my friends dont want me to have sex?

Question

they think i will regret it. and dont really love my boyfriend enough. i am only 15... but i mean...there are actually guys who care about you to the point where its just amazing.
the guy im with trusts me ,i trust him as well.and i know this sounds stupid but we know we wont leave eachother for a very very long time.we've been discussing this for a while too. he isnt really like other guys. i dont know how to explain it. maybe some of you girls know a guy like that. but anyways...they dont know what goes on through my head, because if they did they would see that im ready and that i love him so so much. i just cant tell them how much i do because i will sound "cheesy" to them.
i mean isnt it my descision? but i think what if they are right.
but at this moment i know im ready.
they tell me they will "tell my mom..." if i do. i didnt mean to share it with them. they asked me if i have. and im not a good liar.and i had to swear to them i didnt. goodness.
ha.

what should i do?

and yes. i do have dirt on them.
a pretty good deal of dirt...

Answer 1

Well first off it doesn't matter if you "have dirt on your friends." The last thing you want to do is burn the bridges of your friends. They are only looking out for you b/c they love you and care about you, probably more than this guy, which trust me, he's only thinkin about getting a piece of @$$. Trust me, guys are dogs and all they care about is one thing; sex. He will tell you anything and everything to convince you that he's doing it b/c he loves you. Don't be so naive. You are still young. You need to be more focused on building a solid future for yourself. Not getting knocked up and dropping out of school. I know you're going to do whatever you want to do. But you are not going to hurt anything if you decide to wait. If this guy truly cares about you, he will respect your decision! And if he doesn't accept the fact that you want to remain a virgin, then you know for a fact, he was only in it for the nookie.

Answer 2

First of all, by admitting that you have dirt on them...plenty of dirt it shows me that you are not ready to be sexually involved with a boy. Yes, I said a boy. Take it from a man that had many girlfriends when I was in school. Boys will say anything to get you into bed......Anything!!!. I'm certain that you do care for him. If he truly does care for you he will wait until you are much older. If he says he understands and that he'll never leave you.....Trust me.....he has no way of knowing that. It's amazing what BOYS will say in order be seen as a big man in front of his freinds. He'll tell you that nothing will change the way he feels for you. Not true!! At your age....I'm sorry to say....other girls will come his way. This is a guarentee!! there's high school, college and the world. I was so in love at a young age that I swore I would never love another.....I did and I have. Love is not only about sex. There is a poem about what love is....read it. No where does it say that true love means having sex. I know this may sound harsh to you but, I'll give you another gaurantee.....you'll regret giving something so precious as your virginity to a boy that will leave you. If he truly does love you he'll respect you and do what boys do by himself and wait until he can afford an engagement ring, a home and a family because even condoms are not certain. Check out a book from your liberary on STD's it may help you with your decision.
Good luck and GOD Bless.

Answer 3

You don't know what love really is at your age, what you feel is infatuation. You'll understand down the road when you've gained some maturity...that's not to say what you are feeling isn't strong and cannot be hurtful, but many kids think they'll be with their boyfriend or girlfriend "forever" at your age and that's rarely the case...

Re: sex...

Sex not occur before:
1. You are ready to deal with a pregnancy, should it occur
2. You are ready to deal with an STD, should it occur
3. When you know how a woman can become pregnant (all the ways it can occur)
4. When you know what the various STDs are and how they are transmitted and how to help protect against them
5. When you are ready to insist your partner wear a condom (female) or insist that you wear one (male)
6. When you are on a reliable form of birth control and using it properly (female) or ensure that she is (male)
7. When you are ready to deal with any emotional issues that may come from being intimate with another person.

Until you've got those things covered, you should not have sex.

Answer 4

1. All guys are the same that way.
2. Your relationship will not outlast your Senior year, if that.
3. You cannot regain your virginity
4. You cannot be a good girl and a sluut, you must choose one ONLY.
5. Misery loves company -- girls who disrespect themselves want you to do the same so it doesn't seem so bad.
6. Anyone who says, "Follow your heart" is either a fool or a child.
7. Men chase sluuts all the time, they just don't marry them, usually.
8. Respect yourself -- The greatest gift you can give a man is your virginity so why not give it to your future husband on your wedding day?
9. Pleeease choose wisely, YOU CANNOT GO BACK!

Answer 5

You have your whole life ahead of you and plenty of time to have sex.If you're only 15...plenty of more loves. Why throw something so special away? Wait, it's NOT worth it. It also sounds like you are losing some friends because you are spending too much time with this guy. They don't want you to do it because they don't want to see you get hurt. ..there are some true friends! If you go against what the advice they are trying to help you with and you get hurt...they won't be there. They are actually the ones to listen to. Good luck:)

Answer 6

It's illegal to have sex under the age of 16
but that isn't really the issue. Unless it's ok if you get pregnant you shouldn't have sex anyway regardless of what age you are, even with protection. Have sex when you want a child. Not before. If your boyfriend really cares for you he will wait until it's right. hope this helps

Answer 7

listen to your friends...they're the ones that will be there for you in the end.

what would happen if you got pregnant at 15....if you kept the child you would likely have to put it up for adoption which is one of the hardest things to do. or you would keep it which means you would drop out of school and have to find work....then you would grow up with no schooling and your child wouldn't have as good of a life as he/she could. if you got an abortion you would have it on your conscience for your whole life and you'd always wonder...what if?

what about if you got like an std or something...after this boy was gone who would want to date someone with an std?

if this boy really loves you and you reallly love him, then why the rush? why don't you wait until you're really ready...because you aren't right now.

Answer 8

yes its youre decision and your body but you got some pretty good friends to be telling you that you probably will mostly regret it, you say you and your boyfriend wont be leaving each other for a long time, which means you will eventually break up, just not now or next week or next year.

if you really do love each other then you will wait, love is not an excuse to have sex

Answer 9

Well, um, I am with them but not for the reason that you might not love him, but for the very reason that are you ready if something goes wrong? Are you able to own up if something happens and you get pregnant?

Just think over every possible situation that could go wrong, and arm yourself with knowledge and then make a choice.

Answer 10

I didn't need to read more then you are 15 NO your friend is right what till your older or at least collage just not now way to young. You could go to the prom and have a kid already think about that