's own choice. There's no divine punishment, just the universe balancing itself out.

Experiencing the goddess isn't just about spellcasting. Don't use spells if they worry you. There's many more ways to feel the divine.

Answer 7

Ummm, good, my elbows are kinda double jointed and I can bend them beautiful some distance backwards which has a tendency to freak humans out. I have no idea any one else who can do it. But I rather do not consider it has whatever to do with my being pagan. :-P Aside from that, all I have declare to related to being each Wiccan and witch is 15+ years of research, train, and reports that provides to my capabilities and knowledge of witchcraft and Wicca (amongst different paths I've studied) - and it is a neverending development approach - there may be continually extra to study and revel in. I'm no longer closed-minded, am ready to consider external of the field, am in general peaceable by means of nature, and I attempt to *reside* my ideals day-to-day (stroll the stroll alternatively of simply speak the speak.) But although I understand few from the extra mainstream religions who're rather like this, it undoubtedly doesn't suggest they could not be in the event that they so selected to. We are ALL, each man or woman, particular in our possess method. That's some of the gem stones of being human, we're all particular members, alternatively like snowflakes - no 2 precisely the equal. Sunday Lunch - what's mistaken with you? Hows approximately moving into the twenty first century with the relaxation people, mmmkay?

Answer 8

Casting a spell on someone without their permission is basically a bad idea. Trying to override someone else's free will is not right. You just have to keep that and the Wiccan Rede of "An it harm none, do what thou wilt" in mind and be ready for it to come back at you one way or another.

Answer 9

I love the Goddess.

I am not Wiccan, but I do believe that if you FEAR something, you are putting a lot of energy into what it is you fear, and you end up manifesting your fear, forcing you to face it head on (apply directly to the forehead?).

If I were you, the FIRST thing I would do would be to track down the evil roommate. Once you find that she is safe and healthy, then you can probably begin to release the other fears you have. I know magic is powerful and one must wield that power wisely. Listen to those who really know -- Prairie Crow especially.

Blessed Be.

Answer 10

Thats a difficult one because what u cnt see for example a godess who really knows what is happening, but if u truly meant good and didnt mean harm truly then im sure everything will pick up and have a releavnt meaning in ur life and u will eventually see that not always at first but everything happens for a reason ay?! X btw i personally wouldnt do any castin with ur baby until she is old enough to make her own choice that way she can choose and take responsibilty :)