What is a wedding tradition that you wish would come back into style?

Question

So may question on here about what traditions people want to get rid of or do without but which ones do you like, want to keep or miss?

Should be Sooo many, not may

Answer 1

I am going to be thumbs-downed for this one out the wazoo but here goes.

The couple having their own baby (or 8 year olds) before they get married. I am not talking about where there are kids from previous marriages or relationships, I am talking about where a couple has had a child or multiple children of their own, then does the big foofy thing.

And going on in that vein, couples where one or both has been married one or two or three times before, but still has the big foofy thing. I don't care who is a virgin or not (I don't want to even know) but previous marriages, don't want the white extravaganza.

So this would mean, I want to return to the tradition that couples save having children for after marriage, and only do the white foofy thing for a first marriage.

Answer 2

I've been on a retro mood lately, so I have to say...corsages.

You can give the grandmas and the mothers corsages instead of boutonniers that could ruin or stain expensive dresses. Mothers and grandmas would appretiate this gesture, since in their generaration it was traditional.

Also, throwing rice or petals or whatever. People don't do that anymore. Been to 5 weddings in a year and none of them did it. I just found out the the tale about rice and expanding into the birds belly it's a big fat lie and just yet another myth to get you to buy bubbles, silk petals or other things that are labeled "wedding".

Good manners. What ever happen to a receiving line? The bride and groom going from table to table greeting the guests? Nowadays couples are more concerned about all the other stuff than to being a gracious host and hostess.

Bridal showers. Bridal showers should be a ladies get together so the girls can hang out, share stories, mementos and memories. Now it's all about the presents and the registries and BM competitions. The purpose of an intimate soiree has been lost. Call me old school, but girl bonding and passing on family heirlooms and mementos is something that I miss.

Good luck

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Answer 3

What a great question!

I'd love to see the return of the gracious bride! The entitlement princesses have GOT to go. Honestly, nothing would make me happier than to see "Bridezillas" get cancelled, because women were excited about getting MARRIED and not having the "perfect wedding."

To that end, I'd love to see the end of "we have everything we need, how do we ask for money?" - again, this goes with gracious bride, but it's true!

I'd also just love to see weddings return to the simple affairs they used to be - a ceremony, followed by a simple reception at the church hall. No need for the $30k blowout where you're pressured into believing your wedding day is a failure if you don't have a chocolate fountain, 300 roses in every centerpiece and engraved favors...let's just go back to celebrating the milestone!

Answer 4

Hi bubbles-where have you been?

Yes, the number one thing---if you get married, and stay married!!! I have two many girlfriends who married, are having affairs, and then cry because their husbands don´t have any respect for them anymore. If your marriage is not good,seek counseling, something, anything, but don´t have an affair! Sometimes, counseling doesn´t work out, and both people are not happy, but agree to come to a happy medium, and live together-don´t divorce. Too many people don´t want to work at their relationships-who said marriage was easy??????

I agree-RSVPS!!!! Even people who I thought had class didn´t send back their replies, and you know what I did-and maybe I stooped to their level-I didn´t even call and ask whether or not they were coming. If they showed up, great, if not, buggers to them.

Although I wore a strapless gown, I would love to see more gowns with sleeves-more modest styles. Had I known about this site, www.modestbride.com, I would have ordered a dress from this site. I wouldn´t have had to kill myself lifting weights to tone my arms, and would have felt a lot more comfortable in my dress w/sleeves. When we renew our vows, I am going to sew something onto my dress that covers me, and shows off my face, not my body.

We wanted to have rice thrown, but the chapel wouldn´t allow it, and we need all the baby help we can get-I´m 43, he´s 37.

Thank you cards sent to the guests would be nice-when did this go out of style? Two years ago, we attended my friends wedding, gave the couple a gift, and were just told thank you over the phone. SEND A THANK YOU CARD BRIDES-if people bother to give you a present-they aren´t obligated to do so-give them the courtesy of sending them a hand written card.

Dancing-I attended a wedding once that had a great dance floor, and a super DJ. No one danced except me, the bride, and the groom. Everyone else just talked at their tables. I would hate to know how much the bride forked out for all of her guests to have a dance floor and music.

Bridesmaids, MOH, and MOH helping the bride-not just watching her dress herself. Take a few minutes out of the big day and help the bride-don´t just stand there.

Here´s one I wish I would have done-I had the time, I just didn´t make the effort. Handwritten invitations. Years ago, people used to hand write their invites, and personally deliver them. Now, I couldn´t have delivered all of them, but I should have hand written them.

Pictures before the ceremony. Ladies-you can plan your wedding and the reception timing correctly, and do the pictures after the wedding. The groom loves seeing his bride walking down the aisle after not seeing her the whole day-my husband cried.

Brides and grooms making love the night of their wedding. I´ve attended where the bride and groom have gotten so wasted that they couldn´t perform that night. Go home when you get tired-spend time with your new spouse-and make love to consumate the marriage properly.

Answer 5

Simple weddings at the local church and a tent party in the parent's backyard. So many people are opting for exotic island weddings and lavish 5 star affairs. The "wedding industry" is promoting all this commercialism. Young couples are being coaxed into spending tons of money on these glitterama affairs. They should save their money to buy a house with a smaller mortgage.

Answer 6

I love the tradition of a beautiful wedding dress, the walk up the aisle, saying "I do", flowers, a sit-down dinner, a beautiful setting (either an elegant room or a pretty outdoor space), lots of dancing, heartwarming and funny toasts, cutting the cake, having the bride and groom kiss, first dance, bride/father and mother/son dances. I even like the Hokey-Pokey and the Chicken Dance!

Answer 7

I'd like the tradition of the "something old, something new..."etc, that's a nice tradition and gets other people involved in the wedding in a nice way (like borrowing something from your future mother in law) but I hate that people are still so old fashioned that they think only virgins can wear white, get off your soap boxes people, wearing white had nothing to do with being a virgin til the churches decided it did. A girl has a right to marry in whatever colour she likes, and the question of whether she is a virgin or not is something private to each person, and not something to be displayed like a trophy. It has nothing to do with the guests attending the wedding, they are meant to be friends and family and the last people on Earth you would expect to judge you on your wedding day.

Answer 8

I would like to see the wedding tradition of KEEPING VOWS
To love and to cherish as long as you both shall live!!!!

It seems to me that many people today are entering into marriage with the idea that there is a back door. Just in case it doesn't work out or he stops loving me, we could aloways devorce. If both people enter marriage for life, then it works. Both people are committed to keeping the love, staying faithful, and communicating because they have to DEAL with whatever stupid things they do/say and it's results for the rest of their LIFE long marriage.

When I got married it was for LIFE!!! Lets rekindle that tradition!!

I also would like to see the pure marriage symbols being used correctly like the white dress and veil.

Answer 9

I'd love to see brides bring back the departure outfit and grand exit in a special mode of transportation, be it a vintage automobile or fire engine. So often the bride and groom just wait around for everyone to leave and then go up to their room.

I'd also like more people to respect the traidition of only the bride wearing white, cream, eggshell, ecru, or any variation of the above to a wedding. Guests in white dresses are inconsiderate and tacky.

Answer 10

I hate the strapless wedding gown that has been worn at every wedding I've been to for the last 5 to 10 years. Every bride looks the exact same. Dresses used to be very elegant, classy and actually fit. I miss it.