My new Boyfriends EX keyed my car. I hate DRAMA and I refuse to fight with another girl over a guy. My friends think he's great and say its not HIS fault that SHE keyed my car. I feel like im in a relationship with HIM, therefore it is his fault. I really like him but I think KEYing my car is the start of a long drama filled relationship! He's great in everyway but his Ex/Baby Mama is full of Drama. This is a new relationship so I feel like I have to decide now whether or not to keep him or get rid of him. Don't know what to do?? Am I being Unfair to him by blaming him for something someone else has done?
2007-08-07 09:46:05 · 21 answers · asked by HONEY 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not your fault this psycho girl keyed your car...but it's not fair to entirely blame the situation on him. He can't really control what someone else does with their time, but your boyfriend should have at least told her to stay away from you and to leave your personal belongings alone. What relationship you and him have, is NONE of her business, just because they had a child together.
I would suggest that you talk to your boyfriend about her actions and see what he plans to do about it. Realize that since they do have a past and a child together, that you'll never "get rid of her", but maybe he can talk to her about being civil with you or at least leaving you alone, because its' not your fault that they didn't work out, so she shouldn't be taking her anger out on you or anything of yours.
I would also recommend that you file a report to the police about it, to teach her a lesson. Baby-Mama or not, it's not fair, legal or just to wreck someone else's property.
2007-08-07 09:53:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not really fair to blame him, but I would dump him.
Whatever issues his ex has she has them with you. By keying your car she is trying to get you to leave him, he has a choice get her to stop or have every girl he ever goes out with dump him over this girl.
life is too short. Before you know it you are on Maury or Jerry Springer ducking chairs being thrown at your head. If she wants him that bad let her have him. There are more than enough fish in the sea. And a perfect guy who has that much Baby Mama drama is not perfect.
2007-08-07 16:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by The Teacher 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you already answered you own question in the last sentence. "Unfair blaming him for something SOMEONE ELSE has done. You need to take it up with her. You wouldn't be fighting her over him, you would be fighting her because SHE damaged your car. You don't like drama, but guess what? Life is full of drama, get used to it.
2007-08-07 16:55:57 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stay with him will the drama ever end with his ex? Probably not. You shouldn't blame him for it, but you shouldn't have to stand around and put up with it either.
Find someone who has less drama in their life, so you can relax and enjoy a relationship.
2007-08-07 16:50:58 · answer #4 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With the sweets comes the bitter.
Decide if a relationship with him is worth all the drama that's coming your way. She's already keyed your car who knows what she'll do next...
2007-08-07 16:50:22 · answer #5 · answered by Bunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, I don't know about whether its his fault or not, but instead of wasting your time trying to get him to stop her, you need to get the authorities involved. Keying someone's car isn't drama, its vandalism and illegal. Press charges, get a restraining order, and let her know that if she does anything else to you that you don't deserve, you'll take appropriate action
2007-08-07 16:50:22 · answer #6 · answered by Megan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not his fault that she is a psycho, but it is his fault if he doesn't try to convince her to back off. I hope that you reported this incident, or she may try to do worse next time.
If this is a new relationship, and you aren't attached just yet, I would get out.. He has unresolved issues with this lady that he needs to sort out before beginning a new relationship.
2007-08-07 16:52:31 · answer #7 · answered by Chelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not blame him but I personally would just get out NOW! I agree with you it sounds like a whole lot of DRAMA to me and with a child involved she will be around for a LONG time -- best of luck to you!
2007-08-07 16:50:05 · answer #8 · answered by sunrise 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
okay yeah that is true drama is not hot! not great! but whatever is not his fault but it is his ex is fault! i knwo you like him and all but maybe his ex is probably not over him and who know if he is??? she just key your car i would of call the cop and get her arestted for doing that i know you dont liek drama but hey your dating her ex and she probably going to keep doing bad stuff till you leave her boy alone! but maybe you just need to talk it over wiht him and tell him you dont want any problems....
2007-08-07 16:52:37 · answer #9 · answered by chick41 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. NO, he's not responsible for keying your car, she is. How the heck do you think he could've prevented it? Get real girlie.
2. If he's got too much baggage for you, then walk away. It's that easy...but don't blame him for behaviors of other people.
2007-08-07 16:49:48 · answer #10 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋