My five year old daughter has found....well, herself. I've always planned on raising her to be sexually healthy, and read all the books about talking about anatomy correctly, (not calling it your TeeTee or NuNu or anything like that)..... and I know, that in theory, that means that I should not put negative connotation on her self exploration. I do not, however know how to start the conversation. I was prepared for a little bit older than this... has any one addressed this with your child? what worked? I'm more worried about the WHY questions that will come from it than anything.
2007-08-07 09:28:04 · 15 answers · asked by Heather G 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She is perfectly normal... My 5 year old has "discovered herself as well! she doesn't see it as a sexual thing, so you don't have to worry about having a full blown "sex talk" yet, just keep it simple.
I do not discourage it, but i do tell her that it is something that she does in the privacy of her bedroom and not in public so that she understands that it is by no means a bad thing and that this is a special part of the body that is just for her, and touching should be done at home. It would also be appropriate to add that no one else should ever touch it, except a doctor or a parent who is bathing them.
Hope I helped.... :)
and please ignore the people who are trying to tell you that she has been molested there is absolutely no correlation between innocent exploration and sexual abuse!!!
2007-08-07 11:07:41 · answer #1 · answered by missneato 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal at her age. You do not have to get into the whole discussion now. The next time you see her doing this, if you are in the room alone with her, quietly say her name and in a matter of fact voice and pleasant tone say 'touching yourself in your private area - your vulva - is a private activity. you may go to your bedroom or to the bathroom to do that - not in other places.' If someone else is in the room, then ask your daughter to come with you to another room and explain it to her. She may need an occasional reminder, but do it gently and she will learn.
There are some great books, like What's the Big Secret by Marc Brown that can help you with talking to her when you are both ready.
2007-08-07 09:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
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My five year old daughter has found....well, herself. I've always planned on raising her to be sexually healthy, and read all the books about talking about anatomy correctly, (not calling it your TeeTee or NuNu or anything like that)..... and I know, that in theory, that means that I should not...
2015-08-16 09:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, five is not young at all...in fact, most children go through this stage starting at about three years old. I taught at a day care for many years, have children of my own, and have taken many many classes in the development of children. Like others have said, this is a completely natural stage to be going through...an exploratory stage. The child finds something that feels good and does it. You are correct in teaching your child with actual terms...that does take away some of the taboo that sometimes comes with these sort of conversations. My advice would be to take her and just let her know that that is something that shouldn't be done in public...if she's going to do it it needs to be done inside the home. She will grow out of it...and sooner than you think. :)
2007-08-07 10:32:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-26 14:31:13 · answer #5 · answered by copper 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with LG, do NOT shame her about this. Infants and toddlers learn early on that the genitalia are more sensitive than other areas. Self exploration is just fine. Just be as honest and as level headed about the WHY questions as you have been so far. There will come a time where you should initate a conversation about sexuality just as if you were discussing anything else. You'll do fine.
2007-08-07 09:38:31 · answer #6 · answered by Jay 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-11 01:10:06 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok...although to some people this will sound like something weird and "wrong" but honestly I don't think it is. I "found" myself at a very young age and it didn't cause me any problems. You don't want her to think it is a negative thing. My mom never said anything to me about it (I don't' know if she knew). I was not a promiscuous teen or anything like that. I really don't know if you should say anything at all.
******** I just read the answer above me and if you do say anything I agree with what they are saying. Good luck!
2007-08-07 09:40:57 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. Just when you see her rubbing on herself or rocking on a chair arm, ask her gently and not judgementally to go to her room to do that.
Tell her it is perfectly normal, but there is a special place to DO that, just like eating only at the table or peeing only in the bathroom. Tell her it is private- not bad or evil.
Don't be worried. Just be honest. If you don't know, say so, and find out.
2007-08-07 09:39:34 · answer #9 · answered by Lottie W 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I remember being "caught" when I was around 5 or 6. I didn't know it was wrong then, but my parents made me feel ashamed. I don't really remember what they said, but I know I felt and sometimes still feel guilty after I'm done.
So whatever you say to her, just make sure you don't make her feel ashamed. It's a horrible mind fukc to give yourself healthy pleasure and always feeling like you're "bad" for doing so.
2007-08-07 09:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋