I have this fear of beautiful women. Everytime I try to talk or look at them, I get those anxiety butterflies in my stomach. How can I learn to get over this phobia and learn to see them as a normal person?
2007-08-07 10:51:50 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Go to counseling, find self-esteem.
2007-08-07 10:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by janicajayne 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No lie, but even being grand and super, I get the same thing and i hate it.
I think practice makes perfect. Don't try and approach a beautiful woman without having some sort of script memorized to get the ball rolling. Have certain lines and maybe even answers for her possible answers just to get confortable.
sorry but, you'll just have to eat those butterflies and approach them. Don't worry too much. All a woman can do is turn you down. She will not kill you even though it feels like she has that power. Just practice and the butterflies should gradually disappear. Its human nature to adjust.
Its like a Beauty and the Geek episode where they had to ask women for numbers. It was hard at first and gradually near the end of the time limit, it wasn't as difficult.
Its always better to have a friend with you also. Go out with a friend and plan on getting numbers. Getting turned down doesn't feel as bad when you're with a friend.
2007-08-07 11:01:18 · answer #2 · answered by the grand super C 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I dated a guy once who once confided in me that he knew he didn'tt have a shot with me, and he asked me why I even glanced at him....The answer was simple, He was confident. Hedidn'tt let the fact that he was 2 inches shorter than me and overweight bring him down. I had no idea he felt like that, He was confident and made me laugh that's all I knew. You are young and like everyone else in the world you will be rejected at some point. Just accept this fact.If you don't take the risk of at least talking to someone you may never know what could have happened. I like to think that each person we meet teaches something. If you approach a young lady, and it fails you learn from that. Then the next time you can change it up a bit. But more importantly, be yourself.
2016-05-21 01:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a problem that only you have. I have the same problem myself. But there is one very beautiful woman who goes to my church (who I have liked for over a year), and I used to be really nervous around her, but now I can talk to her no problem. How??
We were going to a retreat inGatlinburg, Tennesse. My good friend Charles was there, and I told him about her and how I felt. So Charles ges and spills the beans to her. At first I was furious, but then she came over and talked to me! So after a few months I got comfortable around her.
What I am saying is, once you find a woman you would like to take out to dinner, try and pull yourself up by your bootstraps and talk to her, have a trustworthy friend break the ice. Soon you will realize that women are truly just people as well.
P.S. You do NOT need therapy.
2007-08-07 11:02:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Mostly becasue you fear rejection. You think the worst of the situation.Women feel the same too. Do you know that just by saying hello you will make some woman feel special, beautiful, or sexy. Look this is me asking you to start living now. Life is too short talk to that person before its too late, and if you get rejected, move on they are many out there ,who would appreciate your moment, think again.
2007-08-07 11:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Firstly you have to have confidence. If you have no confidence then I wouldnt make a move so fast. Start by building up confidence by talking in the mirror if that helps, or a friend of yours (female) in person. Sometime the feeling of being in fear comes from rejection. You need to overcome that fear then youll be ok.
2007-08-07 10:56:14 · answer #6 · answered by courtney b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You've got to buck up on your confidence!! You gota learn to just go with the flow. Keep in mind when you go to say something that you are a decent guy and it's not going to hurt you if you don't get the response you're looking for. Trust me, they notice more when you don't seem to care how hot or pretty they are and you've need to stop acting like you're not even worthy of being in their company.
2007-08-07 10:57:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You gotta get over the hump. Make sure you are clean and don't smell bad, then force yourself to talk to the prettiest woman you can find. Just prepare yourself for the absolute worst - and it will never be that bad. Then do it a few more times to get over your anxiety. Remember - If you wanna be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife. From my personal point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you!
2007-08-07 10:57:09 · answer #8 · answered by i like monkeys 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
most people have this reaction, its just built inside of us. the difference is that some people actually go up and talk to them, and the more you do it, the easier it is. if you never try, you will always feel the same and wont get over it. just say hi to any good lookin girls you see, and after that, start trying to make conversation. YOU WILL GET REJECTED. dont think that it isnt going to happen. rejection is part of the process in this experience. get used to it and youll do fine.
2007-08-07 10:55:13 · answer #9 · answered by marc n 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My guess is that you are feeling inadequate. You switch to the child character in a parent-child relationship no matter what the age of the beautiful girl. It is your self-esteem you need to work on and there is no magic instruction that will resolve that problem. You probably would do best to work on it with a therapist.
2007-08-07 11:03:01 · answer #10 · answered by DONALD L 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go up and talk to her, You'll feel more comfortable after a while, or if your as shy as me, look at her, don't stare, but if your eyes meet, smile and look away, they come up to you.
OR
ask your friends to go and try to tell her that you like her and want to meet her.
2007-08-07 10:59:06 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋